going mad after girls when lonely

What is your question exactly?

Us addicts don't have real expectations nor feelings for the girls either, we just need sex, or contact in a way. That is why we need a reboot. I have zero respect for like 98% of the women out there, and I just need to be cured from pornography in general because it's really troublesome. Sounds like you have to go through the same thing. Once you feel like you have no control of your mind/brain(I know how it feels) we quickly need a way out. Distractions, sports, cold shower even perhaps, going out of home. We have a habit of pushing our reboot process to the next day, and days become months and months years. The sooner the better.

 

@brother89 thanks for sharing. I could very much relate to what you were trying to say. I think we are both in the same boat, even when I previously reached 90 days, I still would seek women whom I did not think were attractive. Try to fantasize about them and seduce them or even trick them. I think you should just give it time, work on yourself and the opportunity will present itself. Right now with the distorted thoughts, you might not realize but this is the addict in you working to try to get you to relapse. Make you feel shame and despair if you get rejected and you would if you are texting a bunch of girls seeming desperate.


Stay clean , keep your head high

 

same situation here bro

 

Happy to know I am not alone in this journey

 

You are addicted to dopamine. Dopamine is a chemical for anticipation, not a chemical for pleasure. This is why you spend hours watching porn, clicking through scene after scene after scene, in anticipation that the next scene will be even hotter than the one you're watching. When you decide to quit watching porn, your brain still craves all the dopamine (anticipation) it's used to getting. So by messaging girls and spending all your time on Tindr, you are still flooding your brain with dopamine - you are excited with anticipation about fucking one of these girls. This is why you need to abstain from not only porn, but also from porn-substitutes like checking out girls on Tindr, Kik, Insta, FB, craigslist, youtube, etc.... If you are using porn-substitutes, you are not rebooting your brain from dopamine addiction. This is monumentally important if you want to succeed in reboot!

It seems you recognized that your behavior wasn't right for someone rebooting. That's a good sign that you're in the right frame of mind. I hope you're able to take reboot seriously and break the cycle of this addiction. Best of luck!

 

If u have cravings but ur body dont reply thats something good actualy. Try to not get aroused at all and the flatline will go by

 

Keep goin strong!