first sexual experience

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by goodnice 2.0, Jun 16, 2019.

  1. goodnice 2.0

    goodnice 2.0 Fapstronaut

    It’s been about 4 months without fapping

    Went to third base with a girl. Intimacy and skin to skin contact is nice. Didn’t O, didn’t even take off my pants because i didn’t wanna go all the way.

    My conclusions and experience:

    Kissing was a big letdown. I thought making out would be awesome (you know, in the movies it looks so great) but it really wasn’t good. Perhaps it’s cuz i wasn’t doing it “right”. Does anyone else feel this way?

    The vagina smells bad. I had always had fantasies of giving oral but i would prefer not to do it now. Anyone else feel this way?

    Sex is best when you have first developed a close emotional bond
    Last edited: Jun 16, 2019
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  2. Infrasapiens

    Infrasapiens Fapstronaut

    Everything feels better if you have a close emotional bond. I would rather masturbate forever than to lose my virginity to someone I barely know.
  3. Dag

    Dag Fapstronaut

    Vaginas are not supposed to smell bad.
    Usually is bad higine.

    Possible trigger!!!

    Some girls pussy smell really bad others don't smell at all until they ars wet or came, but that smell depends on the girl. Can be hard or not that hard.

    When a girl jS a smelly pussy I never give oral. Just finger and of course sex.

    Last girl that I was with was amazing.
    Try to lick her clit intead of going tonge in becauss of the taste it may disgust you. Clits have less of a taste.
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  4. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut

    Eww, o_O it smells fishy to me! :eek:
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  5. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    You took @llortaton lines lol.

    @goodnice 2.0
    Really appreciate you sharing this.

    Good for you for showing restraint. Kudos for taking good notes too.

    I’m getting the picture you guys made out but only you went for the v-jayjay? Did she offer it?

    I’m so sorry you had the bad smell thing.

    It’s gonna sound really silly of me, but it’s design is not really setup for oral enjoyment. Yes I am an expert oral now, but had to learn a lot through trial and error.

    Clits are not easy for beginners to find and the hole itself is often a snakepit... but they can be quite fishy or smelly. In the cases that you discover this, it’s literally because of the fungus that is normal and natural for vaginas has simply overtaken it. Could be other dietary things that exasperate that. Sugar is usually the main culprit. Women can have higher levels of yeast infections because of the nature of the environment is perfect for it— warm, dark and damp.

    BUT... I think you were turned off by the kissing and I don’t blame you. A sloppy or amateur kisser can really be a turn off. Someone who vacuums your mouth needs to have a good idea on how to follow your lead or tease you with a good tongue. Slobbering your way through it is a recipe for disaster and sexual awkwardness. You’re left wiping your mouth like a kid at a carnival and it’s messy and not inviting.

    Oral sex is by far the best way to “give” selflessly. And I personally enjoy it. I don’t know if I have some disorder, but I don’t necessarily need the relationship part anymore—- in fact relationship can make natural passion awkward at times.

    I am really picky on sexual partners anyway but the last time I gave oral was with a goddess of a German girl ... and she was 6’0. Our chemistry was off the charts. For her the finale was earth-shattering and you will notice their thighs will rock intensely as a result. Sometimes they shake.

    You have seen it in porn movies. It’s just like driving a car in an arcade vs real thing. They are different. Don’t get discouraged. I can orgasm and make a girl orgasm with just making out (kissing). It’s totally possible. Don’t get down on the first weird experience.

    First time I fingered my girlfriend I did what every guy does... I smelled my finger to see what they smell like. And yeah it’s Exactly as everyone else’s girl smells. Down the road they learn more about themselves and hygiene. You will see.
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  6. goodnice 2.0

    goodnice 2.0 Fapstronaut

    thanks man. didn’t trigger me at all. we had been fooling around for a long time beforehand, and i built up the tension for her for a very very long time so she was probably wet af. Maybe that’s why it smelled. Maybe she hadn’t taken a shower all day also.

    it’s fine honestly. do you like kissing? i thought i would enjoy it much more, but it didn’t turn me on at all
  7. goodnice 2.0

    goodnice 2.0 Fapstronaut

    ya we grinded and stuff. she sat on my lap, that led to touching and then i pleasured her. I don’t wanna get too explicit here
    dude my girl was doing it too. i was wondering if she was faking cuz her thighs were shaking and she seemed to be having intense quivering with just me kissing her neck. But i guess it was legit

    dang lol i’m into tall girls as well cuz long legs.

