Ending a long downward spiral

having been introduced to internet porn many years ago by an office mate in the states at the time of the first browser,
I started surfing several years later, usually after a long day of work at the computer, finding PMO very relaxing.
The frequency was once or twice a week, and I managed to hide this completely.
Many years later, PMO had its part in destroying my marriage as I withdrew and lost sexual interest in my wife ending up in a purely platonic relationship. My wife hated it but let me get away with it
until this ended up with a divorce.

Six years ago, I met the love of my live and did not watch any porn for more than 8 months. Our love life was wonderful, but then with stress at work, I had the occasional glimpse when I was surfing for other things on the web.
My partner caught me while I was looking at porn and this threw her into a crises she has still not overcome. We went to sex counseling together, but the psychologist said to me that it would be normal to do this from time to time, dispersing my worries.

Then my pornsite visits became more frequent again and - although I run marathons and am super fit - I cannot hold an erection to even get my partner mildly excited. She also feels like a sex object at times and is suffering tremendously. Apart from my pre-porn sexual adventures almost all my genuine sexual fantasies have been zapped from my brain and I find myself thinking of porn images that I saw on the web, while having sex with my partner. Also the tip of my penis does hardly send me any sensations anymore. It's all become visual arousal.

So it is her or PMO now, and seeing some talks on TED on the subject i am shocked that I did not act any earlier, screwing up so much of my life and relationships, apart from all the wasted precious hours.
THIS WILL CHANGE TODAY. No more porn in any form.

So happy and curious to become part of this community. I admire the courage and integrity you showed in setting this up.
All the best in kicking this habit for good!
And Thank You!