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Having sex while rebooting ?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Raptor Jesus, May 2, 2017.

  1. samnf1990

    samnf1990 Fapstronaut

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    For me it was important to continue my sex-life with my wife. It was the fapping that I wanted to remove from my life, not the pleasure of meaningful and healthy sexual intimacy. I did not want to think of sex with my wife simply as a 'release' and part of my PMO problem. Desiring and being intimate with my wife is not part of any problem, it is the positive side of my sexuality and sexual urges.
     
  2. Hopefulgirl

    Hopefulgirl Fapstronaut

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    Exactly!!!! Having meaningful sex with your wife will change your neural patterns and arousal to be about her, not porn. Just make sure you don't fantasize about others! Stay with her mentally and focus on her.
     
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  3. WreckTangle

    WreckTangle Fapstronaut

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    Yes, this has been my journey too. Healthy sex is a very good thing, nothing like internet PMO.
     
  4. scorchio101

    scorchio101 Fapstronaut

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    QUOTE "Is it ok to have sex with my girlfriend while rebooting ? If not, what is the impact sex can have on your rebooting/recovery”


    Hi, great question and one I was thinking about myself as I plan to reboot but have a healthy relationship with my GF of 27 (I am 41). We have sex about 1-2 times per week and a “hard” reboot would interfere with this.

    However, I remember with my previous girlfriend (years ago) practising sex without experiencing my orgasm, as I was following the philosophy of TAO and was saving my strength in this way. I think if I do a hard reboot I might take this approach and have occasional sex without any ejaculation or orgasm.

    Yes this does require a level of control that some might find difficult but actually you can get a lot of pleasure from sex without actually reaching orgasm. Also the woman in these cases will experience multiple orgasms as you just keep going so you won’t get many complaints from them.
     
  5. There are SAA phone meetings. My SO has attended then a few times.
     
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  6. RecoveringLion

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    I’m with you on this. I am married. And I want to reprogram my mind and body to desire my wife the absolute most, so my reboot is no PM, only O from my wife. This is important for us because it allows us to rebuild “normal” in a healthy way. Not saying our way is “THE WAY” but it’s what is best for us.
     

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