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Failure after 22 weeks.

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by Kyostaa, Jul 13, 2018.

  1. Kyostaa

    Kyostaa Fapstronaut

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    Hello guys.

    So, my problems is not with pornography per se, but with erotic role playing on the internet and all the imagery that comes from it (mostly game characters in porn version, animated, 3d, etc).

    Managed to stay clean for 22 weeks. I avoided all porn, but masturbating every once in a while because I'm unconvinced that masturbation per se is a bad thing.

    Today I entered a erotic role playing site, made a character and started playing. I got really horny, but I quit without orgasming. I had done it a few days ago but it wasn't that intense. I tought I'd be good if I just avoid it. I didn't.

    I didn't fap, but for me it's a fail. A reason to re-start my counter.

    I was going to read some papers (I'm a professor) for the whole afternoon. My neighbour (I live in an appartment) started drilling a hole. I couldn't concentrate. I was alone, in my home, wife at work. So I did this shit.

    I already know all my triggers, so I don't need anyone to tell me what to do. Being alone at home, for example. I need to spend less time on the computer. I already know that installing blockers on my computer don't work. Failed several times with all kinds of locks and passwords but stayed 22 weeks clean with everything with easy access. The key is a strong willpower. Which I lacked today.

    I know exactly what started the spark though. I recently started playing World of Warcraft on a private server. My character was of female gender and that triggered me a lot. I couldn't stop fantasising about it, and some days i'd play for hours straight.

    Now I'm here, holding my tears, picking up a book and trying to convince myself that I'll become the reader that I used to be years ago, and not the player I've became. Trying to convince myself that I am not this person that faps to the internet. I know that those are most likely vain promises.

    My wife and I are planning to have a child coming next year. I can't be this man. I don't want to.
     
  2. First, congratulations on the upcoming kiddo.
    Second, I admire your admittance to the problem.

    I strongly believe you can get over it.
     
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  3. You Can do it Man i bilieve in you
     
  4. I believe in you too, man. I know that feeling when you just can't accept what you're doing. I just recently had a kid and having her in my life just the small amount that she is has helped me to see that watching porn isn't what I want to do. I mean I have a daughter, I can't feel OKAY about this addiction. For instance, I wouldn't feel okay if SHE was a pornstar, so WHY WOULD I WATCH OTHER MENS DAUGHTERS??...

    I can feel your pain and desperation in this post, and I do have to say that you had a great streak so just keep on going! Ive only been able to put together 22 DAYS so you are bad ass in my eyes. Keep your head up.
     
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  5. Kyostaa

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    Thanks for the support people...

    Yeah @Cmv120 I've managed that long, but mostly because in the last 5 months I've been working a lot. Now I'm on semester break and I'm staying at home, mostly. This is also a factor that led me to fail.

    2 days now, tempted to do this crap again.
     
  6. Hey dude, that's not a fail in my opinion. You went 22 weeks without porn. That's fucking impressive. I've only made it two weeks before. Any time you spend away from porn is a win. You can't be hard on yourself for relapsing after 22 weeks. This shit is a journey. Just keep going with it and you'll conquer it.
     
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  7. Kyostaa

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    Thanks for the support @Vinum Sabbathi :)

    Sadly I just did it again.
    It's very hard to restart and I feel like shit right now.
     
  8. I did too actually. I'm about to post about it now. It sucks, but you just keep going.
     
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  9. It's good that you are here talking about it. We are all pulling for you.
    And congratulations on the up coming addition to your family.
    You can beat this thing.
     
  10. CrimsnBlade

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    I'm right there with you man. I recently made it 127 days (about 18 weeks) and relapsed as well. Let's pick it up together. We know what to do, we can do it! You've already made it that far once, this time you can keep the streak going even longer (even forever!).

    I have a 1 year old and having this in my life haunts me all the time. The good news is we can defeat it. We know we can win, we just have to act on it. You know your triggers and what to do to avoid them, I know the same for myself. Good luck, I'll be fighting right along side you.
     
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  11. Same. If you could do it for 22 weeks, what stops you to do it for over 22 weeks?

    Furthermore, you shouldn't cry nor be in an existencial crisis state, we're humans that have a body which triggers our needs. Being able to control, criticise and think about those needs is what differentiates us to other animals.

    What you did is not a failure, it's just a mistake
     
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  12. Arnuld

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    22 weeks is super impressive dude. I know how shitty that relapse feeling is. The lies come in waves- I’m a failure, I‘m a bad person, this is impossible. None of that is true. This is an insanely hard addiction to break. I can tell you are a good dude who really wants to quit. Pick yourself up dust yourself off and get back into the fight
     
  13. Most people I have seen on here have long streaks and then end up yet again addicted. The habit is so strong that it will take more than willpower. It will take building a whole new habit and even still your PMO habit will still be there waiting to be activated.
    But you have a good life and you are smart guy obviously, so you will definitely succeed. Don't beat yourself up, just make sure it is only this one fap and don't dwell on it because things could always get worse.
     
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  14. IT'S NOT A TUUMAH.
     
  15. JouleTrader

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    Imho if I relapsed once every 22 weeks I would be chuffed to bits.
    22 weeks is pretty awesome.
    Congrats. (From a dad of 3)
     
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  16. Zhaank

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    Congratulations forma tour stamina.

    Keep it trying, all roads are different, and tour road is probable hard at the start.
     
  17. "masturbation is healthy in moderation" The thing is we (or i cant moderate). Sure it will start off once a week, then end once a day.

    You will end up masturbating every hour with ed and watching freaky videos.
     
  18. Arnuld

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    Ha!
     
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  19. Kyostaa

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    Hey everyone, thanks for all the support.

    In the last few days it's been peaceful. The urges are gone for now. Wife is staying at home and will be for the next week, so I need to use that as shield.

    The day before yesterday I woke up with an awesome libido. Today, not so much. I need to set some goals if I am to change my life style completely, but they all revolve around work and that wouldn't be healthy for me.

    I need a new hobby. It mustn't be running, though. I quit running for 6 months because of injuried foot. Started running last week again, foot started hurting, different from previous pain. I might as well give up running.

    Can't swim due to shoulder, can't bike due to knee. No wonder why I'm putting of on weight.
     

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