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Excited about getting married!

Discussion in 'Success Stories' started by Deleted Account, Dec 17, 2015.

  1. So, it's been a bit more than two weeks since I got married and I thought I share some of the things that happened. The wedding was really really great. Apart from a small distraction, it was awesome. My fiancé and I were happy, the guests were happy, everyone was in a good mood as far as I saw. We got a lot of love from our family, friends, and from our church. It was a priceless event, with full of love, joy, and laughing. We krpt it simple, kept it clean, and it turned out great. We got a lot of help from our church members. On top of that, what I found out that problems with porn are fairly well known in my church and the pastor said that I can come to talk to him anytime, should I'd be struggling with temptation, and that's really good to know. Anyway, the wedding was great.

    The honeymoon was equally great. The weather was really nice, even though its January. We rented a small apartment in a small village, and spent 6 days there. We went hiking, ate delicious food at restaurants (which we usually don't do) saw a castle and such. We got sunshine and snow as well, it was beautiful.

    Now, I know what you are really curious about, the sex. Well, it didn't happen yet. There are a few factors in this, and I thought that I share them with you, should you get in a similar situation. @A.ARN , you listen? :)
    First of all, my wife is a virgin. She really took the save yourself for marriage thing seriously. This has some benefits, but some disadvantages as well. What I mean is that she is unfamiliar with her body when it comes to sexuality, and everything is new for her. And new not always means pleasant from the get go. Her body needs warming up, to learn what feels good and what feels not so good. This takes time. On top of that, she is pretty closed down there. You know that stuff that girls have while they are virgins. I don't know the english term for that. Well, hers is pretty thick. We tried to have sex, but it really hurt her, so I decided that I postpone to have sex.

    Second thing, is that we are using a natural birth control method, and that means we can only have sex without artifical birth-control on certain days. Now the date of the wedding and the honeymoon was really unlucky in this regard, as we got married on the very last day of her safe period, just before her period starts. This means that by the end of her period it takes 1,5 more week to be safe to have sex without a condom. I thought that I want our first union to be without condom, so that's another reason we decided to wait for a bit.

    Now something did happen, but I don't want to trigger anyone. It felt really good, somewhat familiar, but also different. What is good that I didn't want to masturbate or want to watch porn after my first release.

    And now I'm approaching my one year no porn anniversary. Ain't that great?

    So, these are things that happened. I think nofap really worths it, even if it takes a lot of time. I still have problems because I inadvertly "learned" what to do with a girl from porn and it doesn't work at all. I have to forget everything, and re-learn what to do and I'd be much better off without my porn experiences.

    Also, and obviously, this is because of my christianity, but I think waiting with sex until marriage is a worthwhile idea. I'm closer to my wife than I had been to any of my exes, even if I was together with them longer. I have no doubts that this is because of waiting. Sure, it's hard, and there are struggles, but I think it still worths it. If you're not religious, fine, don't do it, but you can try to wait with sex for a few months and not have sex on the first occasion available. I know that's normal, I did that before my conversion, but it's really not the best that you can do. You can try to wait for nothing else, but for curiuosity's sake. It will be a new experience, and who knows? Maybe you'll like it.

    Thanks again for your support guys, I really appreciate it.

    That's a good idea, but I have an even better one. Don't relapse. :) Then, you don't have to tell anything. Much simpler. On a more serious note, I take this to heart. Now I feel strong and resilient against porn, but I'm aware that may not always be the case. I will be alert, thanks.
     
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  2. A.ARN

    A.ARN Fapstronaut

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    Thank you @EarthDragon for your reply I was just curious to make sure that having sex after rebooting makes you as you have never watched p before or not, concerning having sex before marriege I am muslim so it is supposed not to have sex at all before marriege.
    Anyway wish you happiness in you mariege, and by the way I relapsed yesterday after more than 40 days of abstaining, and opened nofap to find your post, which is very supportive to hit another reboot period again.
     
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  3. adam1992

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    Congratulations brother! I hope everything goes well with you!
     
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