Had enough

So, we started "dating" again. We had a few dates, he made love to me and hasn't touched me since.
My engagement ring is gone - I've given it him back. He says he still wants to work on it. However, he spends time at the gym and is asleep when he gets home = no time together.
The truth of it is that I just can't forgive him. Preferring porn to me is one thing but the lying is what destroys me. I decided this morning, I'm worth more than this.
Looks like I'm leaving.
Thank you all for being here.

 

Thanks y'all, your responses are really kind. Thank God for sites like this because I can't talk about this outside, in the real world. And it's not just to protect my PAs dignity/privacy, oh no. I don't want people I know to think I'm the failure. Which is why I get so much comfort reading the SO's partner support forum. It's been a blessing to have contact with other women who are going through this. I mean, it's a 'specialist' subject isn't it? Eg - not bringing it up at family Xmas dinner.
I feel better than a few hours ago (love n hugs back). I've read lots of these SO threads - not the PAs threads, I'm not ready for that
Having thought about it more, I now know that forgiveness isn't enough. I thought that if I could forgive, and he sticks to this programme (he says he's 40+ days now), then we could get better. How wrong I was.
In one recent thread, one lady talks about feeling anger, independent of the PAs behaviour/abstinence because of the lying. I totally identify. However, the anger isn't porn-induced. It's lying-induced. I can't cope with the lying. Since our DDay (mid-Jan), he's been leaving himself alone completely, no PMO. And I believe him. We had real sex last weekend, no little blue pill, no going soft before penetration, no DE which means the abstinence bit worked! It doesn't stop me being angry though but it did give me hope.
Fast forward one week later and he hasn't touched me since. I think that he thinks because we had one successful sex session that we're okay. But we're not. At least, I'm not. I'm replaying our 3 years together in my mind because I see it in a new light now. He had PIED from the start but I attributed it to just ED caused by an abusive marriage. I comforted him, loved him, reassured him, was faithful to him etc. And he LET ME DO THAT!! He watched me feeling ugly, unattractive & going without sex forever rather than admit to his seedy habit. I asked him today if it was worth it? Was having a cheap thrill (or a thousand) worth our relationship? Is it worth being alone for?
Anyway, it's not just forgiveness I need to reach. I need to understand how he could disconnect so coldly, especially as he's actually a loving, sweet man. In other words, how does he separate porn and me so easily? He says it's stress relief (he doesn't consider it cheating). I asked him why he didn't do it while I was in the room and he couldn't answer. His denial astounds me.
Thank you for letting me post. I don't just get SO support & advice here. It also helps me stay sober (this is not the kind of thing to share at an AA meeting) so I've had no choice but to bottle it up. But I don't need to since I found partner support here. Anyway, I'm 7 months sober now and have you to also thank for that. Ain't the internet grand X