Help, I'm having a bad day

Hey man,

I feel ya, I myself turned to porn to de-stress. It is a horrible but efficient way to blip out and feel nothing or fake positive.

Any number of cliches will be offered to you. Like "remember what you are doing this for!" or "don't give in, you got this!"

While this is heartfelt and supportive. It probably will not give most the motivation to get out of a time of dark struggle and lack of willpower.

Ill ask you,
Do you want it that bad?
What at this precise moment is encouraging you to consume. What are you running from?
Define that feeling, do not let it be ambiguous, put it into solid terms. maybe write it in a journal. "I am running from feeling..."
and come back and maybe message me what it is you are running from. maybe there is a problem here above porn.
I would be glad to give advice

Think of yourself in 10 years, who is it you want to look in the mirror and see? Is the suffering from not consuming porn worth being that person?
How about the suffering porn will put you through, is it worth delaying you becoming that man?

You got this man, you are a BA person for trying to improve yourself, and I am, and almost all of us are here to support!

Keep coming back when you struggle!

 

It's hard to give yourself the approval you need in order to not need it from others.

Please don't fall into the hole of
"i should be fine on my own"

While this thinking is rooted in positive affirmations, everyone needs a social support system. Everyone is human and living in a world of social chaos.
You may not like your support system you have, you may not even consider yourself to have one. But even family, with how flawed they can be, can help you feel accepted.

The more positive you feel, the better the outlook on life, the more people will be drawn to you, and by extension, the better and more accepted you will feel. and then for a lot of people, many issues, like porn addiction, will take a backseat and your life will be full and more peaceful feeling.

They did a study showing that gratitude journals were possibly more effective than anti-depressants.

you don't even have to write it down, just before you go to bed, and when you wake up, list all the things you are grateful for. out loud
say
"I'm happy for my car, I'm happy for the colors in the world, I'm happy for my favorite Tv show, I am happy for etc. etc. etc."
This will do wonders on your mentality if you do it diligently for a couple days. your brain is probably not used to that kind of positivity.
when you need a pick-me-up, make another list, out loud, if in public, mentally, or maybe write it down.

 

To further add to the effectiveness about gratitude, I would say that gratitude for the self can be especially helpful when practiced consistently. What do you appreciate about yourself today? What attributes of your character, large or small, were on display today that you can approve of?

Self-loathing is one of the slippery slopes of virtually all forms of addiction, so specific appreciations of oneself can do wonders. "I appreciate that I'm hard working/accountable/professional. I did a good job at work today." That kind of thing.

And if you DO write them down, even if you just do a two or three a day in a week you have a list of wonderful, specific things about yourself to refer to if you feel down on yourself.

I'm just starting with this myself, and finding it very supportive thus far. Good luck to you.

 

I just woke up, and I'm actually still in bed, but I'm on day 5 now and I'm feeling strong urges. I can't go on my 6k walk as it's forecast to rain all day. I've never made it past one of these days, so I'm hoping to survive just for that achievement

 

Time to sacrifice a bit for your sobriety - get out buy an umbrella!

 

You might want to consider learning how to meditate

 

Lot of good advice here. I used PMO to cope with unpleasantness like stress and anger, lonliness, depression, etc.. It wasn't until i started dealing with those things directly that i made any real progress. Now when i'm anxious I meditate. When I'm angry i pray. This addiction is a cycle. It both causes anger and isolation and becomes the way in which we deal with anger and isolation.
Good luck!!

 

I'm having damn hard days this week. It's being very hard. The day before yesterday I just gave up as if it wasn't even important to stay away from pmo. But this is a fight for everyday! Make decisions while you can make them easily. Go stay near another people, get a situation in which you can't fall into temptation. Even if this is a little hard, priority is to stay clear.

Anf if your mind is lost in it, meditate

 

I've only been on the site for a week or so but I have noticed a lot of issues with anxiety and depression.

PMO can be used as coping mechanisms to deal with these issues. If you are masturbating to the point of physical soreness I believe there is most likely an underlying reason for such behavior. PMO is a form of escapism.

There are multiple ways to deal with anxiety and depression outside of PMO but some involve opening up to other people about issues in your life.

Other avenues include meditation, yoga, exercise, volunteer groups, etc. Think outside the box.