Does getting an erection to adults means I'm gay?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by MarkusmPointer, May 10, 2019.

  1. MarkusmPointer

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    When I was 6 or 7, I played with girls alot in preschool, then with 10 I started to watch penises on the internet and now I got an erection to adults with big muscles. Since I stopped watching porn on that and start to nofap, I started to get an erection when i see guys. I'm worried about that will be forever.
     
  2. Dr. Mario

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  3. Freddiefox

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    I doesn't necessarily mean you are gay. How far into recovery are you?
    Try not to worry when you are in recovery, focus on healing and then see where your mind is.
     
  4. MarkusmPointer

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    Before I relapsed, I felt better than before, I feel no erection looking at guys, but even if i try looking at guys, it makes me look away. The only thing that happens because I've been watching gay nsfw and when I fantasize about that again what porn made, I get an erection when I see guys again. If I stop fantasize, that will go away I hope.
     
  5. Freddiefox

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    Stay focused on healing brother and give it time.
     
  6. Anne-Dauphine

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    I'm asking this gently but have you considered being bisexual? Sexuality is very complex, and some people are aroused sexually by both genders but are romantically attracted only to one sex, in your case women. I know this because I myself am mostly homoromantic but completely bisexual. Again not trying to assume anything about you, just wondering if you might have considered this.
     
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  7. MarkusmPointer

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    Well I'm 19, I don't know yet.
     
  8. Anne-Dauphine

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    Good point, but maybe it's a sign : ) Sometimes your mind and your body think different, and you said it was since you're 10, so that's already 9 years if I read that correctly? But as you said only you can know. Just wanted to bring attention on something you might haven't considered because it is what I deal with kinda.
     
  9. MarkusmPointer

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    My Mom said that It could/is a phase. I heard that sexuality is fluid. And the other thing is, that my Parents and my sister are straight. Which is why I believe i could be straight too.
     
  10. Freddiefox

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    Remember, where you find yourself after your mind had a chance to heal and get to it's normal, it's ok.
     
  11. Anne-Dauphine

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    Oh that means honestly nothing, it's not a genetic trait. Everyone can be queer. But if you truly deeply feel that it's not your sexuality, but in actual fact you get sexually aroused by men, then I can't help you with that I'm afraid. And 9y is pretty long for a phase! But as Freddie says focus on healing and if it's truly a phase, then yes, your desire will increase for a while as you're avoiding PMO but then get back to normal. So keep going!
     
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  12. MarkusmPointer

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    My friend said that NoFap alot is not healthy. I read that Masturbating increases Sex drive or Pleasure. But I don't see anything good on masturbating. It made me worse again so which means I relapsed. NoFap avoids myself having Fantasies and that unconfortable feeling, and makes me awake. And makes me love myself. And improves my self esteem.
     
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    Have you consider that perhaps seeing someone muscular makes you a bit envious of them and might be something you desire for yourself? As something desirable like that makes you feel a bit excited about it. Just a thought.
     
  14. MarkusmPointer

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    Sort of.
     
  15. Cuauhtli

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    Maybe is an opportunity for you to work out if you are not doing it already.
    Is a great motivation to lift and grow some muscle and feel good about yourself

    It works for me!
     
  16. overclocked

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    It really sounds like you are gay. From what you've told I see no reason why porn should be responsible for your liking muscular men. To me it sounds like you are struggling to accept yourself. Nofap will not transform you into a straight version of yourself.
     
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  17. MarkusmPointer

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    Porn could harm everything, if you are straight and watch gay porn. This could happen to you.
     
  18. overclocked

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    Yeah, but you have never been straight.
     
  19. MarkusmPointer

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    Yeah because when you start watching dirty stuff with 10 could harm your brain if you keep looking at it, no matter what. I never liked men as a child before i started watching it. I know it's the problem with porn that just made myself. And the also thing is, I've been watching that nsfw again when I was 16, stopped watching it and started with nofap. And It made me feel better.
     
  20. Dr. Mario

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    Let's recap.
    • Your same sex attraction is unwanted.
    • "I'm worried about that will be forever."
    • This only started after porn usage.
    • Porn is proven to warp peoples' sexuality.
    • Avoiding masturbation and same sex attraction makes you feel better, and raises your self esteem.
    You are NOT gay, nor are you bisexual. One of the worst things you could possibly do is try "experimenting" with this while you're still vulnerable and unhealthy. Stay away from the porn, start having healthy heterosexual relationships, and you should find your sexuality revert back to normal.
     
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