Finding my way

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by H31PM3, Apr 30, 2018.

  1. H31PM3

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    I’ve tried to stop PMO before and saw great results. After years of PIED, I started to feel like myself again. Then after a while the excuses, the bad habits and the PMO lifestyle took back over. Needless to say the PIED came back, the guilt ridden lifestyle and loneliness from the shame of my actions. This has been harder for me than quitting smoking and that took me almost five years. Interestingly enough this is the fourth year since I discovered PIED, PMO and the no cap movement. I can’t even say why I decided to stop PMO this time. I guess you could consider it a ‘cold turkey’ decision. It definitely hasn’t been easy, but it seems to be something I feel can be achieved successfully now. I see a lot of encouraging stories in the forums and I know it isn’t easy. I’m rooting for success and happiness for all of you! I intend to keep posting as I find my way. Feel free to comment on my journey!
     
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  2. bobby_100

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    yeah i think we feel same for everyone.....
     
  3. Brooklyn Jerry

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    You've come to the right place to help you beat the habit.I tried a few times and when i thought I was cured stopped reading and posting and soon fell off the wagon.
     
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  4. bobby_100

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    yeah @Brooklyn Jerry i agree since u are one of the most experience and senior here we always follow you
     
  5. Brooklyn Jerry

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    Thanks Bobby, I am surely one of the older guys here and been jerking off at least 50 years sorry to say. But I sure want to quit on my own,not because I can't physically do it any more. This is a good place to be able to admit to things Ive done that couldn't do in person. Some days it's tough to not PMO but I am determined not to do it any more.
     
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  6. bobby_100

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    i am just around the corner with you i am 48 and stopped fapping for 50 days or more ...feel ok not so great i found nofap great
     
  7. H31PM3

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    Thanks for the comments guys! I know that being open and honest about this problem is helpful, but I can’t just be open and honest without some aspect of privacy. It’s not something I want people to know about me. I think that is why these forums are helping so many people. This is a sensitive issue but an important one to address. I know I would definitely help anyone who would admit this to me face to face, but I not able to do a face to face admission. I hope this does not make me doomed from the start.
     
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  8. Brooklyn Jerry

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    H31,Thats the reason we come here.I couldn't tell any of my friends about this habit.I am sure some guys I know watch porn and MO.Some do talk about lack of sex at home and one friend does frequent "foot spas" at least once a week.
    You aren't doomed,your on the right path.
     
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  9. Unhooked

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    I think the more time you spend on here, the more comfortable you will be opening up anonymously to the friends you make here. Whether that translates to a face to face admission seems to vary by individual. I have told things on here that I have never confessed to any other person. There are at least three people who know of my P use, but none of them knows any details about some of what I've written in these forums. I find no significant difference between my face to face accountability people and my online friends.
     
  10. H31PM3

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    At this point in my life, these comments mean a great deal to me. A very sincere thanks to you both unhooked and Brooklyn Jerry.
     
  11. bobby_100

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    @Brooklyn Jerry what do they get from footspas
     
  12. Brooklyn Jerry

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    Foot spas here are fronts for rub and tug massage parlours.You know for a tip you get a happy ending(make the banana cry). I live in LI in NY pretty good area. They are in many.storefronts in strip malls.
     
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  13. bobby_100

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    oh ok i dont know about that as i am from pakistan ...
     
  14. bobby_100

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    you mean to say that these offer handjobs like thing..lol
     
  15. H31PM3

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    I was kind of curious about what time period was most difficult for people during reboot. Right now I feel like I have a pretty stable mood but will have fleeting moments of difficulty. Kind of like an ‘I need a fix’ mentality but it doesn’t last very long. Probably because I think too damn much and I start running through all of the negative after effects of a relapse. Any thoughts out there?
     
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  16. Brooklyn Jerry

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    They will even give a BJ and intercourse for the right price.
     
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  17. bobby_100

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    where are these places
     
  18. bobby_100

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    i quoted beofre i was abstainent for 50 plus days but suddendly today morning relapsed twice the same time... before that i didnt even touch the whole thing and today could leave withotu touching the whole things and ejacualted to much thinking about a women i always fantasize about .
     
  19. Brooklyn Jerry

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    They are all over here in Long Island in NY.
     
  20. bobby_100

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    i am to far aways i m from pakistan
     

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