Does Rebooting Give You Initiative?

Discussion in 'Dating during a Reboot' started by muterabbit, Aug 9, 2019.

  1. muterabbit

    muterabbit Fapstronaut

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    I’m a shy guy, and when it comes to meeting anyone, I tend to be very passive. Rather than me walking up to people and starting conversations, it’s almost always the other way around. I lost my virginity because one of my lady coworkers made pretty much all the first moves. Nothing like that’s ever happened when I’ve rarely taken the initiative.

    I know men are generally expected to be the ones to get the ball rolling, and I’ve always wanted to be normal, to meet that expectation like a lot of guys seem to, but I’ve just never had a natural inclination towards that. Then again, I’ve been doing PMO ever since I entered puberty. Has anyone noticed that rebooting has given them the ability to approach ladies? I currently have no coworkers interested in me and no other options for the convenience of proximity.
     
  2. Until now, no. I don't feel different in that regard.

    But what I can say is I don't care as much as before.
     
  3. muterabbit

    muterabbit Fapstronaut

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    Do you mean you have less interest in approaching women, or that you’re less concerned about the outcomes of approaching women?
     
  4. I have less need to approach a woman. Maybe because I generally avoid women at the moment. I can't say for sure. Maybe my sexual instinct is just stabilizing. Or maybe it's just the infamous "flatline", could also be.

    My aim is to search for a girlfriend after the 90 days of "hardmode". But I can also imagine extending it to 180 days if I feel it's still too early or if I lack motivation. It also could be this is just my "normal state" and everything before was more or less imaginary. Time will tell me.

    Do I want the ability and the confidence to approach women? Absolutely!
     

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