    Thanks for the reply, hope we didn’t trigger too many people who read this
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  8. goodnice 2.0

    goodnice 2.0 Fapstronaut

    @Dag @need4realchg

    Can you get STDs just from giving a girl oral? I got scared at the thought so i stopped
  9. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Well ... I know this is gonna sound callous but you can get triggered in an SA meeting. Even talking about your own memories can trigger you...

    I’m more about empowerment than worrying that someone can be triggered. I can be stuck if I never say how I feel and I’m pmo has had me stuck for too long.

    As for the std—- I’m not a doctor ; I know stds can be passed by non sexual ways. Skin to skin can pass some —- saliva can pass others ( herpes primarily) and if you have any skin tears or open sores; best to abstain.

    You can get some stds from showering after an infected person.

    I don’t know how to advise you seeing you haven’t even had sex yet.

    My only rule is to don’t fuck when she’s on her period. Way too risky.

    If you want 100 protection you need to not do anything with anyone and ask for their drug test results.

    My little cousin went to the d.r. And freaked out cause a chick did a blowjob on him without a condom. I hate to minimize any std but they all suck.
    And yes you can get std from giving or getting.
  10. Ra's Al Ghul

    Ra's Al Ghul Fapstronaut

    Some people like seafood.
  11. Dag

    Dag Fapstronaut

    I think you do.

    But gotta keep your exams up to date to know that.
  12. goodnice 2.0

    goodnice 2.0 Fapstronaut

    frick... i don’t think i’m gonna do anything like this again then. it’s way too risky

    I sorta feel like everyone else does it and seems fine though. What are the odds of getting an std though?
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  13. delhiboy

    delhiboy Fapstronaut

    You need to be horny enough to not care about how she smells down there..
    But yeah STD are real thing be safe.
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  14. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Lol! The odds Compared to what? To abstinence ? Abstinence is the safest way to avoid STD. Problem is we get and give STDs without ever knowing we have one.

    Also you can get an STD and be asymptomatic. No signs of it. Good for you — bad for your partners.

    You might be able to look up statistics by the health dept and see what is prevalent in your country/area.

    STDs statistics are still highly stigmatized in spite of their increasing victim size.

    As far as everyone doing it. Yeah , I think in smaller communities your risk is obviously less but overall the fear of an STD is not a good way to prevent risky behaviors. Fear is a temporary fix to an long term problem.

    Eventually everyone loses or overcomes fear-based incentives and says... I just wanna do Whatever they want.

    Mega cities statistically will have worse stats but ppl can easily travel from a big city to a small town. So just remember that.

    Honestly—- everyone probably IS doing it , they just aren’t as aware or worried about STDs. Good for you for being concerned.
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  16. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut

    Yuck! :eek: At the very least, she should clear away the smegma on her vulva! o_O
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  17. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Girls don’t have smegma looool.

    My girlfriend actually calls that yogurt. And it’s a good thing for the moist part.

    No pun intended. :oops:
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  18. IGY

    IGY Fapstronaut

    Of course they do. o_O

    Check Wikipedia - trigger warning [picture].
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  19. need4realchg

    need4realchg Fapstronaut

    Well I definitely learned something today! Thanks igy .

    1). picture wasn’t triggering for me —- which is a great update.

    2). Ahhhh yes. I have seen smegma before I thought it was called something different or caused by something h different.

    3). wahhhhhh I really miss sex!! Fuck!!
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  20. Despicable me

    Despicable me Fapstronaut

    As far as I know, vaginas smell for three main reasons: unwashed, period or infection (std or fungus). Kissing a girl who you have deeper connection, is naturally enjoyable. Add some sexual tension and it gets better. Trying too hard, no emotional connection and performance anxiety/overthinking are the reasons for poor kissing quality. Thats what I have noticed in my experiences.
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