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He is flatlining/ED

Discussion in 'Partner Support' started by Deleted Account, Sep 26, 2018.

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  1. Sep 26, 2018 #1
    Deleted Account

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    My SO is going through a flatline after 7 months P free. This is the first time it’s happened since we’ve been together. He can’t maintain an erection during sex unless he is looking at our genitals. The minute he is in missionary position and looking at my face, it goes soft. I am glad on one hand because we had a really good, open conversation about it and it kind of confirms that he is definitely PMO free... but I still feel rejected and lonely. I keep wondering if we are ever going to be able to share a deeper connection during sex, or am I going to have to behave like a porn star to keep him interested :( Feeling low...

    Is this normal after so many months of recovery?
     
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  2. Sep 27, 2018 #2
    Jennica

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    When my hubby flatlined I did my best to be positive, I didn’t push or ask for sex but we spent more time just cuddling and being together (even in the nude) without any thoughts for sex. The hardest for me while he’s in flatline was the apathy he felt. That was even harder to deal with and we had a few conversations about it. It lasted what felt like forever but in reality it was only a few weeks. The one thing we kept telling each other is the flatline means he was doing it right. When it’s over it’s worth it.

    It’s definitely a positive sign of the transformation that’s happening.
     
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  3. Sep 28, 2018 #3
    Trappist

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    My SO in the beginning started to use words
    a P actor would use thinking that would be helpful.
    Out of character and I suggested something like,
    be herself and comfortable, and I’ll do my best
    to come back to her.

    I had/have PIED; relenting.
    At almost 10 months myself.

    I do have to remind myself to be
    less goal oriented and
    in the moment with her.
    Usually give her a lotion massage, too,
    which SO appreciates.
     
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