Giving up on Woman/Growing loneliness

Discussion in 'Loneliness' started by TrueSaiyan, May 15, 2019.

  1. TrueSaiyan

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    Hey guys. This new year hasn't been going all to well for me. I've been struggling with trying to keep a relationship earlier and I've lost so many (woman) friends. I don't know whats going on with me. Even at work I'm finding it hard to be friends or even friendly with females I work with.

    For example. The other day I was working in a section with this girl I haven't seen in a while. As she was right next to me I said "Hi name" after that I was completely ignored. I felt as if I was just a ghost or she didn't care enough at all to say hi back.

    Online dating isn't going well either for me. I am talking to some woman, but they seem to talk to me less and less. One I met a while ago doesn't talk anymore or cares to be honest. After I've tried to care for her or send her sweet messages.

    But honestly Nofap forum I feel like giving up. Lately its nothing but less of an attracted feeling towards me and my loneliness is growing. I'm just in question of what I should be doing about it. I feel confident and down straight to the bone that I deserve a easy going relationship, but its just not happening.. Should I possibly seek out dating coach's or even social? I don't even know now..
     
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  2. Winks248

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    Man I'm at 7 and some change and I'm right where your at. No office though I'm a carpenter so the sexiest thing I have to look at is a guy with no front teeth. My hobby is MMA so I don't exactly meet women. And honestly the only benefit I've had so far is I get up in the morning easier and look people in the eye more. I will ride this out because I think I'm in a flatline but at least we can commiserate .
     
  3. selfimprovement8008

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    My friend it is time to continue NoFap for yourself and not for women I am learning as the hard way myself, its tough as I get ignored by females left and right sometimes heres the thingh she could be going through stuff that day or just be annoyed at somethingh. Its funny man sometimes when one is trying to self improve the world seems against oneself ( I myself am struggling for motivation and anxiety in general). Also check out this guy
    https://www.youtube.com/user/The33Secrets hes a great person I oppose some of his views due to religion but if you are looking to learn the way of the woman this guy is good.
     
  4. TrueSaiyan

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    Nice man and I wish you luck in MMA and riding this habit out! I work third so its even more difficult. I see woman fling to my other co workers that I work with and I just get more and more irritated about it/Depressed. One girl I was talking to for a while is getting touchy feely with a co worker of mine. I just don't think they see me as attractive.
     
  5. TrueSaiyan

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    I don't believe so. She said hi to my other co worker like in a casual friendly way. I'm starting to believe my attractiveness or essence is just down the drain.
    Thank you I will definitely check him out.
     
  6. selfimprovement8008

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    yeah man in my case the coworkers are 35 to 45 and one 65 women (feminists if you will ) they fling to one guy who is a former marine and most likely doesnt pmo because he can talk to any hot girl with ease and alot of people and customers like him which also prompts him to be bossy around everyone including me so sometimes i try not to take his shit and get just as irritated as you when i work with him its just jealously on my part but as for you another example that it isnt essentialy our attractiveness cus hes a total ugly person almost bald dark and short and fat. however internally he has experience as a marine and confidence like a movie star and he can talk.
    to be quite honest thats what all bad boys, alpha men, pick up artists do is talk a woman to get interest in them for us addicts we dont have those skills top of that in a feminist dominated world going against it at the same time is pretty hard to do when we have been told to be just nice etc

    the guy will help in this matter tho the only thingh about him is skptical is that he is religious but dates and sleeps with multiple ladies other than that he has professional and solid advice
     
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  7. TrueSaiyan

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    I just hate it that that's what woman want these days or just feel the attraction to. One of my coworkers is married has kids and he still gets away with other woman. A girl I've been talking to recently is getting touchy feely with him recently. Yesterday I saw them kid playing around with each other.

    I just don't get it.
     
  8. selfimprovement8008

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    women are illogical is why they will always have an edge on us which is ok since they cant really be leaders they think themselves to be and to be quite honest I feel just as burned when I see stuff like that happen like they will be two faced
    men and women but at the end of the day is it affecting you and should it affect you other than learn from them and ssee how people are when they cheat or are essentially being flirty at the workplace will help to screen people in your life or who you let in your life
     
  9. selfimprovement8008

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    they are wronging themselves at the end of the day and the best thing to do is to tunnel them out of your tunnel vision and keep building the positive lifestyle that we want.
     
  10. Rahab

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    I did similar experiences like you. In the past I didn't unterstand why some women go rather to the other guy, who are a dickhead in my eyes, than to me. In my case I think it was, that I act that I would hide something - I was a very conservative man in the past. There were also cases where people bedrudge me chilling with a nice woman. When they notice about it they bitch about me so that the woman starts having distance from me. Some of them were my friends or co-worker.
    Did you notice around your surroundings that they handle you different than others? Not only women you talked to but maybe other co-workers?

    Did you try your luck on a different country or visit a different place?
    I did it a few times and got the effect like "nobody knows me, I'm free here and can do what I couldn't in the usual areas", which makes me relax - and I guess women like men who are relaxed and shows, that they have nothing to hide. For example the co-worker you talked about - who is married and has kids - is someone who reached what he wanted and has nothing to hide, which makes him relaxed. Try to be more relaxed.
    And in the case of vacations: when I was on vacation I could make new friends which are from different countries (Spain, Netherlands, France, even from Vietnam etc.). And most of all: I could talk better to women there than in the usual area. I would say try it out, notice what makes you relaxed there and take it with you to the work. Maybe it is difficult because everybody knows you, but if you make it you'll see some changes.
     
