Feeling like dirt

Discussion in 'Ages 40+' started by irishrover, Mar 11, 2018.

  1. irishrover

    irishrover Fapstronaut

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    Relapsed again tonight. Can't seem to go beyond 3 days of no fapping. Feeling very scared and alone. Don't want to destroy my marriage because of this. I know my triggers but they keep getting the better of me. Must try harder. Must keep phone away or in car when I go to bed. Starting over, feel sick inside but determined. Start date: 11 March 2018. Gotta do this.
     
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  2. db001

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    Hey @irishrover. We are here for you. It can be hard to reprogram ourselves after a long addiction to porn but I know it is possible. Just keep going and never give up. You can do this.
     
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  3. jurt5453

    jurt5453 Fapstronaut

    Doing this is almost like playing a video game. You’ve reached “Level 3”, but you can’t unlock the chamber of light to get the key to move on to “Level 4” (or some crazy trick like that.. lol)

    And like a video game you start over and work back to that point. And one day you will break through. But either way, keep playing, because when you least expect it you will break through.

    You’ve got the first 3 days.. easy! Just power through them again and dare to be different for day 4.

    Don’t be scared. No matter what happens you will have to make a choice each moment of your day. This new life you are creating is for you, and for the rest of your life. Embrace it! You’ve already won, just keep choosing to NoFap and you keep winning.
     
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  4. Jonny123

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    Good to see you on here @irishrover. I am from Ireland too. You will find a lot of support on here. Keep going!
     
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  5. Brooklyn Jerry69

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    Hi Irish Rover,they say admitting you have a problem is the first step in the right direction. Feeling bad about PMOing may help you are n the long run.I have been trying to quit this habit for over 2 years. I have had a few good streaks and quit a few failures. Rejectly I went over 60 days only fail myself. I sure felt down for a few days afterwards. Its now been over a week without PMO, I did have sex last nite and although it went well I kept thinking about my relapse episode. I know my triggers are Facebook and Instagram, I go there look women's and then to porn sites,then the destructive cycle starts over. I wish you well in this endeavour.
     
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  6. bobby_100

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    hey buddy u are better off then me .... i fap and tell my wife as well
    i trying to get over this problem and she is helping me out however the desire and urge to have extra marital relation mkes me go crazy
     
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  7. irishrover

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    Thanks for the comments guys. On a good streak at the moment (6 days) and doing ok so far...kind of helps I was sick over the weekend but hey I'm taking it! Wish you all the very best of luck in your own struggles..
     
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  8. irishrover

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    Sorry I haven't logged in for a while and thanks for the support. Wow, 60 days...I can only dream of that lol, fair play to you. I'd be so happy with that :) Yeah my triggers are being alone after my wife goes to bed then needing the bathroom and then I bring the smartphone in...bad move! So will grab a good book/magazine in future :)! Good luck to you too overcoming yoir triggers, sounds like you've got a good handle on this at least!
     
  9. irishrover

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    Another stupid relapse last night after two days PMO free while on holiday. Got triggered earlier in the day and after a long drive home, didn't have the willpower to count to ten, giving a reason with each number why I don't want to PMO - my usual strategy for avoiding it. Just have to go back to basics. Have to consider leaving my phone in the car at night...need to get back on this horse again and challenge myself! Happy Easter fellow fapstronauts and hope you stay stronger than I have recently :-(.
     
  10. Jonny123

    Jonny123 Fapstronaut

    Sorry to hear about your relapse @irishrover. Great that you are back on the horse. You will get there!
     
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  11. bobby_100

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    Thanks Jonny123!
     
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  13. irishrover

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    Another night, another stupid relapse. I think needing to go the bathroom late at night after my wife's gone to bed is my trigger. Going to try and go to the bathroom a bit before bedtime. At least I know that I have an illness and I have to get better for the sake of my marriage and mental health. Just have to be better and smarter. I have written a set of questions where the answers are all no, and they're all like 'Is this something that will make me feel better the next day?' 'Is this something that will improve me mentally or morally as a person?' Etc...now just to read them every time I feel my triggers rearing their ugly head! The battle continues!
     
  14. Healed!

    Healed! Fapstronaut

    This is great, but it may take more than a mental game with your P brain. Others have reported when they are tempted in the middle of the night, they get up and read, pray or come on NoFap.
     
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  15. Prof Abraham

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    My advice: when you go into the bathroom after your wife goes to bed, to Fap, instead turn the cold shower on and get in. Stand there until you cannot stand it any more. You won't then Fap, but when you go to bed you will feel like a feckin superstar!

    Takes effort, but cold showers are a great "urge missile".

    I am going to do this tonight. Your post has inspired me... Thanks!
     
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  16. bobby_100

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    what is the reason of relapse have sex with her rather then self destroying...
    thats the problem with men and who knows our wives are also into fapping when we are not home or in bad cases things might go bad ....
     
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  17. irishrover

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    Great idea but unfortunately our downstairs bathroom doesn't have a shower...just have to pick up a book instead of my phone I guess :)!
     
  18. irishrover

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    You're right but to be honest a lot of the time she's just not into it. It's a pity cos the sex is great when we do have it. We work on different body clocks. Not that that's an excuse!
     
  19. irishrover

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    You're right. Had another stupid relapse last night. When I get the urge I've started to slap myself in the face, then look for something to read, anything. I really wanna beat this but just feels like an itch I can't scratch sometimes :-(. Just have to keep believing. I fall down, I get up again. PMO's never gonna get me down!
     
  20. bobby_100

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    lol so you find a way out to fap ....jhahaha
     

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