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Really nice post i am currently in the heat of some withdrawal symptoms so this is very helpful.
Thanks for this insightful post

 

Very interesting thread. I like how you turn helping others into a means for helping yourself.

I like how focused you are and your motivations for being on here ring true to me the more I think about it. I'm not on here to do anything other then quit porn.

I first tried nofap back in college. Me and my housemates had a bet who could go the longest...it had nothing to do with quitting forever, just a fun challenge. Thinking back on it actually makes me smile because a week in I hooked up with a girl in a club. I planned to meet up with here a few days later. I actually lost the nofap challenge not because I fooled around with her but because I thought it best to masturbate before meeting her so I wasn't going in fully loaded. Knowing what I know now...what a ridiculous idea!

The lessons of the past are powerful ones. Being on this site helps me to reflect on bits of my past like this and help me learn more about my addiction, how it developed and maybe just maybe point me in the right direction. Perhaps William the lessons of your past can be another weapon in your arsenal.

 

Reading posts like this make me want to start/continue the nofapp every time. Had a nice 20 day streak and relapsed yesterday. Saw a naked pictures of multiple woman (not even porn "porn") and couldn't resist to masturbate. Couldn't control it and finished with sincere shame of what I did (just a flinch of weakness broke the chain ). 3rd try now and still fighting!

 

Indeed, I'll be very happy when I hit 20 days without a relapse. There was a thread a few weeks ago where a guy broke a very long streak and asked if he had to star over or if he wasted all that effort. I can't speak to wasted effort, but I DO think every effort helps us grow stronger. I found this site about a month ago. Prior to that I going generally once or twice a day. I've relapsed three or for times in the last 30 days while trying to quit, but think about the math. I was going 30-60 times per month. In the last 30 days, I've probably PMOs 4-5 times. That's a huge decrease, that woudl how is having positive effects on my dopamine levels. Yeah, relapses suck, but the last one was VERY informative in why I failed. It followed the normal patters: "peaking at triggers," edging, full on relapse. This time I've made a much stronger effort to eliminate the triggers. We'll see how it goes.

 

I watched this lecture and it helped me to understand my problem. Now I'm on my 9th day PMO/MO free. I don't remember when I reached 9th day last. In 2013 my record was 7th day without PMO but it happenned maybe twice.

I started to do some sport and it helps me to feel more relaxing. After very ehhausting workout, my body feels like after PMO but in different positive way. My brain tells me that it's a good dopamine bullet.

I don't know what it's happenning to me right now. I'm sitting alone in my room and I don't want to PMO. I know what porn causes, what negative dopamine it is, and my brain tells me that I have to get some positive dopamine than negative. Maybe I will have a workout or I will go for a walk.

Good luck and all the best !!

 

Hope someone else has experienced the same, but I am only about 4 days into the challenge. Has anyone else experienced a large decrease in lust? or is this just how P has affected my body? and it will return eventually as the challenge progresses?

 

In my first 20 minutes on this forum I felt ashamed to have watched por all theese years... Thank God I finally found a way out... Don't think you have already won... Win each dayand with God's help We will be free!!! Good luck!!

 

Lust will always be with us until we die. We have to continually choose genuine love over lust every day, every minute. The good news is that more we choose love, the easier it is to choose love in the future and perform greater acts of love instead of more and more depraved acts of lust.

One day at a time. It could all end tomorrow, so make today count for something or someone.

 

Hey, this is a really great post!! After watching that video, I feel like I'm really starting to believe that finding nofap is actually my second chance. Just now I was beginning to see things take a turn for the worse in my life, and I'm really hoping that cutting out this area of my life will be exactly what I need to get myself back on track.

I especially agree about that last paragraph, where you point out that porn comes in many different forms. It's a deeply-carved rut in our brains, and I think it's absolutely right that even the mere thought of porn will be another thought grinding down that same path, making it deeper and deeper.

Thank you for this post, it's the most helpful thing I've seen so far.

Clean

P.S. Your second video link is a link to the same video as the first, ha ha

 

Thank you sir....

I want to quit and I read some of the articles, they were mind opening!

 

My new years resolution was to quit watching porn, lasted about 8 days then gave in. Since I have been going in binges and each time the result is depression and a lack of confidence. The worst part is the effect it has on my actual sex life where I feel under stimulated, which ties to what turns me on, which I often don't feel acceptable when I'm in bed with a girl. Anyways, I'm glad I came across the reddit group which lead me to this site. I am hoping that posting and reading the forums will keep me motivated, and keep me abstinent. I want to regain my agency when it comes to sex, especially with porn. Hope to read some positive changes some guys have had with following this site. Porn is too easy and not realistic. Sex is probably the best gift in this world so why ruin it by watching porn?

 

Hey Will, thanks for the response! I also though porn would be a good educator as well but the deeper I got into the addiction the more fucked up it got. 6 months is a long time, that's great to hear. I plan to abstain from all sexual activity for a month and see where that takes me.