Empty and Anxious

Hey guys, Well there is first time of everything right?
I am actually felt good somehow when I saw this thread about Loneliness and I read a couple of topics which made me feel like an ok mood? maybe because I am not the only one who is alone or feeling like and there is such more people their who are alone also or feel like.
I have Social anxiety since..4ever I don't know if it's because I was hooked up on Porn and masturbating when I was 12 years old? or because I really see that "most" of our societies and mainstreams lost their humanity side? they step over each other, don't care about other than themselves, they judge you for how you look or what you dress...ect

is there anyone see or feel like that also?

 

I agree with you but I don't know most of people, I talk like about the people you see in the streets, when you sit down in a cafe .. ect ect.

 

I know what you saying; in fact for years I thought myself as a sick person and I actually believed it until last year, I tried to be social active but "most" of the time I keep getting the feelings that says "God..am I sitting with mourns? or am really the one who is not normal", it's really rare when I found someone who I feel with "that's actually fun".
Thank you for your replay =)

 

Yea I hate talking about things without any intellectual benefits all the time, I mean sure we can talk about pets or what soever, but all the time?! It's hard on me. When I went out with a group of guys all they literary talk about : girls & movies & songs & the life of famous people (actors actress ect) = that's it, I tried once to engage in the conversation and succeeded they even told me smth like I should talk more with them about these stuff but in the inside I felt really bad and stupid.
I am glade you feel me

 

I get what you're saying, they may call me boring, weird, not normal it's like am really sick or smth.. dunno.
Glade you shared with me, Thank you.

 

Who are you to judge people on the fact that they are judging you.

The more you get to know people the more you'll realise that they are weaker than you.

Ride the wave and assume your Weaknesses instead.



"they step over each other, don't care about other than themselves, they judge you for how you look or what you dress"

"don't care about other than themselves"

you're no better, you don't care about what they think/do or enjoy, you care about what they think of YOU



The more you socialise and be honest with yourself and people the less anxious you will be.

I used to be real open and not shy, then I stayed inside my room for about a year, not going out much, When I came back out to work and start living I had became so anxious that barely walking past someone in the street would tense my muscles.

"Am I walking in a weird? We're passing each other, do I make eye contact or do I actively ignore them?"

"Im talking to a girl, if my face became red right now that would suck ... *face turns red* ... "omg he's becoming all red thats so cute *gets even more red*" it came to a point where my face would turn red in every situation where I thought it would be inconvenient if it did.

I was being my only enemy, facing my own judgment.

Eventually socialising just got rid of all that.

One day my brother told me that some girl laughed at how I walked "he walks so fast and his head looks down (im very lunatic) and he walks weird"

You just need to either be yourself and embrace it or change, changing isn't easy though and doesn't feel natural.

Being honest is nice, don't be scared of the ridicule.

"You walk strange lol" "Yeah im 21 and idk how to walk yet smh, would you dare teach me :^)" just laugh with the person

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If you think being weird is a bad thing then off course you'll be anxious and thinking "what if they find me weird" you are your own enemy in this case, you need to change.

 

So when you see judgmental people then you are judgmental?
how about when you see an judgmental person; does this mean also you are judgmental?
When I talk about society going wild about some sort of things, this means am judgmental?
If that so I love to be judgemental than blind and say everything is ok.
I get what you want to say about the weirdness as I said before when I sat with a group "God..am I sitting with mourns? or am really the one who is not normal" (previous replay) but that doesn't mean I feel like this with all the people as I stated before it's rare to find someone or group you feel ok with them.

 

ah, of-course no and no one shall be perfect, again what I mean when I talk about "most" of the people I See or deal with they judge people on their appearances only, I swear on of (was) my best friend when we got separated due to everyone lived in different side of the country, I got the chance to see him when I went to his university I swear again he said once that he is ashamed of being with me because My clothes arn't famously branded like Nike so I can't walk with him in-front of his friends cuz they laugh and make jokes. you may think it's overrated or it's rare situation but actually it's very wide here in the some places where I live in on of them.
secondly when I do say my point of view about society (or even about the world) it's still a point of view, even if am judgmental or not, my words are still words; I mean if I said I don't like the color white and my friend does so what will happen? nothing.

I am waiting fro the video btw .. thx =)

 

Thank you so much man I appreciate it ✊

 

Makes a lot of sense. Thank you for your help
I will try to get social more when my anxiety bar come down a lil bit.