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Does nofap makes you more loyal/faithful/trusting towards your gf/wife/partner ?

Discussion in 'Rebooting in a Relationship' started by dragonslayer, Oct 6, 2017.

  1. dragonslayer

    dragonslayer Fapstronaut

    This is one of the things that I have noticed as I am on nofap. I feel more loyal to my girlfriend. Before I used to think about alternatives. Like what are the other options that I have in term of relationship and I used to feel like I was not happy with my partner even though things were just fine between us.

    Also, since I used to hide it from her that I still watch porn, it made me feel like I was cheating on her somehow. (BTW, I had told her that I was addicted to porn but now had recovered which was true but I relapsed a few months back and didn't tell her yet.)
    It used to flash in my mind, how I would feel if she would cheat on me and it felt horrible.

    But since I have left watching porn, I value her a lot more. Before, I guess when watching porn, the girls that I used to watch may feel like alternatives to me. I am not saying that it was literally the case, but still, it affected the way I used to see women. I felt like I have endless options. I guess porn does change our opinion about women and men start to see them as mere sex objects and disposable.

    What is the opinion of other men/women on nofap regarding this? Do you think that watching porn affects our relationship with our real partner?
     
  2. LetItGo72

    LetItGo72 Fapstronaut

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    I completely relate to everything you've said!
     
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  3. I definitely haven't found that, but I was totally loyal anyway. I never had to keep my porn use secret from my wife, who is very liberal, and I never wanted to have sex with anyone but her. I only want to be able to perform better with her, because years of using had left my performance very weak. Just my two cents: great for you that it's helped you control your urges to infidelity.
     
  4. Porn absolutely kills all relationships between you and others.
     
  5. I think that porn can warp your views and how you view your girl. It can also effect your performance which in turn could make you think you are less satisfied....Causing you to think about options. Porn is not real sex. When you loose the intimate connection with your partner it can have all kinds of repercussions. I know with myself and my partner being pmo addicts it has messed up a lot of stuff for us. We have both discussed thinking of "other options" but this isn't really us. It's caused by porn and excessive masturbation! We are now working together to get back to where we once were. You should tell your girl you relapsed and be honest in this journey. She will probably appreciate your honesty if she was supportive when you first told her about your addiction. If we falter we just get back up n keep moving.
     
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  6. WreckTangle

    WreckTangle Fapstronaut

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    No PMO has definitely helped me become closer to my wife, and she has noticed the change. It's way more than just no porn though, a lot of other things I've learned from the NoFap community really help too. It has made us both more loyal to each other and more satisfied with our relationship in general.
     
  7. AllanTheCowboy

    AllanTheCowboy Fapstronaut

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    NoFap heals you so you can become the person your really are, and really were. Whether that's a faithful man or not, I can't tell you.
     

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