Having a Crush while in PMO

Okay, so a few days ago I started doing PMO (hard-mode) mode, and I've been noticing girls a lot more and I've been talking to more too. I haven't had a crush since I started watching porn and masturbating. But now I am crushing HARD on a girl. But we haven't talked in about 6 years though... I know people (other girls) who are friends with her. And I don't know if I should ask them for help or not to start talking to her again. We didn't leave on bad terms or anything, we just had different teachers (in elementary school, we're in middle school now) so it was impossible to even talk. So I need major help and major advice. When I was an addict to P&M, I thought she could be out of my league. But when I started PMO, I've started to think that I might have a chance, but I just don't know how to start talking to her. Whenever I get a crush, I get all bubbled up emotionally and don't talk to them. So, what should I do to start talking to her? I need major advice and I don't wanna let her go because of my fears of rejection or the conversation going wrong.

 

Thanks for the advice

 

"Hi. Haven't seen you in awhile. How have you been?"

Stop making this shit hard bro. It's a girl. Be polite, be a gentleman and conversate.

 

I try to not make it hard, but I can't just make it easy on myself. I've fucked up so many times with girls I don't know if just social anxiety kicking in or if it's just if it's just that I can't make conversation or go up to my crush. My last crush, I talked to her about 5 times. 5 TIMES! If I get a crush on a girl, I won't talk to them. I can't-do that. I can't just go up and say "Hi. Haven't seen you in a while". I have to think of alternatives THEN go up to her. But, then I get all scared and anxious and I DON'T DO IT. It's not as easy as it seems for me. I don't have that charisma. So, I can't-do that and just go up to her and make conversation. I'll just get scared and not do it. I'm sorry if I lashed out at you, but it's not easy for me.

 

Try to get her out of your head. All the thinking and anticipation is what causes you to get panicked when you see her. Remember "out of sight out of mind". Hope this helps.

 

You're thinking too much. That's why you say "Hi. Haven't seen you in awhile What have you been up to?"Let her talk most of the time. Ask questions. Women love it when a guy asks questions and is interested in what they say. Letting her do most of the talking allows you to collect your thoughts and calm down. Just be cool. Like James Bond.

 

OK, I'll try that. you're right about how I overthink. That's just me I guess.

 

Bro I used to do the same shit. Getting all tensed up and worried about talking to people. Just gotta learn to relax and "get outta your own head as Righthsndman says.

 

I'll try that

 

So what all of are saying, just forget that I have a crush on her, talk to her like normally like I do with other girls, play it cool, and get out of my own head?

 

Yep.

 

OK. I'm gonna try that. Hell, might start talking to her today maybe via Snapchat (we follow each other on there). Thank you all for the advice. I'll try to put it together and talk to her!

 

Update: So today, I have done it! I have "talked" to my crush! I Snapchatted her "Hey, haven't talked in a while. How's Life?". I feel really confident now. It wasn't a long conversation. But it's a start. I made it a lot harder than what it should have been. I got her out of my head, was laid back, and polite. So to everyone that contributed, thank you so much! Does anyone have any other advice to further this and so we can talk more?

 

How did the conversation go? Did she seem excited to hear from you? Did she leave the door open for you to contact her again? If so, then I'd say contact her again and see if she wants to hang out.

 

I think it went well. It was a short but subtle conversation. I ended the conversation. But I don’t know her exact emotions. It was via Snapchat so I don’t know. She didn’t ignore me, she replied quickly. And she I didn’t ask any questions why I decided to talk to her after about 7 years. Is that good or bad?

 

If you think it went well then you should follow up on this. It's a good sign that she responded quickly. who knows...maybe she wanted to keep chatting, and maybe she felt uncomfortable asking why you haven't talked to her in awhile. Don't overthink this. Get it off your chest so you can get on with your life. Whatever the outcome is...you'll handle it. By the way...Liverpool fan here!

 

I'll try chatting tomorrow and see if we can chat some more. Ever since I sent her that first message, I'm not overthinking it as much now. I'm much more confident in talking to her and I feel that I can talk to her more without fear. I think the real reason I was scared was that she is one of the more popular girls in my school and I'm semi-popular to scraping popular. I also just didn't want to screw up too. But, now that I got that out of the way, I can move on as you said and just talk to her normally and not have the pounding chest whenever I see her. Also, I think we can settle our differences on teams for NoFap. We are on this journey together and choice of who to support for a sport isn't a reason to not help one-another about an addiction.