Girlfriend’s not too sure about our relationship. Should I leave?

The question is what do you want to do?

Your in a tough situation, which sucks, but by not letting her come visit you and by not managing to get across to her your giving off all the wrong vibes!

It doesnt sound like a relasionship that cant be repaired, but if you want to get back to how you where then your going to have to put the effort in (and visit etc). Only you can decide to do that!

 

What is this martyr all about? She said she would come visit you, you try and be the hero and control her. If she wants to see her bf why stop her? It's obvious the relationship is important enough for her to sacrifice the trip, why isn't it for you?

Are you cheating on her? Is your Fapping making you despondent? With all of your life's problems why push away someone who is wonderful?

Maybe you would be better alone.

 

Let her come over herself. Or take a break. Or date someone who u can actually see often enough.

Might be that u need to focus on getting ur shit together before u can deal with another human being.

 

Hey, I think your right with ahat you said at the end. I often do the same - I get reclusive when Im struggaling ans ultimatly it works out worse for everyone!

People like to share in others burdens - particularly those who they love. Let her make her own choices, dont make them for her .

 

Man, let her come visit you. You've kept her waiting for a year and she still loves you? You said that people deal with problems differently, but the only problem I see is that she really loves and misses you, and she can't see you because... money? Fund her that trip then or let her come, but don't let her wait, or you'll lose her because of such a trivialty.

 

Talk to her, you know in life there are ups and downs, research with couple asking your grandparents, uncles, people who are together for longer that 10-15-20 years, you will see that all you are going through is only a phase, it passes, and all that matters it to be a life time mates and loyal for eternity <3

 

Let her come and see you.

 

Or play the confidence game, sometimes woman will give value to who they think they may lose...

 

I'd say don't lose her. You say you've known her for 4 years, that's quite a long time in the present especially. She had been willing to fly over and visit you and I think that what you're going through right now are nothing but obstacles people face in relationships, especially LTR. I'd say let her come see you, talk to her about how you're feeling, communication is very essential. When people are willing to just throw away relationships just like that, I'd suggest that you work towards strengthening this one instead

P.S: I'm sorry if I said anything wrong or ignorant, I do lack experience being only 16 :")

 

If she is offering it's because the relationship is more important. Allow her to come over and stop being macho.