Hey guys

Hello, and welcome!
Best of luck to you on beating these habits! ♥

 

Welcome! You can do this! I hope you keep coming back.

 

Welcome to NoFap where you are amongst friends who are here to encourage you and sometimes challenge you but not judge you.

The enemy is here to steal, kill and destroy. What are your current strategies for combating the enemy called PMO?

 

Question: what or who is going to control the amount of time to the limits you have stated?

Check out In Case You Didn't Know for strategies and tips which may help you along your journey.

 

Brother what does your name represent?

 

I mean this is the obvious answer of what your name is implying.

What does you choosing to refer to yourself in terms of your fetish mean though?

You do realize we are not our fetish right?

 

My friend,

If it helps I think that fetishes are something which our brain develops in order to keep that dopamine injection feeling as good as it did when we first discovered porn.
Think of it in terms of any addiction, at first we need just a little bit, but as time goes by we need more and more to get that same high we're seeking.

Unlike a dealer, who needs more money so you can get a fix, our brains need novelty. I found porn early in life and so for me I was heavily into femdom too around 16-17.
I liked the novelty, I liked the different scenarios - Its fantasy gone wild.
However I tried to cut back heavily and succeeded to a point. I am not perfect and I have relapsed, the good news I want to share is that for me the strong hold that fetishes had over me really was lessened a huge amount. Porn is still a problem, very much so, but I can say that fetish porn is no longer the issue - I have enough trouble now with real vanilla stuff!

So my advice to you is try to cut back, use the support here, get accountable and try also to gear up your mind - because for me that has been the biggest obstacle, I am not going to list my fetishes because that could be a trigger for you however I know the stuff that you have seen and my imagination has a lot of material to work with. Try to not give it any more and go one day at a time.

Big love You can do it!

 

Hey @KisslessVirginCuckoldToilet ,

I'm just a normal ordinary member. No moderator super powers and no special insite. I share my ESH (Experience, Strength and Hope) of what works for me.

Just another warm welcome and a heart felt hello. This community has helped me so much.

What worked for me was "working" it. It took hard work for me to complete a hard reboot (No pmo) for 120 days, then move into a Sex Positive mode.

First, reading the literature published by NoFap itself along with reading journals.

Then, doing the work. Writing in my journal and replying to introductions and other's journals.

Finally, but not least, getting involved with the fellowship. I found it on the forums, but also in people's profiles. The forums tend to be longer posts, where the profiles tend to be more "conversational".

That is what has worked for me. I like to remind myself that this community was here waiting for me with the lights on when I arrived. Now, I have to do my best to be there when someone comes to the community.

- L

 

For me NoFap is half program and half fellowship. Click on these people and post a "hello" on their profiles:

@2525
@weddingnails
@PatrickR
@Beamer
@Arohamystic
@MLMVSS
@Rising Sun !!
@Ready to be healthy
@icandoit
@Brahmacharin
@Struggle Bug
@tet2vd
@Satchi
@BigDawg913
@zakes
@SaapKaBaap
@LilD
@kropo82
@DavidGibson
@reystronaut

 

Bro, I can't prove it to you without taking some pretty awkward photographs and anyways I'd have to look at some vanilla porn! But please dude, don't give in, I was in a very similar place. I only used fetish porn, it was always based around humiliation - heck it got to the point where I would have to do some stuff in public just to enjoy it and then feel so ashamed afterwards. But if you can set yourself some small goals, don't do too much at once, and above all else be kind to yourself. You are 20 years old and you have a great life ahead of you, if you were to cut back for a year or two and only then abstain completely for 1 month you'd have improved your self esteem by miles and you'd still be just 22. You can do this bro.

 

Yo bro ! Im kinda new to this too . May all of us excell to be a great fapstronaut !!

 

Welcome to Nofap.

 

I know I’m two years late, but I’m 18, and I’m going thru exactly what you have with every fetish just as strong. I was hoping to know what happened? And wether or not it worked because I’m worried it won’t for me right now.

 

Hey there,
Wellcome to the community. I hope the best for ya.
Cheers