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Hi there gronkychris,

That's an interesting question and one that applies to me. I'm not sure if there's a "technical" answer to this. For me, because masturbating while bottoming is part of sexual intercourse with another person and porn (my major focus) is not involved, I would say it's okay. What I have found is that due to porn, I'm not able to stay hard when bottoming most of the time.

Jay

 

Hey there.
As @denvernightowl has said I think it's okay too, as it'd be part of an experience with another person and porn is not related. But me personally I don't bottom but during sex and during my reboot (outside hard mode times) I'd rather not masturbate myself and just let the other guy do it.
But all in all I think only you can decide, there's no right or wrong way in my opinion. Do what feels natural and works for you.

 

Nice initiative guys! Congratulations to all... Keep going!

 

Hey gronkychris, I don't think that masturbating while bottoming will break your PM challenge. I think it's just the fact about masturbating alone that is bad. To me you are still having sex.

Masturbating alone needs fantasy to get off, thinking about the hot guy at work or social events etc.

 

OMG all those site were my demise ...

 

I think the gay culture and media is creating lots of temptation. I wonder if there is a way to live with it, or do I have to shut it out completely.

 

So how about mutual masturbation with my boyfriend? I am currently on PM mode, we would have sex but i refrain from touching myself at all. It does help to make me focus on the experience. But I find it super difficult, I have urges and I am quite stressed out and irritated. And now I feel that I don't like to initiate sexual intercourse that much... thinking it isnt enjoyable without touching myself at all...

 

Hi Ullfigureitout Why do you say its so difficult to see guys as fuck buddies and being for open relationship? I am non-Westerners as well. would l like to discuss more about types of relationships.

 

I don't know of anyone else has had this experience but being recently single I've done some soul searching and I don't want to get involved in the hookup culture or the dating apps like match, tinder, etc. I'm finding it pretty difficult to keep my mind off of the urges or to fixate on past relationships, anyone have words of advice or something that helped them through?

 

Hi there!

I'd like to know how do you make a soul searching since I'm experiencing the same situation as you describe. I'm not into just hooking with anyone, even if they are attractive. I my previous relationship didn't left good hopes. I don't want to be hopeless, so please tell me, how do you do to keep it up?

 

http://www.yourbrainrebalanced.com/index.php?topic=15558.0

this is one super amazing post about soul searching. It is a mega huge task, I bet lots of people haven't figured it out yet. But those who did must be getting closer to success!

I am tbh pretty lost atm...

 

i need major help. i am part of the hookup culture. i have been doing it for the past 2 years now. i dont think of it as that much of an issue.. but ive been doing it so often it's impossible to go through nofap... i have had PIED for the past 3 years... and ive been doing positions other than topping, but sometimes i can top but it has to get to that point fast and unprotected. it's just not safe (got tested recently, clean, and scared enough to stop hookup until nofap is completed)

its just very hard and sometiems i feel like something else SURELY is wrong with me other than p addiction, but... i have all the signs. god this sucks

 

Hi Everyone!

I'm a 26 year old cisgender gay man living life in seattle. I just recently heard about nofap on the nytimes after i finished fapping lol. i think im gonna try giving rebooting a go. i definitely see PMOing affecting my interactions with men i find attractive (i get super anxious and afraid and down on myself). i also feel like i get depressed a lot at work and i think the PMOs may be affecting that.

Either way, i'm excited to try this new experiment of abstaining from PMOs and seeing how my life might change for the better and happier. i already feel like im going in a better direction for healing.

Thanks for reading. Cheers to all of you. Let's keep each other accountable.

Love,
Dandy

 

Hi everyone,I am a 21 Years old gay guy. I'm italian and i'm sorry for future grammar mistakes! I choose to join in this community beacuse I think that I need to slow down with porn and masturbation... Usually I faps one or two time a day and i'm afraid to be dipendent of this. I'm 4 days without fapping anyway and its so hard to remain "sober" i hope to talk with someone for to help and to be helped!

 

If this forum still exist I would like to join. I'm gay. 35 years old. I'm dealing with a PMO addiction. I would like to find support of other gay men. Gay men because as a gay you are dealing with other triggers. If it is possible I would like to join.
Thank you.

Yours,

Daniel

 

I hope this group and forum still exists; it would really help me with my own pmo addiction.
NoFap has helped very much so far.

 

Currently on Day 3 of P-mode...finding that M isn't so easy without the P....but I guess that's the whole point! So, it looks like an O will be awhile in coming (pun intended).

 

Hi all, I'm 26 this year. I have been exposed to porn when I was around 12.

I watched a tv show where they showed naked guys and at that time, I have just learned how to use Internet at school.
Since then I'm addicted to porn and my appetite grown from googling images of cock to video as I grown up. I watched with guilt all the time and I didn't know I'm gay at the time.

I learned how to masturbate only when I'm 15. Since then I guess I have been masturbating once everyday.

Side Effects that I suspect I got:
1) Smaller Dick
2) Hair is less thick, and have hair loss problem
3) Have a tummy (I have been trying hard to get nice abs)
4) Hard to get erection without porn
5) No motivation to do other stuff other than looking at porn materials.

I have started no PMO since mid of last month. Best streak so far is no PMO for 9 days. Aiming for 14 days.

Questions that I have in mind that I have for no PMO Challenge:
1) Does it break the rule if other guy jerk off for you?
2) Can someone have anal sex during the challenge?

Looking for support in this group and hope that I can give back by sharing what I have learned & experienced and fight this addiction together!

 

Hey all, is the Gay Rebooters group still active? I sent a join request a day ago, just wondering if that's still monitored or how long it usually takes. I'm on day 17 of hard mode, have some stuff I'd like to ask fellow gay rebooters that's somewhat unique to our particular situation.

 

hi, i'm not sure it is still running.I can ask for you if you like?