Has anyone experienced unrequited love?

Have you ever wanted to tell someone you loved or admired them, but you just couldn't do it? Yet there were things that were holding you back, but you didn't knew why. Other times, you already knew, and that could be due to low self-esteem, lack of confidence, fear, rejection, etc. Furthermore, it's heartbreaking when you see them with someone else, and they don't even pay attention to you before moving on to the next guy or girl. Not only that, they never gave you the chance even though you knew they could be treated better. I've been through this phase in my life many years ago. But has anyone ever experienced this? How did you cope?

 

You do have a good point, but taking the embarrassments and rejections one too many times can also be damaging. I mean, where's the fine line between taking a risk that's worth it or having your heart broken over and over again? On the other hand, these topics are in a different category of its own. As for the regret and what ifs, I try to be a believer knowing that everything happens for a reason, but some people lose faith of this concept. Especially when something happens for a bad reason, and the fact that embarrassment and rejection are already part of a continuing cycle doesn't help. Are you supposed to feel regret or have that what if moment? Does that really happen for a reason?

Furthermore, I don't know what would have happened if I did told her the truth; I can't imagine what our lives would be like. In truth, we both rejected each other at one point, but in the end, we remained friends and she has someone that respects her at least. She has faced embarrassments and rejections like I have. I don't regret not telling her in the beginning because our friendship is now stronger. But like you said, there's always that what if moment. And honestly, it would turn out badly for the both of us, so you're right. I'd rather take the rejection and embarrassment from her because now I know.

 

I see what you're saying in the first paragraph. Most of your experiences are similar to mine. I guess it was after high school when I first started having my own rejections countless of times with multiple girls. However, I gave myself credit for trying, and thus, I realized that even though I got rejected, I knew that I was able to talk to girls more easily. I've taken pictures with girls, took them out to the mall, and so on. Even though I haven't had a girlfriend, I'm more confident in knowing I'll get one eventually as long as I focus on myself.

On the other hand, some people, like my brother, are just naturally gifted when it comes to approaching women. He can make them laugh, sooth them, and make almost any girl attracted to him. He was lucky, but for us, we had to go through it the hard way. It sucks, but that's just how things are. I think sometimes, it takes plenty of heartbreaks to either strengthen our emotional well being or to crush it. Not everyone can be toughened up like us; in fact, it might make us even more fragile.

 

Dude that's the worst; I'm sorry to hear about that. Strangely enough, I had a similar incident but it was less severe. I remember I really liked this girl once, but I was afraid to tell her. I was going through a rough heartbreak at the time and I wasn't ready. As I was with her, however, she made me feel like I was on the top of the world. There was something about her and there was instant chemistry between us. Then on Christmas, I decided to tell her the truth of how I really felt, and as it turned out, she had a boyfriend at the time. I was like what the hell? We had such great chemistry, and you choose him? Anyway, that was my story. I know how it feels man.

 

Interesting story. For me, I was never able to figure out if my crush ever liked me...at all. We were good friends back then, and we still are even though she moved to another state. We even talked about relationships, love, and so on. However, she never seemed interested in me and was always seeing other dudes only to have her heart broken over and over. The only reason why I didn't tell her the truth was because I was too afraid just like you were. Her best friend told me jokingly that my crush thought I was "weird" at first. I didn't know if she was being truthful or not, but after seeing her chase every other guy, but me, I automatically knew she didn't liked me the same way I liked her.

But for you, at least you know that she liked you. Sometimes we gotta take these life lessons and learn from it. Next time don't let anything get in your way, especially when you have feelings for someone. Even if they think you're awkward or something, it doesn't that you can't still be with them. You just have to man up and prove your worth, but you'll just never know what will happen until you try. Also, if it doesn't work out, it's not the end of the world; there's still plenty of females out there

 

I believe unrequited love comes in many shapes and sizes. Each case has its own scenario, but in yours, I think it's a little different. Sometimes when people experience unrequited love, their crush is oblivious to how you feel about them. That's how it was for me at least. I liked this girl many years ago liked I told LilD from above, and she was never aware that I liked her. She kept chasing other guys only to have her heart broken over and over. It was even worse when I finally told her the truth years later. She completely rejected the fact that I liked her for so long, but I still told her I wanted to be friends.

In your case, you just weren't ready to be in a relationship and your admirer didn't realize that. If he'd known, he wouldn't have approach you to begin with. Sometimes, people who've dealt with unrequited love never receive rejection from their crush directly, but rather indirectly. My crush had no idea that it devastated me knowing that she was always liking some other guy. She also wasn't aware that I had feelings for her because I hid it so well. And when I told her the truth of how I felt, she was in denial. Anyway, that's my whole bit on this topic.

 

It's interesting to hear about unrequited love from another person. In your case, it seems that the experience you had was much closer and more intimate. For me and the girl I really liked, we had a good friendship at one point, but we still stayed in touch through Facebook only because she moved far away to another state. I even have her cell phone number just in case I need it. However, just like in your case, we are still technically "friends" but we rarely keep in touch anymore. And I too, still have pleasant thoughts of her from time to time. Other than that, I don't think I have too many more experiences of unrequited love.