Greetings -- 33 y.o., married with 5 children, trying to improve myself

Hi! Welcome Also Catholic here with 5 kids. I wish you the very best in your efforts, although I have varied success myself here at times this community is very helpful if you share and engage here. I recommend totally the sacramental life as the way to peace and purity. Sending good wishes and sisterly love xx

 

My journal/s are longstanding and I have as much need of this site as any other here. I’m sorry you doubt me, but you’re not the first. Maybe our brothers here can be of more assistance.

 

The real strength of a site like this is reading the journals and posts of the other addicts (and their partners) here. Some of those will not resonate at all because the writer's attitudes to life are so far from your own, but some will really help you. I find some posts motivate me, some cause me to think, and some challenge me to be honest with myself. Giving up pornography is so hard we really do need motivation, support, and challenge.

I urge you to approach the other people respectfully. They are here to help you and to help themselves. Let us all be a positive part of each other's journey. I don't mean suffer their lies, sometimes the kindest thing is to point out someone's delusions (I've seen that done kindly here, and even then it wasn't accepted). But to question the honesty of someone who reaches out to help you here, in fact the only person who reached out, is unkind. You and I know how embarrassing it is for a man to have a problem with pornography addiction, but at least it is almost expected that men use porn so we are not stepping outside our gender's expectations. Can you imagine the additional shame associated with being a woman addicted to pornography? There are lots here so it definitely is a problem. We should help, not question their honesty.

 

Welcome...I have 6 kids, not Catholic ( yes, we exist )

This NoFap community is an excellent resource...you have to invest the time to read and research and really consider your current place regarding PMing and where you want to be.

I find reading/browsing all the New to NoFap forum thread every day is a reminder of how big of a problem this is.

If you're interested, find an Accountability Partner in that forum.

For me, the most impactful forum is the Rebooting in a Relationship forum--so many stories and difficult life battles similar to what I am going through...from the PA side and the SO side.

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How serious are you about never looking at porn again? Have you installed any porn blocking tools?

 

Well, try not to believe the worst about females on here. I'm new, but I'm sure the mods would boot anyone trying to come on to male users, in an attempt to catfish them or turn them back to the dark side . . . or whatever. And it could be six days because people relapse, and they restart their timers.

You aren't getting off on the right foot by being distrustful of others on here. This place isn't swimming with porn bots.

 

I'm sorry we have hijacked your thread to talk about the issue of believing and respecting the women here who have a pornography addiction, but I did just want to add one more data point. If you are struggling to empathise with women who share our problem this video may help. It is in interview between Noah Church (who runs Addicted to Internet Porn) and Jessica Harris. She is a Christian and was a porn addict and runs a site for women porn addicts called Beggar's Daughter. Her story is very genuine and very moving, see if it helps you understand that a statistical view of women's pornography addiction may not be the best way to think about their struggle.

 

Wow global population is increasing I see in this thread.

Anyways welcome.

 

Because this is not easy. look through the journals, you'll see lots of people who have been here a long time, but have low day counters.

Also, had to chuckle at "standard deviations". I don't think we've standardized those.

 

First of all welcome to the nofap community @H4L! As you are new to the community, I would highly recommend you to read "Your Brain On Porn" by Gary Wilson!! It will reveal the science of any addiction, be it P, smoking, alcohol, weed, gambling or even junk food & the testimonies of people who have embarked on this nofap journey ie their struggles & benefits!! I respect that you're amazed to see women on this website but they are also humans !! Anybody can get addicted to PMO or any other addictions !! & Yeah most of the people here are real sharing their genuine struggles & benefits !! Staying anonymous is a way of not exposing themselves in the real world about the struggles & addictions that we're going through.. Not everybody is cool with that !! I'm so sorry, you were exposed to hardcore P at an earlier age & were forced to go out whoring at an earlier age under senior guys' pressure.. Anyways respecting the views & opinions of all the people out here, I once again welcome you !! Goodluck & thanks for sharing !!