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Has anyone ever overcome their sissy fetish? Update: SOME HOPE FOR ME

Discussion in 'Compulsive Sexual Behavior' started by Burundi24, Jun 14, 2019.

  1. kriss93

    kriss93 Fapstronaut

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    We're quite in the same shoes brother....I can relate to you 100%...I often thought about what if I wouldn't watched porn ever...
     
  2. EndOfTheRoad

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    You don't have to believe it in order to be true.

    Another guy said that fetishes are "innate"....Fetishes are the exact opposite of innate. They might be developed very early on but they are created through experiences.

    The same way they are created they can be removed; as long as you want them to be removed. The biggest obstacle to them being removed is our identification with the fetish. I am not saying that they SHOULD be removed; I'm just saying that it's possible.

    I have almost transitioned to a transwoman. I was only orgasming from anal, I had no erections, was dressing and behaving like a sissy 24/7....I am a manly man now and even if I try to think of me as a sissy it's impossible. I still have an anal fetish but that is being removed bit by bit.

    I am not just doing nofap. Nofap is just to remove the symptoms of the problem. I am doing several different therapies and within a couple of months I have understood myself more than I did in 40 years.

    When I stopped identifying with my fetishes then I started being able to choose who I am. Porn is a choice; the problem is therefore choice; and also is the solution.
     
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  3. kriss93

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    Hello @Reborn16 . Can we talk in a private conversion? :)
     
  4. Brown Boy

    Brown Boy Fapstronaut

    thanks for sharing this. its really helpful
     
  5. Stack101

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    Hey all. Haven’t been on this in a while. I had just watched some sissy P and began thinking about all this (porn/everything). I think for most of us it comes down to the Coolidge effect. I know for me (and most) we don’t actually feel sexually attracted to guys (and never were before porn) I think what we’re really getting off to is the ROLE REVERSAL. The being fucked rather than doing the fucking. It’s a totally different thing and it spikes the novelty seeking porn addicted brain in you. I ask of anybody on here not to flip out as it is simply just another way of novelty seeking for the brain. The only thing we can do is to eliminate porn all together and become more true to who we really are. I believe that we can do this by not overthinking porn. If it happens it happens. It’s only an issue if you make it one. My advice to all (and what worked well for me) don’t stress on the days, write down ur last pmo and forget about it, then when you feel an urge realize it’s pure lust and temporary and not for actual love, then tell ur self to wait for a real girl. And In the meantime focus on being who you wanna be, talk to girls/flirt, workout, all that good stuff.

    We have to understand this is not a linear escape line. More of a gradual morphing, we take out the things we don’t like and put in the things we feel benefit us, as we do that things get better. So please. Don’t stress about day counters and bull shit like that, do what works for you and become who you really are.
     
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  6. GripStrength

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    I personally think you are just flat out wrong my man. They can lose this kind of fetish, because most of them are manufactured. Even most gay guys and pedos. A lot of them could probably lose it, because it’s manufactured. At least for most sissy/fetish they are 100 percent not innate. It’s a bit harder to say that about gays and pedos, because there are some that are seemingly born that way. Everyone remembers the kid at school that came out of the womb saying “Hayy guurl!”. But I can say personally a lot of that shit is because of something that happened when young, and if the people suffering from it want to realize that, they have the chance to truly change, not just “Oh I really want to change” I mean like snap of the fingers almost and those fetishes are gone. Most gay guys and pedos don’t want to change, and it’s only hard for sissy hypno addicts to change when they want to, because their brains are still actively addicted to it. And also I hope no one took this as gay guys aren’t real :p as I know some are, and it’s obvious as anything when you see it as a kid that some males have clearly feminine energy.
     
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  7. GripStrength

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    Also take note of what you have said. You are contradicting yourself without realizing it. Saying “Most likely sexuality cannot be changed” in one line and then using the term “developed” when talking about sissy fetish. To develop a sissy fetish, doesn’t that imply that your sexuality has “changed”, developed from non-sissy sexuality, to sissy? If it can be “developed” surely it wasn’t there from the start. Every animal knows how to make babies. They don’t really “develop” into procreating mice, they just are. They call it sexual development when talking about human kids because we grow up slower, and they are more talking about physical development, not fetish’s.
     
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  8. I watched trans porn and sissy porn for about a year and liked to dress up. I quit watching it and got my head on straight and sometimes a thought or desire will come into my mind but it eventually passes.
     
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  9. Burundi24

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    So guys I wanted to give you a quick update about my current state.
    I'm currently on day 28 of my nofap journey and this is actually my longest streak of my life. I didn't fap, I didn't watch porn videos or porn pics but I have been on some dating sites which I shouldn't have visited probably.

    Anyway, I can say that this is actually the first time in my life that I'm actually experiencing some real nofap benefits! And I am still pretty sceptical about Nofap. I have still some sissy desires but they definetly decreased and even though I'm pretty sure that sissy porn still turns me on I don't feel an extreme urge to watch it.
    And guess what guys, I had the a date with a women for the first time after quite a few years. I'm approaching more and more women when I go out and I'm feeling more confident.
    When I'm home alone and have nothing to do the sissy desires are sometimes still pretty strong but overall they became less dominant.

    And I'm starting to understand why the sissy fetish is alot more comfortable for many guys. Let's be honest, it is totally easy to get fucked as a sissy because there are quite alot men on the internet who want to experience this kind of stuff. You don't need to approach any women, you don't need to do the work while having sex. You just lay down get fucked and get desired by guys.
    Approaching real women and having decent sex with them takes alot more effort when you're not extremly good looking. You need to work on your confidence and your personality but it is definetly possible, even when you're not looking like a super model.
     
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  10. Reborn16

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    That is huge progress man, especially getting out there and dating again!

    I remember making that exact comparison between the effort of approaching and dating women VS just finding some guy online. But the reality is simply not worth it. Pretty soon the whole idea will seem foreign to you I bet.

    Greater risks get you the better rewards.

    And agreed, working on your personality, social confidence, meeting girls that suit your demographic - and then taking action will get you dates.
     
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  11. ultrafabber

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    Congrats, great progress and great post!
     
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