General masturbation discussion can go here too

I saw that at the end of the description of what this forum is designed to include. I was pleased to read that. The reason being, that there is a significant minority of people in the community that do not watch porn or seldom watch porn - perhaps they do not have an addiction to porn. However, they only have a problem with masturbation. I have seen people saying this getting dismissed before now and told categorically that porn is the monster and masturbation is meh!

For virtually 30 years (ages 13-42), I was a habitual masturbator and I could not bring it under control. Ten years ago, when I first got a computer, I was curious about porn. I didn't realise it at the time, but four years ago I came here when I realised I was addicted to both behaviours. Mine may be an unusual story - to have never seen even a porn mag photo of a nude before the age of 42. But there are people with unusual stories out there. It is imperative people feel that this community accommodates everyone.

 

really ?? man ! were you living on a space station or sth ? anyways its good for you that you luckily did not discover any kind of porn during your formative years.
but like you pointed out that masturbation is not such a good thing either. so this forum is a very welcome move by the nofap staff.
also going hardmode beyond rebooting has its very unique advantages as well (more free time, less distraction, more drive for achieving goals etc.) which are not present when one's in a relationship. so once again, this is a great subforum. looking forward to some great discussions and threads on this forum.

 

Haha, yeah you might think that. It was because I had a very strict religious upbringing. Although I could not prevent myself from masturbating, I knew porn was out of bounds, so I never tried to obtain it. I left home at twenty and my principles held true and I held out for another twenty two years when living on my own. But when I got a computer, I was just overwhelmed with curiosity. Once Pandora's box is opened, it is massively hard to forget what you have seen.

 

But Brother....Now you are doing very well...Past mistake taught us lot of things...I also learnt a lot of things...Thats now i am on day 138....Our failures are our great teacher....If we r agree with this fact....

 

Yes, you are right @John DK. You, too, are doing very well. In fact, in two weeks you will be five months free of PMO!

 

Right @IGY Today on dayb138...I am feeling awesome...Before nofap i was feeling like shit....Now everything is changed...Yaa i will definetly hit 5 month

 

agree with @John DK , u are making up for it all and doing really well with nofap now. keep it up.

 

Thanxx broo

 

I would suggest, start to read yourself through several journals of people, who have been able to abstain and reboot themselve successfull over the 90 days period. There are many inspiring and motivating texts to find here, if you are willing to explore them, that should answer your questions. It´s an individual process in my opinion, because it depends a lot by your former and actual life circumstances, habits, believes and personal needs.