Hello everyone I am really struggling here!

Yes I do think about it a lot, and have thought about it a lot. I'm happy for you to decide whether you've always "done it wrong", and I'll decide for myself!

Otherwise all we can do as members of this community is try to support @candarraus.

 

Yes, okay - kink.

You know better than any of us what you need in your relationship. I'm not suggesting you entertain the idea. I'm sorry if my contributions have been at all unhelpful. I completely support you and agree he needs to give up PMO.

 

Yes, it makes total sense.

 

I see what you're saying for sure! What his therapist meant was sex isn't a need the way air, food, and water are. We won't die without it. It's true. Some people cannot physically have sex due to disabilities. I've known them. They survive and even have satisfying, loving relationships. They connect intimately with their partners in other ways. However, I definitely rank sex as a very strong desire for me personally in my relationship.

 

@candarraus If your husband needs an accountability partner, I'm here. I struggle with an awful foot fetish addiction. But know this. He will only get better unless he wants to get better. I went 25 days and voluntarily went back because I scared that nothing was going to get me off like feet. See the problem with a foot fetish is that we know it's wrong, and for some damn reason it feels so damn good to partake in something so carnal. Before my foot fetish was femdom. Eversince I was 3 I dreamt of femdom, for 7 years I beat my meat to femdom, developed a foot fetish. Last year I went 9 months without porn or masturbation. I lost all my femdom interest even the one I struggled with the most... forced femminization. AKA sissy porn. I no longer have the desire for sissy, but my foot fetish craving is still here. It's like they switched place. All i want to do is bury my nose deep in some womans soles and breathe deepily has I take in her foot sweat and lick her oily ass feet. But I want to get better. It all starts with him. He has to learn to love first, not lust. Let his mind control his will not his body.