Its possible. I just got off the phone with him. I was honest with him and he was honest with me. He was upset that I found it and of course angry that he now had to defend something that he wrote that I was never meant to see. Which I totally understand. I equivocate it to someone finding your diary when your a teenager. Basically it all boils down to the fact that it's not that he doesn't feel that he loves me every single day it's more pertaining to sexual desire which I just have to kind expect as part of the recovery where are you re- programming your brain to not look at women objectively. I told him that I wasn't expecting him to defend himself but I needed a little reassurance and he did provide it to me. I can tell he was taken off guard... understandably. And I'm sure he's feeling angry about it and violated. Also understandable. But I had to be honest and tell him what I saw or it wouldn't be right for me to expect his full disclosure. It wasnt an easy conversation by any means. Still, I think it's best that i leave the site and allow him to speak freely. The temptation for me to go to his page will be too great, and it was honestly silly of me to think this wouldn't happen eventually. I have way too much anxiety about it and I know myself. Eventually I'll click his name and I'm sure theres things that arent exactly positive about me... I'm human and imperfect after all...and I would feel better not knowing. I will miss being able to read up on other SO's experiences and feel that sense of community.. but I just feel this will do more harm than good.