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Here to tell my story and I hope it helps someone

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by IBMB777, Feb 20, 2019.

  1. IBMB777

    IBMB777 New Fapstronaut

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    Hello everyone. It is my first day as an active member of the community, but I've been lurking on the boards for maybe about 8 months now.
    The fact of the matter is that I am just about cured of all my issues that came about because of porn use, and I'm hoping my story will let others know that there is light at the end of the tunnel.

    My pornography use first began when I was about 14 years old (being 31 now). I went through a few stints in my life with porn use, the final one being the most intense due to the high speed internet and high definition.
    When I was 9 I experimented with a boy. I wasnt attracted to him, I never looked at him in any particular way outside of just being my friend. One day we were hanging out and well stuff just happened. I thought about it every single day for years at least once. Any memory of anything would lead to "oh yeah remember when you did this?", meanwhile I hadn't seen him in years because he moved. I always had a fear that he would tell someone, but it was my OCD bringing it into my mind every day.
    As my pornography use started, I would always escalate in the same order:
    Straight porn, anal porn, DP and then gay porn. in my teens I was most definitely bi sexual. I was attracted to both men and women probably about 50/50. But I also had very low self esteem due to bullying in my household, so I never had any sexual relations with anyone. Any time someone liked me I couldn't understand why.
    When I was 16 I got a girlfriend, and when we messed around I wasn't really into it the first few times, but after awhile my body started to react the way I wanted it to. As we dated I abstained from PM because I didnt need to. After we split a few years later, i picked the habit up again and started PMO again. I was with one girl in my early 20s and I couldn't really get it up. Granted i wasn't really attracted to her, but still. Later in my 20s I hit a very low spot in my life and I would PMO every day before bed.
    One day i realized I spent 2 hours looking for that perfect video, and decided enough was enough. I could barely get it up without porn. I noticed over the next few months I felt terrible, but didn't understand the correlation. Homosexual thoughts entered my brain at all times of the day. Now I had another girlfriend and they would flood my brain while we were trying to be intimate. it made me anxious. it made me anxious because I wasn't trying to think about them they would just pop up anyway.
    Something happened to me over the summer that threw me into a deep depression (unrelated) and it made all my symptoms worse. I started to freak out because my girlfriend was annoying me, I wasnt enjoying having sex with her and couldn't stop thinking about homosexual porn.
    it escalated to the point where I was ready to come out of the closet. I was laying in bed thinking about who I would be with, and a random guy I hadn't seen in years popped into my head. All of a sudden I was obsessed. i couldn't stop thinking about him, meanwhile I didnt even remember his name or what he looked like. Not to mention the amount of times I MO to his sisters was uncountable.
    I went to a psychiatrist. She diagnosed me with depression very quickly and put me on an anti depressant. She also believes that i have had depression my entire life. Within a few weeks my symptoms started to dissipate. I'm at the point now where the only thing that turns me on is my girl. In fact if I try to MO on my own, my body doesnt even react. Every now and then thoughts pop into my head but I dont dwell on them.
    Now for me my HOCD may be a little different. The fact of the matter is that it opened my eyes to my bi sexuality. my fear of being gay was stemming from my girlfriend. I love her very much and thought I couldn't be with her anymore because I was obsessing that I was gay. Now I have a very healthy, clear headed sex life. Every now and then i like to pop into these forums and read all of your stories, and I hope my story will help some of you get through your struggle
     
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