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Haven't dated in 5 years

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by vet, Mar 1, 2017.

  1. Mar 1, 2017 #1
    vet

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    This is my first post here. I believe my PMO addiction has caused my total disinterest in dating. I've been like this since about 14 years old. I've had a few girlfriends. Longest being about a year.

    I'm generally lonely and medicate with drugs and alcohol. It sucks.

    I have money and am good looking. I'm just sick and tired of being lonely. So I'm going to quit PM style and try to get my sexual life together.

    I will be logging my experiences here.

    If I should post this in a different board let me know !
    EDIT: I made a Journal here:
    https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/harrisons-journal.92952/

    Thanks for reading! Shoot some positive energy my way people. Thanks again.
     
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  2. Mar 1, 2017 #2
    NoneForMeThanks

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    Vet,

    Sounds like you should take that money and those good looks, hop on the tinder, and get back on the wagon. It will be scary at first, but get through a few bad dates, build your confidence up, and you'll be good to go.

    -NONE
     
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  3. Mar 1, 2017 #3
    IggyIshness

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    I haven't dated in 14 years and a half.
     
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  4. Mar 2, 2017 #4
    snickerdoodle7

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    Good luck on your journey. I am in a similar situation to your own. I haven't dated in 5 years. I used porn to numb the loneliness. It was pathetic. I am now on day 19 and have achieved a new level of inner peace. This journey has proven that I am mentally strong enough to do anything. I have been in a rut for the past few months. No job, few friends, no girlfriend and an injury that prevented me from training the sport I love. I am now focusing on improving every facet of my life. I am on a diet. My power in the gym is increasing exponentially. My mind is sharpening. I have my ups and down every day. But I am now able to confront the downs with a level head...more importantly without self medication. I always used to compare myself to others my age. Hooking up with a bunch of girls. Partying. Seemingly enjoying life. I bought into the lie and often felt like I was missing out. Like I should be having crazy sex with a bunch of random chicks. Now I am simply working on improving myself. Sure I have my urges to fuck random girls. But then I realize that what I truly crave is a meaningful connection with a beautiful(on the inside and out) and intelligent woman that loves me for who I am. Stay the course my friend. Use your loneliness and pain as fuel. Use it to become better than everyone. Don't let life beat you. Push yourself and become something great.
     
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  5. Mar 2, 2017 #5
    Potato93

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    How old are you?

    This sentence is a little superficial. If you want a girl only to stand by your side as a trophy it's better for you to continue lonely.
    Appearance and wealth arent the things that are going to get you further in this life, I say that from personal experience. It can get you some people around here and there, but not true happiness.

    Food for thought.
     
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  6. Mar 2, 2017 #6
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    Thanks a bunch for that. I have a date scheduled for tomorrow night with a couple friends. A double date.
     
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  7. Mar 2, 2017 #7
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    I'll be 25 in 2 weeks. And yes, I know money doesn't buy happiness. That's why I'm here. I'm addicted to PMO and haven't had a healthy relationship, probably ever. I need to stop.
     
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  8. Mar 2, 2017 #8
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    This really hit home with me. " Don't let life beat you. Push yourself and become something great " - thanks for the boost today. Brought tears to my eyes reading your reply. It helps so much knowing there are other guys just like me fighting this disgusting evil addiction. Thanks again and keep up the good work buddy. I'm on day 2 and don't plan on stopping. :)
     
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  9. Mar 2, 2017 #9
    snickerdoodle7

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    Stay strong friend.
     
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  10. Mar 29, 2017 #10
    Matrix Intel

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    Psycopaths have it easy, no emotion whatsoever to get in the way of their success. Sad to say, but I look up to billionair psychopaths a lot.
     
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