Ever Think about Someone Other than SO?

It’s Day 43 & I’m not feeling the urge as much but my mind goes all over the place.

Working on fantasizing less & more on my SO, but now I’ve been thinking about this guy in my class a lot since I see him more often than my SO.

If you’ve ever had a crush on anyone other than SO, what do you do?
And to like stop it
I’m really not trying to invite judgment; I just want to do the right thing, but sometimes it’s so hard.

 

Thank you guys; I really really appreciate it. Taking your advice/words.

 

Thanks dude. I swear, your words and everyone else’s is so obvious, but when you’re in a situation, it seems so wise.

 

Day 46

Quality time made it better.

 

Weigh how committed you are to the person you are dating; is six months serious for you or not? What characteristics of the person you’re dating now will the other person you think about not have?

The grass always looks greener on the other side.

It’s okay to occasionally think about others, but how do you think of them? ...

The previous replies in this thread are pretty good

 

Day 49

Swell...and I got to the point where I don’t want to throw myself down a hole thinking about the other guy anymore, even though the thought still comes up.

I even deleted my Instagram & Twitter, just to prevent myself from trying to look at profiles.

Concentrating my emergy on myself, my relationship, and my commitment to no pmo.

 

Day 53 - ummmmm

• Camped this weekend! With my church group & I got tp spend a lot of time w my SO, not like physically intimate, but very loving stuff & working together. Said I love a lot more than usual so I'm pretty happy about that
• Urges/thoughts bout sex when I'm around him have decreased & I consider that a good thing. I can think more clearly now.
• Once in a while, I fantasize but it's maybe once pr twice a day for a very short time

 

Day 56 - doing swell

• Other guy & I have small interactions here and there, but it’s not occupying my mind that much; yay. Not overthinking it.
• Fantasized for like 5 minutes before I fell asleep again in the morning (my mind tends to drift when my brain is tired)
• Been pretty productive & socialized for a few hours with a couple friends today

 

Day 60 - hiccuped, but okayish

• Started my morning off rocky cuz my bf hadn’t texted me since he was busy & I started coming up with stupid scenarios of us not working out
• (this happens more often when I pms & there’s really not much truth to these scenarios at all)
• But that lead me to fantasizing bout that other person again, maybe 15 min
• Soon as I got up + outta bed, it was all great from there. Good day, saw my bf, & we were cool, loving.

Day 60...2 months... I’m happy w myself. Yeah I still fantasize, but dude... dude does it feel good not to feel like I have to succumb to my urges. It feels good not to have pmo on my mind 24/7. This is the beginning of LIVING. Stay strong friends!

 

Day 63 - A DREAM! It’s been a while...

• As I went on with my morning, I remembered that I dreamt that I MO’ed. Like in my dream, I barely went down there for seconds & then MO.
• In my dream, I felt sorta defeated immediately...LIKE OH NO, my 60 days is gone like that & I wasn’t even conscious.
• Fantasizing up to maybe 10 min, but not longer thank goodness

Pre period makin me lil more crazy???

 

Day 66 - BLISS

I’m so happy dude.

• Today & yesterday I worked & that means go go go. Great to keep myself moving, like actually moving.
• Bf visited me at work yesterday.
• He came over today & we had dinner, ran a quick errand, & ate ice cream for sista’s birthday.
• All this was in a public space. Why is that important? Because usually I long for more. More alone time, more “intimate” time, more of that sexual stuff. But this weekend, I just really got to enjoy being around each other, conversing, joking, little love touches here and there. That’s what it’s about, not just S on my mind 24/7.
• Btw, I got my period so thank goodness. Craziness over.

Looking forward to hitting the 70s the coming week. Let’s go!!!

 

• Day 67 - Bonding
• Another day bonding, publicly during volunteering at church & we got maybe half an hour alone at home (‘: - nothing crazy just kissing & cuddling
• No thoughts whatsoever today either; WHOO!

 

Lmao that’d def work. Telling myself/yourself the other person is taken or that they’re just not as good as your SO & you really wouldn’t end up liking being with them long term

About a little over 3 weeks letter since that post, I’m doing better with loving my man more and thinking about the other dude a lot less