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Edging during sex..???

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by Deleted Account, Jun 22, 2017.

  1. So my SO decided to do a 90 day hard mode for himself but still have sex w me and I finish almost all of the time. I feel this is quite difficult for him because he is essentially "edging" while satisfying me. He will stop if it gets too intense and our sessions last a long time. He says his daily urges aren't out of control possibly bc we are doing this nightly. Is this bad for his recovery? Will it prevent him from recovering?
     
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  2. sparkywantsnoPMO

    sparkywantsnoPMO NoFap Moderator & Yeoman

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    Outside of the science and philosophy of this process, from a practical standpoint, I would think this is going to start causing him blue balls. There's a good chance that'll happen anyways, but this might intensify it.

    That being said, you are theoretically an innocent party in this. It should not feel like an obligation to suffer for your SOs addiction. If he's serious about it, he'll no doubt be grateful for whatever support you are willing to give, howver addicts are prone to taking a victim status. Some parts of this we have to suffer through to become well.
     
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  3. This would be very interesting to know. I´ve asked myself the same question over and over. Does having sex help me or hinder me? From what I`ve found is that edging to porn is far more destructive than just having an orgasm very quick. Maybe this works in reverse if you are having real sex. But I really dont think so. Keeping dopamine levels this high for extended periods of time only sets you up for stronger urges in the future (also known as the chaser effect).
    Not having sex with my girlfriend is out of question, but I always try to orgasm as quickly as possible. But this is mainly because I suffered from DE in the beginning of our relationship, and after about 30 minutes it became very tiring and we both felt miserable afterwards.
     
  4. I understand where you are coming from as we would experience the same DE issue and it would get boring. From what I have been reading about this today what I am explaining is a form of tantric sex. It makes the experience w my SO awesome. We have longer sessions wo the pressure of him having to O. We will just enjoy the sensation and feeling of each other. I usually massage him after so he doesn't get sore. He hasn't gotten sore yet and says his urges the next day are manageable. Therefore if he is getting a chaser effect (don't think he has) then it is to experience pleasure with me again. Which has been every night for the past 10 days and we have NEVER been intimate more than two days in a row then several days before being intimate again. Don't know if this helps or would work for everyone but so far it has been good for us. I just don't want it to somehow hinder his recovery.
     
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  5. Gooding

    Gooding Fapstronaut

    I always believed edging by the SO (without P thoughts) isn't unhealthy like edging by self with P.
    I also think edging without eventual Orgasm isn't healthy

    I want to practice prolonged erections and have been reading about edging/kegels yesterday - which lead to a relapse :)
     
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    EyesWideOpen Fapstronaut

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  7. CowardlyLion

    CowardlyLion Fapstronaut

    This is what I was going to suggest as well. Karezza is a GREAT way to be intimate during your reboot without causing any negatives effects, such as “The Chaser Effect” which can happen following an orgasm.
     

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