Free from porn but not from real life young women.

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by JJTorres, Aug 12, 2018.

  1. JJTorres

    JJTorres Fapstronaut

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    God delivered me from pornography recently but now the new challenge is when i'm in the public and see young women in short/long tight jeans that are not skinny nor slightly obese, but neutral weight or normally overweight.
    Also i get more horny (excuse me for the word) when she has blonde, redhair or light brown hair than when she has dark hair like black or dark brown. Also if she has eyeglases the lust increases.
    It was so strong in had to go to the bathroom and masturbate thinking in all i saw in there.
    All that happened in a supermarket.
    How am i suppose to work in a supermarket where such strong temptation is there?
    And what about going out in public in general?
    How can i go to my doctors, church,
    apply for a job, facebook,or go to a birthday party?
    Thanks guys i know you are gonna help me out.
     
  2. realliferealman

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    Just talk to the girls..Invite them to fuck may be..so u no need to masturbate and have ur nice load release..is that what u want??
     
  3. JJTorres

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    What i want is to have sex within marriage and out of love not lust. And your advice was not helpful at all.
     
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  4. GA93JDeereboy

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    Stop PMO. Focus on your goals in life and stop thinking about those women. You need to learn how to train your mind to not go there. After awhile it will fade kind of like an old memory my guess. Focus on your career and in getting yourself financially stable of you are not and
     
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  5. Stopping porn was a good step, now try the plunge, stop M, until your mind has had a chance to heal. M is keeping you locked into these thoughts.
    You want a real relationship and to do that you need to get beyond seeing women as objects of lust. It will come. Don't give up. Being able to get past the P and M and into O with one you care about is amazing. Not to mention how you will feel about yourself as a person.
     
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  6. Love Salvation

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    Your answer is deliveramce healing and just fighting the good fight
     
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  7. JJTorres

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    Exactly ☺
     

  8. Have a phrase or action that you’ll do when tempted to look and lust. I change my thinking to things I need to get done for the day.

    Or I’ll think of bizarre things not related to sex, my favorite that I’ve come up with is pink elephants. I was sitting in an office one day and this amazing looking woman came into the office. I thought I need to think about anything other than this woman and it can’t be about sex and the thought of pink elephants came to mind. I thought about them flying around with there lil’ wings. Crazy and sounds stupid but I wasn’t thinking anymore about that woman and sex! So that’s a suggestion, hope it helps.
     
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  9. JJTorres

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    Thanks HopeForBrightFuture
    For your suggestion. Although instead of pink elephants i thought of Jesus and was delivered from distorted lust.
     
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  10. Quite a challenge the last couple of days. The flight attendants I see can be incredibly amazing looking women. I have to remember my own advice! Sometimes it’s just keep walking and focus on my work.

    Once in a while I’ll get a chance to talk to the flight attendants and 99% of the time they’re great friendly women and that helps me not see them as sex objects.

    The female customer service agents are easier to not lust after. They’re beautiful but they hate us mechanics. When I see them the only thought that comes to mind is, “She wants me dead. I had better move along”. Hard to lust after someone that detests you! LOL!
     
  11. Talking is probably a good idea for you. It let's you know it's a person and not an object or image.
     
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