Got rejected by one of my biggest crushes...

Lately I’ve been trying to get over being heartbroken during the last 2 weeks. It was with one of my biggest crushes that I’ve known for over 10 years! I remember meeting her during my high school years, but for the most part, it was actually through my best friend’s younger sister. It took me almost a year to realize that I had a huge crush on her. However, I never told her the truth because I was afraid of being rejected and the fact she teased me of being a little weird. She was always into the bad boys: loud, overconfident, dominant, and all the traits of the alpha male. For me, however, I was none of that.

One thing I did know was that I really, really liked her. Our friendship wasn’t the strongest, but we had respect for each other and cared for one another. I would say that as far as female friends go, she would be the best one. So fast forward 10 years now. My best friend had a wedding 2 weeks ago, and she was invited. After not seeing her in 6 years, I finally had the courage to tell her the truth during my friend’s big day. I remember telling her how I felt, how much I liked her, and so on.

Unfortunately, I was turned down in one of my biggest rejections to date. She told me she never had feelings for me, that she was flattered that I liked her the whole time, and that we would always be friends and nothing more. But HOW could this be?!?! I knew what I did wrong from the beginning, and I realized that it was my fault the whole time. My crush had liked a lot of guys, so maybe she might have slightly liked me without me knowing.

I remember one time I told her on Christmas (out of all the holidays) that I didn’t kept her new number. I honestly thought that she was trying to reach me out of desperation or something. Only because years ago she had a chaotic meltdown and everything in her life was falling into pieces. I was there to support her through Facebook, but nothing more than that. I never wanted to be with someone at a time when they were vulnerable. It’s just a dick thing to do. But ever since I rejected her number, I tried a few times to tell her how I truly felt. And the last time, like I said, was when my best friend got married. She rejected me face to face and I still can’t believe that it happened. Even though we’re still technically friends, I realized that I was the asshole all along. I ruined my chance with one of the biggest crushes of my life…

 

Yeah I hear what you're saying. After being rejected that night, I went to my house and thought to myself for a while. Even though I didn't kept her number a few years ago, she continued to be my friend, and we never lost our friendship since. I went back to her that evening, maned up, and told her that she was still a beautiful girl and that if she ever found a guy that respected her, I hoped that he would do it to the fullest. She smiled and gave a nice warm hug.

Even though she rejected me, she still saw that I was always a really nice guy and a great person. On the other hand, you're right about my insecurities, passiveness, and so on. I think after this experience, I will begin to focus on what's really important. I do have goals in mind and dreams that I want to pursue, so getting over this embarrassment won't be too much of a problem. Besides, I've been hurt way worse and I'm glad I still have her as friend.

 

Please, I ask of you to not call her a stupid bitch. I hear where you're coming from and I'm glad that you're acknowledging my current situation. But just to let you know, she actually told me night that I was a really nice guy and a great person. She said she'll always love me like family and I was more than happy to accept that. We're still friends and that's all that matters. And yes, it's time to finally move on, and I think I'm getting to that point.

 

Yes, everything you said makes a lot of sense. I could mope about this for weeks on end. But the fact that I was willing to come back to her that night and call her a beautiful girl and a great friend, just shows my level of maturity as well. I could have called her a bitch, yelled at her, made a scene, and so on. I could have ruined the friendship at that moment if I wanted to, but I didn't. I fully accepted her rejection, and we're still friends. She even gave a nice warm hug that evening just to show her appreciation. Not only do I get to move on, but so can she. As for following my own path and everything else, I do have my life kind of figured out. I'll be moving to another state, looking for better job, and meeting new people along the way. I'm very excited, but more than anything, I'm also glad that this experience with her is finally over.

 

Yeah the truth does hurt, but it also sets you free. At that moment, it was like hitting a brick wall only to realize that it wasn't so bad. As for keeping the friendship, I did just that. It's rare to find a female friend like her, and even though she rejected me, she still gave me a hug and called me a nice guy and a great person. Other than that, thanks for your advice and wishing me the best.

 

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Thanks man. It's good to know that some people have similar experiences to others. It just lets you know that you're not alone; furthermore, this is one of the reasons why I love the Nofap community. We're all here to support one another. Besides that, your situation with your crush was definitely a lot worse than mine. But just to let you know, I've had something similar to that as well lol. But that was years before I met her. You see, everyone has something in common.