Dont ever give up!

Discussion in 'Porn Addiction' started by muntasira, Mar 2, 2014.

  1. muntasira

    muntasira Fapstronaut

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    All of us have a deep fear inside of us and that is the fear of relapsing. It is the most scary thing we can imagine,especially if a person has been abstaining for wks, months or even years. What we do not realize is that by abstaining from PMO for those number of days, even if we relapse we have actually changed a lot about our brain chemistry, and we are not the same as before when we started abstaining!. I remember very well in 2012, I decided on my 18th birthday that I will never fall back into this cycle. I did some exercises outside with my friends on daily basis.I was always with my friends studying or making stories and rarely alone just to keep myself busy, and sometimes I even resorted to extreme means like fasting and consuming less food and drinks just to keep my libido at all time low. After all this effort I relapsed having been clean for 75 days. This made me frustrated and mad at myself.I started engaging in more PMO online with laptop or my phone and even the situation got worse for months to follow.... The biggest mistake I made at that time which I want to share with everybody was not relapsing but giving up! If I had quickly pulled myself together after the first relapse and started recovery immediately, still it would not have been too late to complete the journey to freedom. But that rarely happens because we think we need to start from day 1 again! which is the mentality we need to change in order to break free.MY advice to everybody including myself is to always remember failure is not relapsing, failure is to give up!
     
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  2. Clive

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    I already almost wanted to give up after 5 days, especially after a lot of edging, but I haven't gone to relapse yet.

    The fact that you gone 75 days is so impressive, I cant even imagine, but I can definitely imagine the feeling when you relapsed, the same feeling we all hate and feel frustrated by. But its okay, keep it up Ellema and we'll be here for you and won't let you give up.
     
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  4. muntasira

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    Thanks bro we should not allow this lust to dominate our lives
     
  5. AnythingIsPossible

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    You're on a diet, you lose 20 lbs, you give in to your urges and you eat a burger, do you put all the weight back on?
     
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  6. theoptimist

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    Thank you very much, i really liked what you posted
     
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  8. Summer Son

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    You are truly right! Thanks for this post, you are abstaining for a while, and BAM! RELAPSE! This cycle is definitely diacouraging. The thread created in 2014 and I was thinking about that year how could I quit porn and changing my life. This, cycle, depressions, disgusting, boring and scary.
     
  9. Love it! Thanks muntasira.

    Similar to my post about getting back on the wall right away while climbing with belay. Don’t go back down n start over. Get back on the wall where you came off and keep going.

    Honest reveal here brothers. Had a very rough time last four days. Saturday night saw temptation coming like a freight train but wasn’t able to get out of the way. Watched and chatted online about disgusting stuff that would turn the stomach of any normal minded person.

    I feel awful about giving in. But not going to quit fighting. Getting back on track by heading to the climbing wall at the gym before work and getting back to the things that helped me have victory earlier.

    Also the encouragement I receive at this website is a big help.

    Keep posting your encouragements everyone!
     

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