I am about 5 months into nofap, trying to cure my ED and better myself, so I keep stumbling on this term, either on self improvement or dating advice books/videos. It is supposed to help with be more attractive in dating and also withstand life's troubles in general. Well... I got nothing. Even in my 20's I had nothing. Sure I had some ideas, I wanted to go pro at basketball (not tall or talented enough) and I found gunsmithing quite interesting (not applicable outside USA basically) but unfortunately none would be applicable. Being now in my 40's, I got a stable civil servant job which although it doesn't fulfill me, it is passionless and lacks giving me motive for improving myself, it would certainly be catastrophic to quit from since there's no chance that I would find something that would even remotely pay the bills in the economic status my country is right now. Some suggest the idea to turn my hobby into my job and I have several skills but none of them is in such amount that I could open up a shop. Definitely my big goal right now is getting cured and find a life partner but (from what I understand) in this rewiring stage I need a girlfriend to achieve that... How can someone's means to achieve a purpose can also be the purpose itself? (Not to mention how bad is for someone on my state to be so much dependent on another person, even more a girlfriend) I'd truly appreciate some other insight because I'm hitting a dead end with this one.