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Don't Count the Days, Make the Days Count

Discussion in 'Self Improvement' started by BigDawg913, May 3, 2018.

  1. My name is Stan. My previous journal was Creating a better life :). I'll leave the link to it here: https://www.nofap.com/forum/index.php?threads/creating-a-better-life.145872/

    On November 23, 2017 (Thanksgiving Day), driving back to my trailer in rural Oklahoma from my hometown of Kansas City, I decided to stop drinking. The last day I had a drink prior to that was on the 21st. I finished off half a pint of Jim Beam sitting on my dresser before I hit the road to head to my childhood home. I may have stopped in Wichita along the way for a drink, but I can't recall at this point. The last drink I ever had was at a Mexican restaurant I went to that night with my sister. I had one Boulevard Pale Ale. Not quite what I would consider a heavy day of drinking for me, but the two years prior to that day led me to a place of spiritual bankruptcy.

    What I remember most about that days was Thanksgiving dinner. It was probably somewhere between 2:00 and 4:00 in the afternoon. The sun was shining through the windows that had open blinds; my family conversing with one another, all with warm smiles on their faces. And I was completely numb. Here it was, the one time of year besides Christmas when I was supposed to feel a sense of joy and happiness. And yet I had never felt more empty and alone in my entire life. I can't put an exact timestamp on the moment--maybe it was when I was driving through Louisburg, KS--but somwhere along that long ride home, a switch flipped in my head. I knew I had to turn my life around, and no one was going to be able to do it except for me.

    Fast forward 163 days, I have in fact created a better life for myself. I'm living in Fort Worth, TX with my best friend. For the first time in as long as I can remember, I'm excited for the future. Alcohol no longer has any control over my life. Along the way, I also decided to stop watching porn and masturbating. I've fallen off that particular wagon a few times over the past five and half months, and I know there may be times in the future I fall short again. But today I understand something didn't initially when I started my NoFap journey. NoFap isn't a 90 day challenge. It's a lifestyle.

    I've conquered alcoholism. Porn and masturbation no longer have control over me. Now it's time to move go after new challenges. I'm not sure exactly how I'm going to use this new thread, but I do know it will be much different than my previous journal. In 6 years, I will be 29 years old, and in that time I will be documenting my rise to the top on this thread. Because when I am the King of my Rome, everyone is going to be able to look back and see me putting in the work, day in day out, night in night out, seven days a week, three hundred sixty-five days a year.

    Schedule
    6:30 - Pee, big bottle of water, 100 pushups.
    6:40 - Meditate
    7:05 - Breakfast, Da Vinci book
    8:00 - Charisma on Command
    8:30 - Bank of Texas
    9:00 - Barbersville
    9:45 - Rinse off
    10:30 - Muay Thai
    12:00 - BJJ
    1:00 - Leave, start Ben Shapiro show
    1:15 - Cold shower
    1:30 - Meal to-go, Ben Shapiro Show
    1:50 - Bookselling 101
    4:00 - Work; sports news; Dave Ramsey show
    9:30 - Apartment
    10:00 - N's
    12:00 - White Sox @ Royals (finish game)
     
    Last edited: May 4, 2018
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  2. Having a bit of trouble getting going this morning (6:43am), so I figured I'll do a 5 minute journal entry.

    What excuses am I not going to indulge in right now?
    1. I'm tired.
    2. I didn't get enough sleep.
    3. I'll can catch up with my morning tasks later.

    I am grateful for...
    1. NoFap
    2. A roof over my head.
    3. A shower that cleans me.

    What would make today great?
    1. Following the schedule I set for myself to move closer to my goals.
    2. Doing something that scares me.
    3. Living consciously.

    Daily affirmations...
    1. I am strong and powerful!
    2. I am fulfilling my potential!
    3. I love myself!
     
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  3. Dear M,

    Well, it's been quite a while since I last saw you. How've you been? I know the last time you saw me I was when I wasn't very pleasant, and the last time we talked was when I was practically at my worst.

    You know, a few years ago, in the gap years between our high school relationship and our late college fling, my team had a end of the semester meeting before we went off to winter break. It was my freshman year, so that's been almost four and half years ago. The details of the meeting don't matter, but what does matter is the moment I was singled out in that meeting. Our assistant coach told me to stand up, and went on to praise me as the greatest role model on the team. He uttered something that I'll never forget the rest of my life. He told the team that I was "catching up" and that almost none of them were going to be around to see my success. At the time I think he was referring to my wrestling career. Little did he know that his words would prophesy what was to come in the years after my college career.

