female attraction real or not???for the average looking guy

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  1. Tony Montana and scarface also like in the movie
     
  2. GG2002

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    Actually it was Lil Kim in her song “money power respect.” 50 cent used that like later.
     
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  3. SanityOverVanity

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    This is true.
     
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  4. bobby_100

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    hmm well in some way not all the women
     
  5. GG2002

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    The best advice I can give you on approaching women is eye contact. Before you approach a woman, you need to make eye contact with her. If you cannot catch her gaze at least two times, then do not approach. If you can catch her gaze twice, the second time smile and see if she smiles back, then it’s a go. Just go over and say hello. I cannot tell you how women will judge a man based on looks or qualities. We will each be looking for something different. And sometimes, it may just be the situation. We may be out with our girlfriends having a good time, and not interested in being hit on. But if you can get the eye contact, it’s almost always a sign she would be open to you approaching. I say do it twice because sometimes people accidentally make eye contact once, but rarely twice.
     
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    In what sense, do you mean women do not show their intentions are clear? Honestly I could say the same about men. I have dated men who act like they want a serious relationship, but don’t. With women, you need to understand that we are schooled from a young age, that we should not be pushy, or aggressive. In fact, many dating bloggers today advice professional women who are aggressive at work, to step back and let the man do the leading, to be seen more feminine. Society also teaches both genders that women want marriage and relationships, and men want to run away from marriage and relationships. So a woman is often hesitant to DTR (define the relationship) first. If she does she fears the man will get scared and run away, and I can say from personal experience this is true in most cases. I have tried both approaches, I have said right out, hey I am really interested in you I would like to have a relationship, and I have waited around for the guy to say that and make the move, guess which ones worked better? My best friend was dating a guy for two months. She let him chase. Then for the first time, she texted him and asked to go out, and she set up a date. She never heard from him again. So if a woman plays coy or is sending mixed signals, I am willing to bet that’s why. We are not to be too available to men. Look if people were just honest and said what they meant and meant what they said, things would work so much better. But they don’t. Women play games, because men play games.
     
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    Play this song for her. It will melt any woman's heart.
     
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  8. bobby_100

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    yeah u are right most of the women are looking for long term relationship not causal hook but some of them really do so i am looking for that kind of hookup with someone even i am married..
    all of mylife till this age never had any relation or causal hookup woth any one i am not into escorts and the coutnry where i live
    is not open as it is in the western countries... however lot of happening is going on in here ... i am trying to abstain from faping to see if my confidence with women builds and and makes me for
    attractive or whatever it may lead to finding trustworthy female partner ...
     
  9. GG2002

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    If a woman is looking for a casual hook up, they will usually tell you that. If you are not sure then ask. But I think it’s best to presume that they are not. You are even less likely to find a woman who will voluntarily have that kind of relationship with a married man. Because again they are looking for a relationship. There are a lot of open marriages and swingers in the US. I have several close married friends that do it, but it is by consent, meaning they both know what the other is doing. If not, then the lies will kill the relationship. If your goal is recovery, I would not recommend cheating to help with that.
     
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    Dude why are you even on NoFap? First of all this inappropriate to post and may trigger some men. Second, women are not objects and third the amount of anger and hate being thrown at women is not okay? You will never be able to recover if you don’t treat women with respect and let go of your clear anger and bitterness towards women. Or you can feed it with all the other angry and bitter men on here, but you won’t be getting anywhere beyond here.
     
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    i will read your quote and will reply in detail as long as for now
    i am pakistan and things are very different everything is done behind
    window curtain...will elaborate later
     
  12. Gotham Outlaw

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    The song was a joke. It's not meant to be taken seriously.
     
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    Thanks. I am very interested in hearing how things work in a culture different than mine.
     
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    I once read an article ( I might be able to find it back) that say you shouldn't make it as it places you in the same box as all other men. I found it a pretty weird article as making eye contacts looks likes a normal thing to do. So what are your thoughts on those articles?
     
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    But it’s not funny, it’s
    If a woman sees you and thinks you are attractive it truly does not matter if you are in a box with other men, she will make eye contact with you and be open to an approach. That’s the unknown. A woman could be attracted to you and open to speaking to you or not. You can’t control that. The point of making eye contact is not to entice her to talk to you it’s to feel out if she’s interested in talking to you.
     
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    I believe he's talking about how women don't generally show interest in a guy at first, not how women act later. He's right - women hide their thoughts and feelings more and leave guys guessing whether they like them or not.

    Men play games, because women play games. We have a chicken and egg thing going on here. Which came first?
     
  17. GG2002

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    Personally I prefer being upfront. If I’m interested I go for it. But I would say for the majority of men that’s a turn off. They want to pursue. So when a woman has tried that approach many times and failed she stops. I mean you use the approach that works right? While you may be the one anomaly who would like it it’s a numbers game so if your style of approach gets rejected almost every time you won’t use it. And like I said it’s very true that women’s dating advice from almost all sources says to let the man take the lead and only show equal interest. They encourage mirroring. So if a man calls you you call back. If he asks you out you go. If he texts you respond but you never initiate. Personally again I’ve tried both approaches and hands down men prefer when you mirror. But if you ask most men they will say no of course not I don’t like to play games but they do it’s just on a subconscious level. If a woman shows too much interest suddenly he no longer feels chemistry but can’t explain why.
     
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    From my perspective: I was approached multiple times by young women, but they did it in a respectless way (the most extreme was, if I want to fuck her right here), so it was a turn off for me - optically they were attractive to me.
     
  19. GG2002

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    No I have never approached anyone like that. But I gotta say that’s not playing games and very direct about what she wants.
     
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    Yep, agree.
    Same reason I looked shabby when I met my wife.. I still say to her .. I needed to know that you did not love me for my money.. to which she responds.. "What money?"
     
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