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You are exactly the same as porn addicts and have exactly the same problem. Novelty is key to understand your behavior. At some point you want something 'newer', 'bigger', 'crazier' to feel the same and you use sex as a product. Everything will become boring. By the way I am still sure that sex with beloved one is incomparable better than sex with experienced, skilled one (I think about the girl addicted to sex, who cannot stop and tried everything). The emotional factor is crucial for sex and I know the same level of pleasure cannot be reached neitber by porn nor escort girls. Sorry.

 

Wow. I never had thought that you could become desensitized to prostitutes... Wow... I don't know what advice to give.

 

Make the decision if you want to continue seeing the escorts/prostitutes or not. Has it done you any Good? Are you enjoying it? Is it worth it? Would you rather be with them or have an actual relationship or stay single?
I'm way over my escort thing. I just, well thanks to this site I've finally gotten out. I wouldn't use them much maybe once ever month or several months. I had used 2 in a day before. But just been alot of regrets afterwards and how ashamed I feel about what I did. The other day I was just thinking about what is she thinking as I or you do what you do with her. Is she just wanting to make a dollar. Is it just an act? If you are ready to leave is she relieved your leaving and doesn't want you to stay? Put the pieces together and make the decision.

 

I would use them, that was a typo

 

Think also of the financial impact. This must be costing you a fortune.

 

Sex without strings, without connection, with someone who is doing it simply to pleasure you, rather than to connect with you, or even to receive pleasure themselves - is that different from using an elaborate sex toy? Using prostitutes is gratifying at a base level, but it is simply an empty orgasm spent on a fantasy. It strengthens the pleasure parts of your brain to only get sexual satisfaction from prostitutes in more and more fantastical positions.

NoFap is all about slowly removing ingrained sexual fantasies from our minds to free us up for simpler, more intimate and meaningful connections with people. You can do it and, in time, you will find that the more basic stuff will become more satisfying and desirable than you could have ever imagined.

 

You are not addicted to it.. if you want to stop it , it will not be hard as much as porn.. you have to join company of right people only.. bro.. porn is much more easily accessible then a prostitutes... There is a long time between urges... And finding a prostitute....

write down why you started abstaining from it.. why you re here in this NoFap fourm.... Its just because prostitution love is somewhere not pleasing your heart... your heart wants to stop it because it knows.. that you re taking yourself too far.. behind pleasures.. and in near future.. you will not be able to tolerate pain... which is must to achieve something really big.. something which you can achieve by sacrificing little bit of pleasure..

craving for girls will remain with you till the time you are capable of doing something big.. and once.. you grew old... and got bore with this prostitution stuffs... you will not be having any potential left with in yourself, which could make your old age.. peaceful...stop running behind prostitutes.. life is much bigger.. than that.. family ,love , friendship....
You can't even imagine preciousness of things which you are sacrificing for.. these girl... you enjoyed a phase.. had a great fun with prostitute... now.. find something else...enjoy each and every thing .....
Once you find your real love..(need not to be a person) .You aim.. these.. girls gonna kill themselves fantacizing about you...Don't be addicted.... be addictive...
Make your self pure... And fine.. as much as real red wine.... you feel craving for girls.. just remind yourself why are you doing this... That's all

 

How do you know that he's not addicted? And that it's not as hard as giving up porn?

 

Great post @landeni, you know your own mind well. One thing I'd add is that sex within a relationship doesn't have to be boring at all - no-one is ruling out kinky stuff in the long run.

 

Be careful! There are police posting as prostitutes. A friend's friend got arrested because of that. His life is wrecked. No job. No home. Lost custody of kids and wife. That's why I only go to legal massage businesses like Massage Envy

 

The hollywood movies are lying to you. You can explore sexual world with wife or regular partner better than with stranger girl who is not in this journey with you.

 

I agree!!!!

 

I wish I could learn this lesson and have more sex with my partner

 

Through experience.... People use their cellphone and till the time they realise what they are doing ...They use to find them self Wacked of thrice... Over porno... But when you call a prostitute... You know very well that you re calling her.. you meet her... And then performing sex... There is more time gap... To convenience yourself and bring your self back on track...

 

@aarav_ - look at post 10 in this thread, and the negative impact it is having on the original posters life. Do you think that he is addicted? So you have used prostitutes as well?

 

Guys, similar issue here - but with a twist. In my job, I travel to SE Asis 4x per year, for the last 5 years. The first few years, I never even thought about getting an escort, but this year has been a disaster.

And unlike in the US or UK, there's very little chance that you'll be caught or blackmailed. You can sit on your laptop, looking at ladies at the agency (with full lists of what they will and won't do), use the little IM chat box on the website, and 90 minutes later, you have a smoking hot girl at your door - it is literally a real-life porno. 3 hours, under $200 and it's an absolute blast. Your hotel will even escort her up.

I have great wife and family, but this is like a shot of heroin (or what I imagine heroin must be like), and will likely have the same outcome. I have no doubt that at some point I will come home with some STD, pass it on, and marriage OVER. Even with all of that, with another trip coming up next month, I can't wait to get there. The girls are awesome, too - no sad sack hardships, just fun 22 year olds willing to do whatever you ask them to.

At this point, I would never consider hiring an escort in the US - too much risk. Over in Asia, though, the risk largely goes away, and you feel like master of the world.

I'm philosophical about all of this though - I know what I'm doing, I know what the cost will be, and I hope SOMETHING comes along to break me of this before the worst. Even picturing the anguished face of my wife - utter destruction - isn't enough to stop it. I guess that's the definition of addiction, right?

Ed

 

Well, maybe professionals can do anything you want, all your fantasies, hellicopters and whatever more, but do they probably won't give you love, affection. You probably won't have a real connection, as you would with a human being you relate to, that you share much more than just sexual pleasure with. Yes, professionals may be better skilled and better prepared, but in the end is just a commercial transaction. It's a whole other thing when you're with someone you really like, that you have a connection with, someone that wants to be there and share that moment with you as much as you do, it goes beyond physical pleasure, and I don't think you will ever get that by paying someone to have sex with you...
You shouldn't expect women you meet to be better then prostitutes in the physical part of sex, but expect to find something more than just that.

 

The same fall in pleasure with the hike in the frequence happens in my case of masturbation addiction.