    You told me to turn my life around, and honey that's what I'm doing. A little over a month after we last talked, I decided to stop drinking. I know you didn't know it back when we were hooking up, but I was suffering pretty bad from PIED. The regret I have in the time I spent with you is how empty I felt when we were having sex. I was completely bankrupt of happiness, and it sucks that you had to see me at the worst time in my life, and I completely let you down as a friend and someone I care about deeply. You were the only one there for me all those years when I was a boy. It just sucks that you're not going to be around to see the man I am becoming.

    Tonight I faced a pretty big giant in my life. I overcame my fear of sex and went over to another girl's apartment. The details don't matter (I completely crashed and burned to say the least). But that's not the point. The point is, just like coach said years before, I am catching up. And I'm making up ground a lot quicker than most people in my life can see. I don't know what you're doing tonight. I know you're probably with him right now, and that's okay with me. I'm just sad that you're not going to be around to see me become to King.

    I love you M. I hope we can meet again soon.

    -Stan

    P.S. I'm losing my harmlessness. Stan has a little baby tooth that just poked through.

    Schedule

    6:30 - Big glass of water, 5 Minute journal, 100 pushups, cold shower for 1 minute.
    6:50 - Meditate
    7:10 - Coffee, Oatmeal w/ banana & blueberries, eggs, peanut butter; chapter of Models OUTSIDE
    7:50 - Leave for work
    8:00 - Bookselling 101
    9:00 - Work
    3:45 - Royals, prepare to leave
    5:15 - Leave for practice
    7:45 - Cold shower
    8:00 - Drive, Da Vinci chapter, Ben Shapiro, Cowherd, Review Baby Step 1
    11:30 - Oklahoma, check in, meet friends
     
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  4. 3 Amazing things that happened today...
    1. I faced my fear of sex.
    2. I'm really making a connection with T
    3. I at least got up for a little bit this morning.
    What could I have done better today?
    1. I really need to wrap my head around the fact that hooking up with random bitches on Bumble and Tinder isn't going to solve all my problems.
    2. I really need to get to bed much earlier than I have been.
    3. I have really got to start being consistent with my finances and business.
     
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  5. "If someone calls fat, they might be bullying you, but maybe you're fucking fat. If someone says your dumb, it may be mean but maybe you're fucking dumb." -David Goggins
     
  6. The only thing that the world gives a fuck about is results.

    Schedule
    6:00am - Run
    9:00 - Breakfast
    10:30 - Visit with John
    11:00 - Family/graduation stuff
     
  7. 3 Amazing things that happened today...
    1. I completed my first 7pm to 2am hustle.
    2. Today was an absolutely beautiful day in both Oklahoma and Texas.
    3. I have so much more of a fulfilled feeling at this moment.
    What could I have done better?
    1. I was only working roughly 6 of those 7 'hustle' hours--I need to learn how to pace myself in order to get more out of this time.
    2. I need to get up at a consistent time.
    3. I need to stop thinking so much about what my mom and dad think of me.
    Schedule for tomorrow
    7:00am - Chug a big glass of water, take pills
    7:05 - 5 Minute journal
    7:10 - Quick run outside
    7:20 - Meditate
    7:45 - Cold shower
    8:00 - Breakfast, prepare meals, CU videos
    8:30 - Arrive at office, prepare deposit
    9:00 - Wells Fargo (listen to Sam Harris 'Belief' podcast)
    9:30 - Bank of Texas
    10:00 - Start knocking out work (use time wisely)
    2:00pm - Possibly watch Royals game, new CoC video
    5:30 - Practice
    7:45 - Possibly sneak in workout
    9:00 - Cold shower
    9:15 - BJ's
    11:00 - Bookselling 101
    2:00am - Wind down, journal, bed
     
  8. 9:00am - Chug water, 5 minute journal, meditate
    9:30 - Bank of Texas
    10:15 - Charisma U, Da Vinci book, Job search Models
    12:00pm - Royals
    4:30 - Weights
    5:30 - Practice
    7:45 - Cold shower
    8:00 - Bookselling
    3:00am - Wind down, Bed
     
  9. 3 Amazing things that happened today...
    1. I had the opportunity to wrestle with a UFC fighter today.
    2. I pushed through my initial fatigue and worked 5 hours on my business.
    3. I had a day off from work, which gave me an opportunity to watch the Royals play.
    What could I have done better today?
    1. I should've spent time today looking for a different job so I can leave my current one.
    2. I need to start becoming more competent in jiu jitsu, instead of relying on my prior wrestling skills.
    3. I need to be more consistent with my diet.
    Schedule
    7:00am - Chug water, 5 minute journal
    7:15 - Meditate
    7:45 - Breakfast, meal prep
    8:15 - Leave apartment
    8:30 - Open store
    4:00pm - Gym
    5:30 - Practice
    7:45 - Cold shower
    8:00 - Meal, time cushion
    9:00 - Bookselling
    3:00am - NoFap journaling, bed

