They want a guy who is assertive, confident, "alpha" male bullshit. Now, not saying that kind or nice is a drawback for most girls, but if you lack the former the latter isn't going to mean diddly shit. Also, you have to know how to play all these stupid fucking games, and like every game there are winners and losers. Some are more adept and talented at this, others have to learn or be left out in the cold. I'm officially resigning from this bullshit. For my mental health (being dead serious, I already have mental problems and this shit does not help), I can't be bothered with it anymore. Maybe I'll be single forever, oh fucking well. It's better than being in a shitty relationship cause I was desperate, or trying to be someone I'm not to "win" a girl over. It bothers me, yes, but I want to try and not let it. Taking my fucking "masculinity", castrate me and shove my testicles down your throat. Put a giant UNWANTED tattoo on my forehead, at least I still have my identity and never betrayed my values. Some people aren't meant for real love or a genuine relationship. I won't bow down to societal pressure. It doesn't matter how great of a guy you are and it never will. I'm done.