  11. guyfrompoland

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    I checked this wideo, (main on the site), can anybody tell me why this "dating guru" guy is so manipulating with his hands and fingers? Its so annoying!
     
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  12. selfimprovement8008

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    well it can be cuz of hand gestures when giving a presentation to show seriousness or to emphasize his main points idk why he wears shades but the dating game is manpulating really
    its manipulate in a good way or get manipulated in a bad way really he is not telling us to go full douche mode just game mode
     
  13. DaveyCrockett

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    Sorry to hear that you're in a bad situation right now.

    From what I have gathered from all the NoFap videos, forum posts and blog posts, the longer that you are on NoFap and improving yourself, the more you will succeed in pursuits of what you want in life. Just keep going on NoFap, do not under any circumstance edge or look at porn or masturbate. Just keep improving yourself by working out, reading, educating yourself and overall just taking care of yourself.

    I know it seems like it may never end, this feeling of hopelessness, but once you and me and a bunch of other people on NoFap forums who really are willing to do what it takes to make it to 90 days, do make it to 90 days...things will get better. Don't trip.

    And don't worry about girls, either. Just keep on going on NoFap, and don't think about getting a girlfriend. Eventually, it'll happen. Right now, when you early on to NoFap (like me), it's probably not the best idea (Rejection right now could lead back to PMO. You never know.)

    Here's a pretty good NoFap video on YouTube (there really needs to be a NoFap version of YouTube at this rate), this guy hasn't made a video in a while but I recommend you watch his videos on his channel, as they were very useful & motivating for me and I'm sure they will help you lots, my friend:



    Stay on NoFap. Don't give up! You can do it!!!
     
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  14. @Gurdeep_Singh

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    [email protected] ...I know from which situation you are going through...Its happen in every one else life at some point ...Women brain is work in a different way then men do....We are as a men are attracted to physical appreance of a women...But womens , Womens are completely opp. Of it.. I m not saying that Pysical appreance or Fitness or look doesn't Matter... They matter but not as much as you think they do...Listen Women brain is attracted to emotional thing's here i mean is their brain is hardwired with emotions and If you have the power to play with it (Control them emotionally) You can make them do anything you want..You are or some other guys would be thinking right know ...What the hack is he talking about... I know know ..its was weird to me at first too..But gradually i understand how women work psychologically ...I got all of this information from a youtube channel name "Fredo hill" ..If you guys don't believe me , Go and see by yourself.......Best of luck...Cause after watching his videos you gonna kill it with womens boy!!!!/
     
  15. Vijay42.

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    Good luck, for at least you had girlfriend
     
  16. TrueSaiyan

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    Thanks for the support. It is my weekend now and the time I usually fall back. But I am motivated now to keep on going. My luck has been flat lining, girls don't even message me now. I am online dating trying to find someone, but emails come every so often. I am praying and trying to forget about a girlfriend.
     
  17. OnTheEdge

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    It's so strange how the mind can change so quickly. 48hrs ago I was sitting on the couch with a girl watching TV. She was stroking my hand and my stomach and all I could think was "I wish she wasn't here so I could watch this on my own or do something else...on my own". Fast forward 48 hours and I'm sitting here feeling a cold loneliness, missing her company, and like I will spend the rest of my life alone. I believe my mind lives in a ridiculous world of past memories. A dream world. When I am alone it craves the memories when I wasn't alone. When I'm not alone it craves the memories of when I was alone. I have tried to live in the now but have failed so far. It's so difficult to ignore my mind and all its imagery and how that in turn controls my emotions. It is never satisfied with the moment. At least I can see the ridiculousness of it, I suppose.
     
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  18. OnTheEdge

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    This post should be a 'sticky'. I'm by no means a nofap veteran but your post is something everyone should read. This is about concentrating on yourself. For myself, nofap has shone light on my mind. Things I've never seen before have emerged. I believe the central message of nofap is about seeing your mind from afar. It's like an out of body experience. Everything you observe about how you are dealing with nofap is a message. The messages are not necessarily going to make you feel good or bad, but they can all be used to help. The things you will try on nofap will all help towards the main goal, even if they don't seem to be helping. Even if you feel worse than ever. It's not even about PMO. Simply by trying to give up this addiction, you have started yourself on a journey to discover why your mind contains so much negativity and why it is holding you back. The biggest thing is deciding to make this change. Once you have decided to make this change, the journey is no longer optional. You will always be on it and you will never forget it.
     
  19. wwtl

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    I had big smile about him questioning how the universe detects him having stopped masturbating and sending him "coincidences" and "luck". ;) The answer is simple: PMO is sin, sin separates him from God. Once he stops sinning, he moves closer to His plan and things unsurprisingly start going well for him. This sometimes even works if he doesn't know about it or doesn't believe in anything supernatural. It was the same for me.
     
  20. PhoenixWillRise

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    wow... I'm exactly the same dude. I've been living in one memory for like 3 years. The only thing that felt nice and wasn't this memory is porn. That's my addiction story basically :)
     

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