Girlfriend made fun of penis size - Can't get over it

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Focused, Dec 24, 2017.

  1. Focused

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    Our sex is actually great, but the dick thing is just always there in my head now.

    Actually that pretty much described our sex: "I'm gonna tease you, play with you, make you want me so bad, and then start to give it to you, then pull out, and make you wait... and then, BOOM, that's when you pull that Rocky Balboa out and go 15 rounds."

    Foreplay until she begs for penis! :p But again, my dick size issues are now fucking me up. I can have sex and all, but it's always in my head. I always imagine that it can be better, if the penis is bigger. So even if I was a god in bed, I could be better if my member was larger - That's the issue.

    Her saying it's the best sex ever and yada yada means little to me, when it COULD be better. I just know she would enjoy it more, that's what kills me because I can't do shit about it either. Except PE, which could damage my dick instead and would take a looooooong time.

    Yea well, we've been together almost 3 years. If it was something less serious I already would've.

    I can definitely perform in bed!

    This is the core issue: I can be the worlds best lover, but if I had a bigger dick, I would be even better. I'm great at oral for example, but so what? I could have a big dick AND be good at oral, haha.

    This has nothing to do with looks. It's the best girl I've ever met, EXCEPT these comments. Imagine your dream girl, but she pulled those comments. (Which kind of doesn't make sense, since you're dream girl never would say that - But you catch my drift.)

    She's supportive, we are always on the same page, want the same things and so on.

    I'm so angry at this. Why, WHY did she have to say anything. Fuck. It's like when someone cheats on a person, no take back after that.
     
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  2. Focused

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    I'm quoting you again since you edited your message.

    That's the issue, if she has a Grand Canyon I need an Anaconda.

    And no, she's never abusive in any way. She get's fucked up when she drinks, so she never does anymore. She hasn't been drunk since the time she said those comments in front of our friends, that was a turning point for her drinking.


    I appreciate you inserting (pun intended) yourself into this discussion, much appreciated!

    It's not the looks, if it was I would be LONG GONE. It's everything else that is great! (MINUS those comments, obviously)

    By the way, my dick now has a new name: Rocky "Motherfucking" Balboa
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  3. Devil's Details

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    Hey alright man, solid! That's a great sign!
    Any kids? Unlike what most red pill or MRA stuff will tell you, lots of dick doesn't stretch a vag the way we're inclined to think. She probably is just really relaxed and gets horny really quickly.

    Some light reading:
    https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/all-about-sex/201109/the-rare-truth-about-tight-and-loose-women

    A couple suggestions not in the article: 1) Jump her 2) put it in the back 3) tie her up and lightly abuse her a bit so she's not so "relaxed"

    Whether she's the kind of gal that's into any of those is for you to say, not me, but most experienced chicks are down with that kind of stuff.
     
  4. Focused

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    Yeah quite a while man.

    Well in the beginning I didn't even ask about previous sexual partners, I didn't even really think much about it - However, SHE asked me, and I answered. When I asked her, she wouldn't say. Like, CLEAR WARNING MATE, but I was dick-blind or something.

    Then I kept asking and she told me. By that point we had already been together for so long that, well, I was already in love.

    I am almost 90% sure the sex would be better for her with a bigger dick. I wouldn't say this about my exes, but with my current GF: Definitely.

    But yeah, there's not much left to discuss really: Either I get over it, or I don't.

    We have discussed this issue many times, she had no idea that those comments affected me so much (I thought everyone knows to never joke about a mans dick). However whatever she says now regarding my dick doesn't mean anything to me, no matter how hard she tries.

    It's genius! We can share dick name - Double power, double strength, double Balboa.

    Here's a poster I made, spread the word! :D
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  5. Focused

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    No kids!

    I definitely don't believe she's been stretched - But I do know that some women like bigger dicks, because their vaginas simply are bigger from genetics. Some can't even handle 5 inch, some loves 10.

    I can feel the difference between vaginas.

    I will read the link now, thanks!
     
  6. Devil's Details

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    A couple suggestions not in the article: 1) Jump her 2) put it in the back 3) tie her up and lightly (playfully) abuse her a bit so she's not so "relaxed". Blindfold also helps with that.

    Whether she's the kind of gal that's into any of those is for you to say, not me, but most experienced chicks are down with that kind of stuff.
     
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    She's definitely in to that - Anal too. And when it comes to anal, she can just put in it without much foreplay - Which makes me think my dick really is small.

    And again: All that is great, but I still feel it's all better with a bigger dick. Whatever I do, a bigger dick would always be a bit better.

    Our sex life has no issues - I have dick anxiety, that's all.
     
  8. ..Anna..

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    I am curious- those very thight vaginas you had, were they really wet also? The more girl is aroused, the more wet she is, the less tight everything becomes. In the gynecologist cabinet even half cm wide objects are painful and difficult to get in. Because of no wetness.
     
  9. Focused

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    Ahhh I see, that's a bad story waiting to happen (well, DID happen), sorry to hear that mate!

    Yeah you're right, I'm trying to get over it. Sometimes I don't think about it all, sometimes it's the only thing on my mind.

    No she's not cheating on me, then it would definitely be over in a heart beat!

    Oh damn I had no idea about that, I guess my dick can't be called Rocky Balboa anymore, it belongs to him. :D

    Of course!

    I wouldn't try and penetrate without wetness. I always have foreplay first to make sure that the woman is ready!

    It's simply just different vaginas. Just like dicks, they're all different.
     
  10. Devil's Details

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    As far as the dick anxiety goes, remember. It's not you, it's her. And that's not a bad thing. That's carte blanche to let out your inner savage.

