First orgasm in nearly 2 weeks

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by Soul Cage, Feb 10, 2014.

  1. Soul Cage

    Soul Cage Fapstronaut

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    It's all about baby steps and small victories....

    Nearing the 2 week mark now, which isn't a long time but a big deal for me in terms of abstinence. On the contrary to what I expected I have been quite enjoying the process of abstinence, instead of suffering I have gained satisfaction from the challenge and the liberating feeling of taking control of my urges. Of course I have had moments of great temptation and plenty of time alone with the computer etc. but I know this would be twice as hard if I didn't have this online community to go to.

    Had some intense foreplay with my wife last night, didn't have sex, but it is the first orgasm since starting Nofap, and it was powerful, guilt free and it was good. There have been no opportunities for chasers since and I don't intend for there to be. I think when it comes to sex quality wins over quantity every time, what had been happening previously is I had been having lots and lots of frequent, lonely and poor quality orgasms. One night making a real connection with a real human being is worth more than a month of crap wanks!

    I have realised the same thing I realised when I gave up smoking, that actually I'm not missing out on anything, because PMO wasn't doing anything for me in the first place, I just thought it was. In reality it was simply perpetuating the urges that I was seeking to fulfil by doing it! Ridiculous yes!

    So far I have gained... a feeling of self respect, a feeling of strength from self control, a greater appreciation for my wife's body. It is also refreshing for once not to be torturing my mind with images and fantasies of unrealistic women.So I intend to carry on towards my goal of 30 days..and then, if I'm still feeling good, I'll step it up to 60 days, then if I'm still feeling good, 90 days... I hear this is the average minimum abstinence period needed for rebooting of those neural pathways.

    Thankyou to all who have posted on this forum and given their experiences and encouragement, sharing is caring ;)
     
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  2. CrazyGopher

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    Hey man! it sounds like you are feeling good, and one reason is because you have realized that it's much easier to connect with your wife when you don't have lots of poor quality orgasms. It sounds like you really value that connection.

    Well I think that sounds awesome! Hope to hear more from ya as your progress continues.
     
  3. ColeO

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    Excellent! You're getting a real human connection and not some fake orgasm. Keep going and long as you can and then some! :D
     
  4. Soul Cage

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    Thanks both of you for your words of encouragement, I do value the connection as it's the only thing that is real. Had a bad morning today though, stayed in bed a little too long, spent half an hour having a serious battle with myself. For the first time I Indulged in some serious edging and nearly messed it all up (no pun intended). In the end I had to just had to get up and stick the thing under the cold shower head, feeling pretty sore now. Kept thinking about that counter though, which really helped. Well one day at a time I guess.

    Regards.
     
  5. psycho

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    Yea man! first victorys!
    keep going, stay busy and control yourself!
    self control is the most important thing in this challenge, its all about self control over these temptations
     
  6. Soul Cage

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    Thanks Psycho, and congratulations, looks like you've just reached the 2 week mark :)
     

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