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Getting Laid Journal

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by Son_of_Iroquois, Jan 8, 2017.

  1. Son_of_Iroquois

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    SOI's GETTING LAID JOURNAL

    Just moved to a big city with lots of hot women in it. No excuse now why I'm not getting laid again on a regular basis. This thread will record my journey from being "out of the game" to getting back to full force.

    ENTRY 1, MONDAY 9th of JAN.

    Went out with some friends to a few bars this weekend. Have not been out to bars in a long time. Felt out of place, intimidated. The environment was alien. Approached a few hot girls and got shot down. Got ignored by a couple more. The weekend ended with a feeling of depression and anger. This is good, the fire has once again been lit. Good.

    Got rejected again by a few more women, more my age. My approach is too nice at this point, not enough force. It's tame and week. With every rejection I am getting angrier at myself, making me want to succeed more and more. Approached some women at a market on Sunday. Got some MILFs contact info: Spanish, late 30s. I can feel the motivation building at a deep level. Looking forward to the next opportunity.
     
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  2. Reborn16

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    Good stuff! I swear bars are too much trouble for us anyways, heaps of competition, girls know what's up the second you look at them, and then there's the cost..

    I started out in a big city so took it for granted I guess... This is good motivation though. And good to know I'm not the only one that wants the MILFs numbers at the shops too lol!
     
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  3. Deadlihood

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    Ooooh. If you strike-out with the Spanish MILF, let @Son of a Bitch know. That's his speciality.
     
  4. Son_of_Iroquois

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    January 9th, 2017

    Went out to meet that Spanish MILF. It turns out she is not Spanish, but Danish. How did I make that mistake? Anyway, the meet didn't happen because of a logistical error on my part. Basically I got lost trying to find the bar. I'm still getting to know this bohemoth of a city. Kinda pissed me off but in the end didn't really care. There will be others. Ended up walking around Midtown area for a bit. Saw this tall ass Scandinavian looking girl. opened up and started talking to her. she tried to brush me off, said she was waiting on her boyfriend. I kept talking to her for a couple minutes. saw this look of curiosity in her eye. bid her farewell and went on my way.
     
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  5. Reborn16

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    I swear to the gods too, that half these ladies or more don't have boyfriends lol. Next time I hear this from a woman I will carry on.. sounds like a test to me! Okay I'll leave it if she gets mad, but smiling saying the has a boyfriend - fair game to still chat.
     
  6. Son_of_Iroquois

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    Good point. Personally, I tend to respect such a statement from a woman and begin to wind the conversation down. But on the other hand, sometimes they really doesn't have a BF and is testing you, and sometimes they even like it when you persist forward. So if she gives out the contact info anyway, and stays in contact with you afterwards, then all it fair in my book.
     
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  7. I want to get laid this year I met a girl at the store and know her name next time I see her I'm going to try and get her number
     
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  8. Reborn16

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    I read this somewhere... That many girls are too nervous to approach us, and then they get really nervous when we approach them. And for this reason alone a lot of them will automatically say they have a BF, heck.. I talked to a girl about 18 once who admitted she took it further and told the one or two guys who talked her up that she was married... meanwhile she had never been on a date.

    Definitely treat it as a test I think, and if they are adamant then it's very easy to respectfully part ways with the overused but still good 'the good ones are always taken' line lol.
     
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  9. Son_of_Iroquois

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    True. You also have to think: if the girl is hiding behind lies and is that scared to go out on a date, is it really worth your time? Much better to get the one's who are at least a little bit adventurous. You gotta have a little personality to work with, you know?
     
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  10. I'm dying. Thanks for the entertainment fellas. Good luck SOI.
     
  11. Reborn16

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    Very good point, if one has to jump too many hoops it's probably not going to be worth the hassle..
    You're welcome haha. Are we fairly on point or nahh? (guesses you're female from pic)
     
  12. Son_of_Iroquois

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    Interesting. I wonder why you find this "entertaining"?