    You gotta find a way to push her limits in some way, shape or form, that other guys haven't done for her, that doesn't involve girth. Find something that the other guys in her life have never given her.

    Because if you're backdooring it pretty quickly, that's not vagina size, she's just super relaxed about penetration and sex in general. So you gotta look in another direction to set yourself apart. But it's not a chore... it's a permission slip. Go fucking nuts!

    Bondage is good for that, because you can vary it in unlimited ways. If her legs are tied apart on the bed when she comes, for example, it feels completely different. Then you can change her position the next night. Not like pornos where they're beating the girls up... actual fun stuff for her.

    My last gf was into "stunt sex". Like out of a 3rd story window. (I'm a powerlifter, do not try this at home.) Pretty much guaranteed she's never going to get that again. Another liked to go out to restaurants and clubs with a vibrator in her panties, while I held the remote control.

    But you need a certain kind of girl for that, and it sure sounds like you got one.
    You don't need to watch porno, go out and live one, and she'll never complain about your size again. :D
     
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  11. ..Anna..

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    I meant those who are ''tight'' were maybe even a bit less wet than others and that's all the secret? You can do equally long foreplay with two girls, but one will be less attracted to you than other in the first place (so less wet), also one can be less relaxed than other due to various reasons (so more tight down there).

    I am more tight (more nervous/less attracted) with some and more wide (relaxed, very aroused) with others.
     
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  12. E.liberated

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    I think there are both not libricated enough as you say but also smaller pussies. My wife is a petite and even when she is lubricated a lot she is tight
     
  13. letter

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    I see you've made progress, well done!

    Perhaps, now you are ready to face your next challenge...the chasm of eternal looseness.

    All before have tried to bridge the gap, but all have failed. Only a true hero can conquer this indominable feat. I have three gifts to bestow upon you to see you through your journey, for they will see you through the three trials before your final test. What awaits beyond is the Mighty Cock of Everreaching Dimensional Vigor.

    It can be yours...

    Are you willing, Rocky?
     
  14. Focused

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    I really appreciate the long answer, but there are no other problems then me thinking my dick isn't enough. The sex itself is great, and I ALWAYS do my best (for some reason being really good in bed is important for me).

    See, whatever you said is great, but IF I had a bigger one included with everything you said, it would be even better. See what I'm saying? A battle I can't win. It doesn't matter if I'm the best ever at sex, with a bigger one, I could be even better. At least for her, and that's where the issue is.


    Well, I can't really remember the "wetness level" here, but I wouldn't say so. All vaginas are different, depth and what not. Just like penis sizes.

    Have a look at the Reddit thread with only women replying. Some can't even take 5", while some love 10".


    I haven't made any progress at all actually. It was good for a day, then it comes back. Absolutely fucking ridiculous.

    Sorry but my English isn't complex enough (it's my second language) to really understand what you just said, it feels like I read a short script from Lord of the Rings or something. :D

    Care to dumb it down for me? Even though it probably was just for fun.
     
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    I'm not worried about her experience. As long as she's coming, she's getting hers.
    Just suggestions to help you get your mind off of the issue.
    Just like PMO, you need something to take up that CPU power going spare.
    The devil finds work for idle hands (and minds) as it were. ;)

    Anyhoo, Happy new year!
     
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    All good! :)

    I appreciate it buddy, and happy new years! :cool:

    Yea you have a good point and I see what you mean, I just think it will always be there in my head. Even if we broke up and I got a new GF, I would be extremely worried about it. Scarred 4 life.

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  18. Never place the power to determine your self worth in the hands of anyone other than yourself, and never allow anyone to see that you are affected by their insults. This gives them control over you. It is actually an extremely impressive skill to get insulted and not react at all. If someone insults someone else, and the victim doesn't react at all, then that gets in the aggressor's mind.

    Imagine if you were with your group of 4 people, and she says you have a small dick. Now imagine you just stoically stare at her, just like you stare at a child to get them to calm down. You don't even need to say anything. That would get her mind racing like crazy, and she probably now thinks you're insane. But how badass would that be?


    At the end of the day, actions are far more legitimate than words. Anyone can say anything. She could tell you a rice grain feels better than your penis if she wanted. However, if you are having sex with her and she is flipping out and going crazy, then that is all the information you need.
     
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    That's actually exactly what I did. I just looked at her like "Are you fucking serious?", without a word said. I couldn't show that I actually cared, or it would suddenly be true. She had no clue she even said it, she gets to a point where she isn't even conscious, but still awake/functioning, if that makes any sense. You can see in her eyes when she's "gone".

    Shortly after the comment, she passed out on their couch while I was awake with our friends. When we went home I confronted her, she started crying because she had no idea she said it and blabla. I forgave her, but right now I am regretting that I did.

    It's not only the dick either. For example I remember when she posted a picture of me and her on some social media, and her friend commented "He's hot!", and she said "He's okay" - These kind of things have been throughout the entire relationship, and when I think about it I've never had a worse self confidence than when I started going out with her. Sure, they might be jokes, but if you never say anything positive and only these negative "jokes", well..

    I have talked about this with her, and after that she has changed her whole attitude and calls me sexy and what not, but I can't forget what she has said before. It doesn't help to change now, at least not for me.

    She will be home tomorrow, so that will be interesting..

    Appreciate the answer buddy.
     
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    End the relationship NOW, by the thing you are picturing the image, this isnt a caring partner, that exactly what you need right now, not a bitch that looks like porn has washed her brains.
    Girls come and go, and you dont have to be with someone who makes you feel like shit. End on the line.
     
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