got rejected by girl on train but .....

i am so glad you went ahead and said something! 99% of people just won't get it out of their mind because they can't stomach rejection.

totally agree with your experience.

Just yesterday, I was at the mall and talked to a girl. She wasn't interested, but I was euphoric after!

Also, you'll be surprised for every 5 girls who are not social , you'll find another one who'll get into a meaningful conversation with you! I have made many connections like that! IT's not about what you say, but that you say something!

 

I love that too.
Believe it or not, some women can WANT to approach and have approach anxiety. Men in my city don't seem to approach anyone sometimes I get approached, but it is rare and so I want to approach guys and I am pretty terrified of rejection. So I am really proud of you too!
I don't know if it is true, but some people say it can be a numbers game and it's hard to keep putting ourselves out there but keep doing this sort of thing and some women WILL respond really positively.
I think also it's good to have the "result" the "win" that we DO approach etc. Regardless of result, not the outcome. Just so pleased to read about this, really. And it is not easy to approach a stranger so well done!

 

“We all need somebody to talk to. It would be good if we talked; not just pitter-patter, but “real” talk. We shouldn’t be so afraid, because most people really like this contact; that you show you are vulnerable makes them free to be vulnerable. It’s so much easier to be together when we drop our masks.”
― Liv Ullmann, Words of Wisdom

Be Strong My Friend.

 

Just keep doing these kinds of things, they add up quickly. This is very similar to what I've done to overcome alot of my social anxiety. Great work my friend, keep it up!

 

Awesome! Not an easy thing to do. For me once I recognize fear of rejection for what it is, I am able to put it aside, though it takes practice!

 

Thats awesome, i know the feeling of approaching anxiety. Not easy to talk to people you dont know. for me, when in that situation knowing and telling myself, they're just human as you. Have faults like you. But also, they might be really cool. If something comes out of it, you've just made a familiar face on the bus, maybe you'll get a node next time, maybe not. But you did it for you, regardless of outcome. and that what counts.

 

Good question I'm curious to here the response on this one too

 

Of course I am. If I am not interested in him, I'm still gracious and polite to him about it. I know it must take a guy a lot of guts to do that & I appreciate his efforts.

 

And like, the most recent one was last Friday night, at karaoke a guy sang his song then he walked over to me & started chatting. He asked if we can exchange numbers and text & I nicely turned him down but then kept talking to him about what songs he was wanting to sing next, karaoke, etc and I listened to what he said. I'm usually pretty nice. On the odd occasion they start to follow me around the neighbourhood - 2 guys did that I'll chat to them but tell them no & lose them
By going into a shop. Don't follow them around the block on their way home! But approaching us normally is fine

 

And what if you approach then and they ARE interested?!!

 

PS A couple of times I have literally complemented a guy, got nervous and ran away!!

 

love the female perpsective!

I always knew this because you've got to respect a set of iron spheres when you see them!

 

Really appreciate graceful girls who are good sports like you. Some girls just get bewildered, and others love to use it as an opportunity to lash out their inner frustrations!

none of it gets to me coz i'm secure in who i am

 

I actually signed up for the "Do one thing that scares you" (it's not a program, it's just something I decided to do), because of anxiety. Basic thoughts of talking to a girl would give me BAD NERVES!

I am exactly where you are. Even though I am not seeking anything, and have a lot of other things I do to keep me busy. Gym and Study, Prayers, Friends, I still got tired of saying "I'm too busy to talk to a girl" or " I am above every approaching girls! They come to me" (total bullshit)

Talking to girls is how I make my life interesting and it's the X factor, that I love having!

Islander190, on a side note, i think it's so cool how we totally disagreed on the other post , but we're like twins here hahah.. aint that a trip!

I feel you!! HAHA, love the World Series analogy.

I actually connected with a girl today! This was a tricky situation coz she was sitting and talking with an older lady, and this was in starbucks. I totally scoped her checking me out, and i said fuck it, let's go!

i walked up to her and mentioned how she reminded me of a friend.. bla bla bla.. i ended up befriending her aunt, and got the girls number... while the whole cafe envied my panache

i had a pen and she wrote it on a piece of paper too! classic

 

isn't this thread topic a book

 

Islanders but sometimes work gets so busy I literally have 3 hours a day to myself including dinner time & bath time?

I still feel like you might be right though...time HAS been an issue for me in meeting men OFFline although at least I don't work weekends. Sometimes I am so tired by then, but I guess I could still use some of that time.

I think that OP talked to a train girl is good - sometimes the only place I see guys I fancy IS on the train to or from work!!