Equating myself

Hey there.

Sorry you are suffering so badly at the moment.

You are quite honestly better than them. You are a real person, not some cooked-up, hyper erotisied fantasy. Indulging in such a fantasy will end up damaging a person. Connecting with a real person completes a person.

'He' is ill, sick, damaged, twisted. And that is NOT your fault.

Remember how unique and truly beautiful you are. If someone is too blind to see it... That's their fault. And their problem.

Sending you best wishes.

 

Hi @naonaise,

First, know that NO ONE is good enough for an addict without recovery because it is impossible to satiate the insatiable. All those girls in porn that are fake and "perfect", well, they generally have like 2 year careers at most and then it's on the next ones.

Also, if your partner is not in recovery, than know that they are in hell. They are living in a prison of the mind. It is destroying their soul.

Finally, and this is what's really what matters:


If you have ever been told by your partner that you're not good enough or not sexy enough or anything that cuts into your self-esteem or worth as a person, that is verbal and emotional abuse. That requires its own amends beyond quitting porn.

I am so sorry that you are feeling this pain. Your worth is not defined by the fantasies of an insatiable addict. Your worth is you. It is your birthright. *Hugs* to you.

Peace,
-Quinn