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Flirting ?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by Kman20, Nov 11, 2017.

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  1. Kman20

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    I have an online female friend that I met a long time ago and we’ve gotten really close. We always send pics and videos (not sexual, our everyday life stuff) to each like everyday and I’d say she’s one of my closest friends now. The other day though we started flirting through text(wasn’t anything sexual just complimenting each other and stuff) and I got really aroused by it and even wet. Is this bad ? I mean it isn’t porn so it shouldn’t be right? Should I even be worried ? I used to be into cyber sex chatting but we didn’t do anything like that just little compliments and flirting thst aroused me a bit.
     
  2. It can lead to serious attachment... I met a girl on a social app years ago and we ended up becoming super close, talking and snapchat with her everyday and it got to the point where she was basically my online girlfriend unintentionally... I had to let go of her and it was hard. Every now and then I'll still think about her and have a crazy thought about making a road trip to see her.
     
  3. Rebooter1221

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    I have same situation, I met Chinese girl in Internet and we have been close for 2 years. We have been sending pics ect. We were kinda like gf and bf. She wants to meet me. But I guess I got addicted to contact with her because I got to the point when I was treating contact with her like porn. I have now rare contact trough email with her and she still wants to meet me and she still feels close to me. I'm not sure what to think about it
     
  4. lantti

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    Well I myself have allowed to be with contact with women. I've even fantasized about them. It actually releases some pressure valves of the urges, and I'm not masturbating, orgasming or watching porn, so I'm okay with this. Our need is not to fuck, it's to talk and be social and be in touch, so to speak.
    These three days have been by far the easiest, and I've been doing this nofap for an year.
     
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  5. Rebooter1221

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    What do you think guys? It's alright to have online friend? Is it like normal friend?
     
  6. I think this is only going to escalate and become more of a trigger for you. I'd stop with the pictures. Friends don't send each other pictures of themselves... if one of my friends did that to me I'd say, "the hell was that bro?"
     
  7. lantti

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    Do as you wish.
     
  8. STAR DUST

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    IF YOU LIKE HER GO HANG OUT WITH HER AND GO IN FOR THE KISS DO IT WHILE YOU ARE TALKING. TIME TO TAKE IT TO THE NEXT LEVEL!
     
  9. STAR DUST

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    IF SHE IS OUT OF TOWN FIND A CHICK CLOSER PLAY THE FIELD IT WILL ONLY MAKE HER LIKE YOU MORE ANYWAY. GIRLS WANT GUYS THAT OTHER GIRLS WANT. YOU GOT THIS MAN.
     
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  10. HatePorn

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    THEN SAY "HEY GIRL....WANNA SEE MY THING? MY BROKEN CAPS LOCK ON THE KEYBOARD?" MUHAHHAHAHA.....SHIT, THIS MIGHT ACTUALLY WORK ON A DATING SITE
     
  11. STAR DUST

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    Funny. I have decided to use normal words, because I am an advocate for self transformation. It is kind of hard to do that when you are distracting people with the caps lock. I only want to help people. Sorry if I come of as patronizing. You are finding your way. Do what ever works for you. Best of luck on your Nofap journey. :)
     
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  12. Ready to be healthy

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    He said they were not sexual pictures- my friends and I send pictures to each other often- of something funny we saw or if we are some place nice and we think they would like it- it's normal.
     
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  13. If the OP is posting concern here, obviously it's more then just two close friends sending pictures to one another in a casual or joking manner. He's also confessed that they are now flirting via text, that he's become aroused by it, and that he has a history of struggling with cyber chatting (how many more red flags do you need?). Please do not give bad advice. This will escalate into something sexual if it continues.
     
  14. rubedo

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    yes but this is with a real person, I dont see the problem..
     
  15. You make a good point, especially if these two are dating/engaged/married. There are many on these forums, myself included, who would consider cyber chatting just as dangerous as pornography in terms of addictive behavior.

    If she becomes his SO, then the parameters change. But if this is simply escalating into a form of cyber chatting, it could lead to a pattern of seeking out other mediums that continue to fuel that arousal.
     
  16. Ready to be healthy

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    I'm not giving bad advice!! I simply pointed out that the pictures were not sexual- I didn't say he should continue that behaviour and I then went onto to say that friends swapping pictures is quite normal- which was aimed at another poster not the OP... So I'd thank you to revise that last statement you made.
     
  17. noonoon

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    Just be careful. If you think it could lead to a real-life relationship, than maybe it's worth it. If the relationship will always be confined to cyberspace you might ask yourself why you're doing it? What's your motivation? Is it the dopamine hit? If so, probably should avoid it.
     
  18. Hitto

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    lol I did too but I realized it was for the better that we never speak again and I was pmoing at the time had low self esteem
     
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  19. brod2018

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    I don't think that's the greatest thing. Me and my ex were a little bit like you and your friend because it was a long distance relationship. She was still living in my hometown while I went to the capital to attend college. We used to talk like for hours late at night about random shit like i love you,you love me blablabla... and sending pictures of ourselves and stuff we did. And seriously it did not lead to anywere. We broke up after 3 months because those things actually didnt bring us closer and calmed down the urge to see each others (like we should have missed each other more than that but we didnt because we talked everyday). Even when we meet in weekends we didnt have to talk about anything because we already knew what the other one was doing and little by little we got bored of each other. Have a friendly meeting with your friend to know her. Maybe you'll find yourself that you didnt actually have feelings for her. Or maybe you have and you should take it to the next level. And about getting aroused yeah it happened to me too when we were on the phone. It's normal and when you get used to the person it goes by itself. But we never sexted. And seriously man you have a life and more important stuffs to do than talking all day long on social medias. Have a busy life.
     
  20. You sound thirsty for affection. Are there any ladies in your real life who flirt with you? This might be a clue your body is giving you to get out there and connect with some REAL womenfolk. Your body needs that. Your soul craves it , her textual flirtation awaken your innermost desire for real love.
     
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