    Side tasks: HireBronchos profile; watch Charisma U modules; listen to Da Vinci & Models audiobooks; listen to the Daily Wire & sports news on YouTube; watch Royals game
     
  10. I am grateful for...
    1. Eric Thomas
    2. Warm Texas weather
    3. The satisfaction of hard work
    What would make today great?
    1. Having a positive attitude at work.
    2. Choosing to be energetic.
    3. Choosing to be social.
    Daily affirmations...
    1. I am great at talking to people!
    2. I am great at talking to people!
    3. I am great at talking to people!
     
  11. I moved forward today by starting my budget.
     
  12. Today is the first day that I've begun to wonder if I just don't have "it" in life.
     
  13. Schedule
    7:00 - Wake up, meditate outside
    7:30 - Chug water, 5 minute journal
    7:45 - Breakfast, Charisma U
    8:30 - Bookselling
    9:15 - Leave
    9:30 - Practice
    1:30 - Cold Shower,
    1:45 - Meal
    2:15 - Clean room
    3:15 - Leave for work
    9:45 - Meal
    10:15 - Prepare for morning their tiny
    11:00 - Bed
     
  14. Schedule
    7:00 - Wake up, cold shower
    7:05 - 5 minute journal, chug cold water
    7:15 - Breakfast
    7:45 - Meditate
    8:10 - Reezy Resells videos
    9:00 - Goodwill
    5:30 - Practice
    7:45 - Cold shower, meal, playoff games
    11:00 - Bed
     
  15. Schedule
    7:00 - Wake up, chug water, cold shower
    7:10 - Breakfast, Daily Wire
    7:45 - Meditate outside
    8:05 - Leave for gym
    8:20 - Pushups, Abs, Squats, Deadlifts, Lunges
    9:30 - Brian Tracy
    10:30 - Practice
    1:30 - Run
    3:00 - Shower
    3:30 - Work
    9:45 - Sports
    11:00 - Bed, 5MJ
     


  16. There's a book called The Gulag Archipelago, written by a man named Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn. It's 1,900 pages long, and it's an account of his experiences as a concentration camp prisoner under Stalin's Soviet Union. When Solzhenitsyn returned home from the war, he was expecting his worst days to be behind him. Instead, upon his arrival, Stalin had determined that the returning soldiers had been intellectually contaminated by Western exposure, so he threw them all in concentration camps. The conditions were so bad that the prisoners literally ate clay inside the camp to fill satisfy their hunger. Reflecting on how his life had turned out so terribly, Solzhenitsyn decided to recall every event in his life in which he knew he did something wrong that could've led to the result of him being locked in a concentration camp. This is truly an admirable act of a man whom on a *seemingly* objective level could not have controlled the events that led to his suffering. He spent the next several years memorizing his entire account, as he had nowhere to write it down on, and over the course of time his story began to circle throughout the camps, and eventually became published in the West in 1975.

    I'm very hypocritical in my criticism of SJWs. I always contend that they should take ownership of their lives despite the circumstances surrounding their situations, and yet this does not reflect how I live my own life. I've been blaming my parents and my former religion for the past several years as being the source of my suffering. If a person such as Solzhenitsyn could take such admirable personal responsibility in the face of one of the most unjust circumstance in all of human history, who the hell am I to sit and dwell on my own problems?
     
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  17. I am grateful for...
    1. Living in a first world country.
    2. Having a great friend.
    3. Having a dad who just wants the best for me.
    What would make today great?
    1. Making a schedule and sticking to it.
    2. Doing something that I don't want to do but that I know will help me down the road.
    3. Taking ownership of my past and not blaming other influences.
    Daily affirmations...
    1. I love myself.
    2. I love myself.
    3. I love myself.
     
  18. Schedule

    12:30pm - Complete all work tasks first!
    ▪Sidework: Charisma U, Brian Tracy
    6:30 - BWW's or run
     
  19. Schedule for Tomorrow
    6:00am - Breakfast / Accelerated Learning
    6:30 - Meditate
    7:00 - Charisma U
    7:30 - Rich Dad, Poor Dad
    8:35 - Prepare for work
    9:00 - Work
    ▪Bank, Checklist, PCR's
    ▪Daily Wire, Relevant sports hosts, JBP
    5:30pm - Practice
    7:45 - Cold shower
    8:15 - Sports
    9:30 - BJ's
    12:00am - Bed
     

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