Doubts to be Cleared !

Discussion in 'Rebooting - Porn Addiction Recovery' started by NIKHIL_123, Sep 16, 2018.

  1. NIKHIL_123

    NIKHIL_123 Fapstronaut

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    Will being active in Nofap help me to overcome PMO addiction ? . I am ready to do anything just to quit this addiction . I have faced a lot for the past 2 years due to this addiction . I am really fed up . So help me guys ..let me fight this out.. started a new reboot life one hour ago .
     
  2. GuitarAfficionado

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    Hey there. I think the key is balance: don't think about NoFap 24/7 but also don' forget you're in it.

    I strongly recommend you read this. It's a "hacked" version of Allen Carr's famous book on quitting smoking, just adapted to PMO. It helped me tremendously. The methods are great and so is the overall idea of the book. Read it and you won't regret it.

    https://sites.google.com/site/hackbookeasypeasy/home/preface

    There's also a download link to the pdf version, if you go on the right side menu and click on "07-01 Download".

    Hope this helps you like it did for me.
     
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  3. NIKHIL_123

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    I want some good motivation words from you .it would be more personal and more effective for me
     
  4. MasterRoshi

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    My experience is there’s no “magic-pill” solution. Meaning going on nofap everyday for me won’t keep me sober. But doing a variety of things daily including visiting this forum has seemed to work. But everyone is different so it’s hard to tell.

    I do lots of stuff daily and it they seem to help me stay sober. I’ve been PMOing for 22 years. I’ve been trying to stop for about 10 of those with the last 4 years getting really dark and sad. Leading to suicidal thoughts and me engaging in porn genres that are really taboo and dark.

    I’ve now been sober for 5 months and it’s a freaking miracle! I never thought this was possible. It took a lot of hard work so far.

    I always have to remember that with PMO addiction everyone is different because our body chemestry is different.

    But for me doing a lot of daily practices with a variety of changes to my life has helped me relieve the cravings.
     
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  5. Freiheit

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    Great! I stopped smoking and drinking with Carr - i wished he had written a book about pmo - but a hack is perfect
     
  6. NIKHIL_123

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    I understand something and all ..and I am happy that you are now progressing.. All the best Brother..
     
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  7. GuitarAfficionado

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    But I still insist that you start reading that book.

    I found out that PMO isn't the main problem. PMO really is just a symptom.

    Our insecurities and failures to deal with real life led us to seek this "escape". So the solution is to fix the root issue. Overtime, our emotions that trigger PMOing (anger, sadness, frustration, loneliness, boredom, etc.) start to get interpreted in our brain as a kind of 'mental sexual arousal'.

    The main problem is that we brainwash ourselves into believing that PMO is pleasurable and it's our way to relax, when in reality it's just the opposite. Think about this: try to answer what you gain by doing PMO. If you come up with something positive, please post it here.

    So I would say to you that you need to fix your life. Find something you love, be it your carreer or a hobby. Be it riding motorcycles, building model cars or exercising in the gym. Build DISCIPLINE, push yourself further step by step. You'll then see that you ARE incredible and CAN achieve so much more than what you previously thought.

    Be the change!
     
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  8. NIKHIL_123

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    Hello brother ... I want to share somethings with you...I had been a PMO addict for the past 2 years . Due to my addiction you know what and all and how and all it affects us in our behaviour aspect . Due to my addiction I had done so many blunders in the past.. so many decisions I had taken under the effect of this porn. Some decisions which I had taken and some of my actions are still making me sad and I am getting affected due to this..I didn't do anything intentionaly ..I was constantly worried ABT my addiction and in between rhest and all happened.. I am still suffering a lot..due to this..and which is making me sad and triggering me..just help me out to how to face this situation ..
     
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  9. GuitarAfficionado

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    Well, I don't know what happened. But if I were you, I would apologize to people that got hurt in the middle of it all.

    If you lost opportunities (work, social, family, etc) work to create new ones. Life's short, you gotta own those mistakes and leave then behind so you can move on!
     
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  10. primaljade

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    I think it depends. I see a ton of misinformation in these forums, particularly a lot of pseudoscience, which I think can lead people wasting time, energy, or do more harm than good.

    If you can filter that out, I think it can provide some social support. It doesn't replace real-life connections, but a good step in the right direction. There's some folks that can tell you what does/doesn't work, so it's good to learn different experiences.
     
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