Frustration at 51

Hi @Lorel1978,

Welcome to NoFap. I am sure you will get lots of help and advice here. Mostly good, and sometimes not. Take it all with the knowledge that we are all simply human and strangers giving each other our own opinions. I can't give a straight answer, especially as I don't know how bad your PMO was, whether you stopped of your own accord or were "forced" to because your SO caught you. So many factors influence the changes and time needed to recover.

I noticed your post because I am also 51 years old, and couldn't understand why I didn't experience the sky opening and angels singing when I got to 90 days. I eventually had to realise that there is no "magic day" that determines when we get back to normal. There are SO many factors that can affect us: how long and how often we PMO'd, what our health is like, how strong the relationship with our SO is , how much damage we caused etc. and how much anxiety we have about sex without P. Our mental state and ability to forgive ourselves enough to enjoy our partner without letting our past actions affect our current experience.

Stay strong and get as much information as you can here, and consider getting medical advice to ensure your plumbing is up to the tasks!