Going out alone...

Good idea for the thread. I would love some advices too.

I have similar experiences with going out alone but last time I did it was like 4 years ago. Mostly because of the same reason like you wrote, I am absolutely not able to start conversation, feeling more and more alienated and finally ending up home feeling like loneliest weirdo on the planet. So I stopped doing it to myself.

I would love to go back to it later in reboot thou, with fresh approach, having fun and celebratin being alive, young and free

 

I don't have many friends and no real friends that i hang out with all the time so i often go out alone. I have found that i just need to do something that i know i will enjoy so i will be happy and definitely not anything that relies on other people to make it fun. I usually go to the movies or to a restaurant.

 

I love this a lot! I'm a relatively outgoing person and I love being around people, meeting new people, etc. There's something to be said for going out with friends, but sometimes you have to learn to take in the sights yourself.
TL;DR- Be confident, enjoy the moment and be positive. Everything will work out somehow in the end.

1. Find ways to make small talk. That may not come naturally to you. Relax! Don't worry about what the other person might be thinking. Just do your best to just see them as another person. If or when the conversation goes stale, just let it end. Don't try to force anything. That's the way conversation works.
2.Just be present. Take in the sights and sounds that you see. Allow yourself to be there when you are out and about. Feel the ground beneath your feet, hear the music, take in the feeling of whatever you are doing at the moment. Don't worry about meeting a billion new girls or how you feel gassy or nervous, just worry about the girl you are talking to right then and there.
3. Stay positive. I go to a college where dating is of the utmost importance, so much so that we have whole congregations of churches set up for young single adults. I meet tons of new girls all the time. Sometimes it goes well, other times... not so much. The trick is not getting down when things don't go your way that night. Men and women both love men and women who are confident and confidence starts with your self-perception. You are succeeding at no PMO, which is a lot more than many others who are choosing to not even take the challenge. Find the things that make you, you and roll with them.
4. Challenge yourself. The only way you succeed in the gym is when you work till you fail a set. Great speakers, writers, and debaters have all failed more than once to succeed. It's how you respond that will set you apart from the pack. Don't be afraid of failure in anything. We grow only when we fail.
5. Listen. When you do find yourself in conversation, listen twice as much as you speak. You will seem more genuine.

But yeah, that my advice. Hopefully it helps?? If it does, great! If not, well, I did my best

 

Going out alone isn't bad, it can be awkward at first but you'll slowly get the hang of it. I've done it a few times, the only problem is I tend to get impatient and bored being out all alone. However, it's definitely a good way to improve your social skills while also breaking out of your comfort zone.

 

Why is that? What thoughts are running through your head?

 

That night - are you referring to a specific night/event?

What makes it impossible?

 

i use to go out at weekend nights with a buddy an we would try meet woman, when i approached a female an rejected me it would hit me hard but i would go sit with my buddy again an he pep talk with me an help shake it off, but now it can only be me going out now but i dont think i can do it, right now im taking guitar lessons so hopefully i well be decent enough to play at open mikes downtown when the summer gets here, i dont drink alcohol so i wrestle with myself to stay cool, stay calm, dont be nervous, a girl shot you down its ok dont run away home or anything, thoughts like that

 

Aw, it sucks he can't make it anymore. There's loads more places you can meet and interact with women that aren't bars. What other kinds of things are going on where you live?

 

just regular city stuff

 

Such as...?