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Getting hard when chatting with my girl

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Kemchor, Aug 10, 2018.

  1. Kemchor

    Kemchor Fapstronaut

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    Haven't seen my girl for about 2 months now. We in different cities at the moment. I came here for industrial practical training and she still at college. Chatting with her makes me so hard, even if we don't sext. We used to sext too much back in the days, but since I went on full hard mode (No PMO) I talked to her about my reboot. She was so happy and we agreed to stop sexting. But still a normal text like "Miss you so much honey, I'm all alone, wish you was here" turns me on so bad and I start fantasizing about her. Is this messing up my reboot?
     
  2. fan_of_all_might

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    Hard to say. I wish it wasn't true but I think it might be. It's basically the equivalent of edging. What's been helping me is I just accept the fantasy instead of pushing it down. Then just let it goooo
     
  3. Kemchor

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    I didn't think that would be equivalent to edging. Actually I'm still not sure how that could be. I'd be grateful if you'd elaborate.

    About accepting the fantasy, that's very wise of you. Totally agree. I know we can't run from own thoughts (like pain, fear, lust, etc), we only learn to live above them. I was just kinda afraid that maybe it's ruining my reboot (like some sorta relapse).

    All in all, I really appreciate your reply. Thanks, big time.
     
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  4. I'd say no. She knows about your reboot so you can be honest with her about what is going on with you physically.

    Take your erections as a sign that you are really in love with her. I know it is hard to ignore what's going on down there, but I am sure that your girl will see you as a sort of hero if don't let down your guards, Think of that and be patient with yourself

    (And if you will have one day a romantic time together I promise this will be a feast of sensations.)
     
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  5. fan_of_all_might

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    Hey dude. Thanks for taking the time to reply back.

    Well to be honest I haven't fully formed my opinon on this. But actually if I think back to what killed my last reboot, I think it might have been sexting a girl on the other side of the world.

    I justified it by telling myself this is really the only thing we can do, its normal, healthy. But actually I was so ready to do it I often ignored my own boundaries, time wise anyways. She's on the opposite side of the world so I'd frequently stay up too late, spend hours sexting and video chatting with her. As much as I truly enjoy her as a person and doing those things with her, if I really ask myself is that the only reason? I'd say no. I'm starting to think we use so many things as escapes from reality, obligation, feeling bad and true potential. This is only my opinion of course and could be totally wrong. But I think in that instant, especially during my reboot I was hindering the entire reason for the reboot but running away or giving my sexual sovereignty to something reactionary.

    Take it for what its worth, try the idea on and see if it makes sense for you.

    I still talk with this girl and will be seeing her soon (fuck yes haha) but I don't plan on using anything other than the experience of being with her in person to get off for a long while. Perhaps when I'm a lot deeper into this streak I will try it again.
     
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  6. In the end all this is a very personal decision and often has to do with ones own body function.

    It seems that you have a sharp awareness of that so now I can pretty much understand your fears for relapse. But if you are in love with her the entire hormone balance seems to bake things more difficult anyhow,


    Good luck to you?

    Porn is boring
    Porn is dumb
    Life is waiting for us
     
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  7. Kemchor

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    Haha feast of sensations! That's a good one. Bet it will be.

    TBH, I'm totally in love with her. We been together since we were in secondary school. We are VERY open to each other. I usually tell her what's going on, how she makes me feel. If her simple "Miss you honey" text turns me on I always talk to her about that then she'd laugh and tell me that I make her feel like a Queen. Likewise, she usually tells me how I'd turn her on very easily. And that is one of the reasons we got trapped into too much sexting.

    Lemme take that as a sign that we entirely love each other, and stop trying to resist or fight it. After all, we don't sext nowdays. She knows that I'm on reboot and she's very proud of me.
     
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  8. Kemchor

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    You re very observant, man. It's very good to be aware of ourselves. An extra attention gotta be paid otherwise things might happen unnoticeably and, at the end of the day, get pretty messed up.

    Will try to be more observant and attentive.

    Once again, I appreciate your reply big time. Y'all helping me a lot.
    And oh, about the girl. Very proud of and happy about you, bruv. Go get it. (Fuck yea haha!)
     
  9. The power of love. You'll share something together for your future. Enjoy the reboot!
     
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  10. Kemchor

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    Can't be thankful enough.
     
  11. Spence33

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    Thanks for sharing this man
     
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