Does anyone have trouble ejaculating during sex with a hard penis?

Discussion in 'Problematic Sexual Behavior' started by Environmental Specialist, Jul 28, 2019.

  1. Environmental Specialist

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    I have been able to motivate myself to be hard during intercourse with my partner, but I have not ejaculated yet. Being hard has been a result of either abstaining from masturbation or fantasizing abt my partner or due to taking sex-medicine. I was able to ejaculate fine during masturbation though. Does anyone has had the same difficulty and was able to overcome it? Any help would be appreciated as we are looking to conceive now.
     
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  2. Freddiefox

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    Masturbating desensitized your member. In some time away from taking things into your own hand, your sensitivity will return.
     
  3. Environmental Specialist

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    Thanks. Day 1 of the journey.
     
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  4. Unexist

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    Monk mode for at least 30 days, but 90 days would be better. After that stop watching P and stop M.
    Begin mindfullnes to stop fantasizing and learn to live in the present.
    A difficult path, maybe impossible without an iron will, but I think the results will be enormous.
     
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  5. wuuzap22

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    there is something called "death-grip syndrome" where your member will become desensitized through you applying to much pressure while masturbating. An amount of pressure that can´t be achieved by normal intercourse. Take a break and then start slow. Be gentle. Go quality over quantity.
     
  6. Environmental Specialist

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    Thanks. I don't think that I have been applying too much pressure while masturbating but yeah the sensation during masturbation is nothing like that of actual sex for sure. Hence, trying to erase the board and start afresh.
     
  7. Delayed ejaculation is the name of your problem.

    I had it.

    Well 1st I had erectile disfunction caused by porn. That needed like 1 year of work.

    Than I was able to penetrate a girl but I was not able to finish.

    So I had 200 days hard mode.

    Now I can penetrate and finish. But too fast.

    Thats good. Its like ppl are when they start to have sex at 16yo. Just im 36yo :)
     
  8. Environmental Specialist

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    Thanks. I am around the same age as you. I am hoping that hard mode will be able to allow me to finish. Even if I finish fast is ok, as we are looking to have children now. I can continue working on finishing appropriately later.
     
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  9. Hardmode it is than. Im not sure about the lenght tho, everyone is different and we have different starting points. But Id go at least 90 days if possible. Good luck. U will make it! I was lost cause, 20 years of hardcore fapping and almost zero real sexual experiences. Now I can make babies as well :) Before, I was so far from even getting inside a girl it was not nice. Even after 60 and 30 days hardmode it took me 1 month with a girl to even penetrate her briefly... and another 6 months with her to be reliable in it. If I did it, you will as well, no worries! Now after 200 days Im really like a young boy in terms of time I need to finish. But its much easier to go from here and work on endurance!
     
  10. Environmental Specialist

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    Appreciate your motivation and support. Hardmode it is going to be for me.
     
  11. ultrafabber

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    Desensitization because of masturbation and porn/sex fantasizing.

    Do not sexually fantasize when you're having sex to get an erection or ejaculate. This will mess you up, i know cause i used to do it all the time.

    Focus on sensations and if you have no sensations just stop it and try again later.
     
  12. DE begone

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    Good luck to any and all watching this thread. I'm just starting out again.
    Have had lifelong DE. Have always been open with my SO about it; with a mixed bag of attitude towards it. Mostly supportive. I've never been altogether honest about why I've got DE, except for my wife.
    I've got 3 beautiful and amazing kids, and I was able to have them only by bringing myself to the point of no return and then penetrating my wife. I have no further biological need to finish, but I do need it, for me and for my darling wife who I've supported through her shit, and she through mine. I want this for us.

    2 weeks in, feeling better already. Good luck legends, see you on the other side. To those who have gone before us, and to those who are still yet to join and discover themselves, all the best.
    Cheers
     
  13. Shy_1990

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    give it time dude. It will come good. The body is an amazing device in how it can reshape and repair itself. But it doesn't happen overnight.
    If its not happening don't force it. There are other ways to give your partner pleasure. Just enjoy the sensations for a while and don't stress about having the actual O. It will happen naturally when the body is ready.
     

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