    FYI. This is a forum where people come to improve themselves and share with others as they are doing so. We're not interested in those who mock our efforts or make snide comments from the peanut gallery.
     
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  13. Son_of_Iroquois

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    Went out with a buddy of mine today for burgers. Probably one of the best burgers I have ever had at this new place near the park. It was a nice day, so afterwards we took a stroll around town. Not too many women around. We walked around the West Side market for a while. Saw this attractive blonde in her twenties near the market. Immediate approach. At this point I have been rejected enough times that I A.) no longer fear rejection whatsoever and B.) have no reservations about expressing my interest in a very direct and confident way. She was immediately receptive. Started asking questions about who I am and how long I have lived in the city. She is from Switzerland, pretty hot. We connected on FB. Will see how it goes. Either way I will continue to gain ground.
     
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  14. Because I'm a woman reading a dude's quest for sex with another female. How can I not be entertained?

    Right. A public forum. Expect feedback. I have not said anything about your character or dissuaded you or anything really. Mocked you? Okay. :rolleyes: You're reading something that is not there. If you think I'm being rude, you should look at some of the other users here. No respect for women. But whatever. I'm not here to fix that.

    Let's get back to this improvement part. So you're learning how to deal with rejection & having better confidence which is great. But let me ask you, what happens once you get laid? This is the point of the journal, is it not? Any PMO addict will tell you that O without human connection is meaningless. A one night-stand (or several) won't fulfil you. So what's after this?
     
  15. Yes, I have the lady bits. Well I'll say that we've been conditioned to think that whenever a new guy approaches us it's because of one thing *cough* so "I have a boyfriend" can be a safeguard against that OR she may be telling the truth. So just call it a day. Honestly a lot of single females give you their number even when they're not interested because we're expected to be nice. Rejection makes us uncomfortable too. As far as the "taken" women who give you their number anyway, unless she confesses she lied (which she wouldn't need to. If she's feeling
    you she'll gladly give you her number) then I'd be careful. Shady behavior now, shady behavior later :D
     
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  16. Son_of_Iroquois

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    I'm not interested in your feedback, and certainly not that of an arrogant, "know it all type" like yourself. If you're here to lecture me on what you think is "meaningful", or how to conduct myself as a man, then you can go elsewhere. You have nothing to offer. This thread is about getting back in the game after living in the middle of nowhere for 2 years. So I don't need some opinionated person like yourself pretending that I need her advice. This place is not for you.
     
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  17. Son_of_Iroquois

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    Nobody cares. Stop trying to hijack my thread.
     
  18. ^^^^ dude chill out. She wasn't mocking you. I find it amusing too... it doesn't mean I mean anything bad.

    Back on track... so you are hitting bars? Why not make the most of tinder or plenty of fish etc? Are you a half decent looking dude? If so then those sites are your best friend. Either way get out there and be a killer.
     
  19. Son_of_Iroquois

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    Bars, clubs, day-game, online, whatever. I've been busy with work so have only been going out about once a week or so.

    I think I am average looking. I have been told by women before that I am good looking, but who knows, everything is subjective. I don't think that matters much in the end. What matters more is confidence and the quantity of interactions, and that is what I am generating at this point.

    The process is more what interests me, not my personal success or lack thereof. I find it interesting how confidence is generated through rejection, and how the ability to connect with women evolves through repeated interactions.
     
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  20. Ok, so you are attacking from various different angles. Good good.

    Are you getting any hits on your online profile? If not much is coming back have you thought about looking on google for hints to make a better online profile?... it's all about inches (no innuendo there! Haha) it's about standing out.

    The bars you go too... are they suitable for your dating group... in other words you aren't going to bars full of rich dudes etc... you need to find the right places. I'm not a pick up merchant or anything like that but I've played the field well in the past... it's about making the right moves and not getting discouraged. We all bomb at times with women... name if the game is to handle it and move onto the next.
     

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